I'd really appreciate to hear people's opinions on this.
When I was younger I dropped out of college and started working full time in retail. I became a manager at 17 whilst still living at home. I'd pay my mum £500 rent whilst only earning 18K because that's what she asked of me. Over time I became depressed as I worked a lot but didn't see much of my own money. My mum was quite strict so I wasn't allowed out past certain times and I'd often order food (I'm a big comfort eater!) because I'd feel so down. I was told to do my own food shopping and couldn't eat anything in the house. Because I was constantly working and so exhausted on my one day off, I'd hardly get round to doing a food shop and I'd order food more frequently.
My mum always had an issue that I'd order food for myself and not her and my sister too. Tbh I could barely afford the food I was ordering let alone anything extra for anyone else. I'm not sure if it's my mum being entitled or I'm being selfish but she still has an issue with this to this day.
For example, DD and I stayed over at my mum's house last night. For the whole day I haven't had anything to eat whilst my mum's been making food for herself and her partner (my younger sister was at school.) I've been feeling really down so ordered myself Mcds and got my sister a drink because that's all I could afford. My mum calls my sister to her bedroom door and asks who was at the front door. My sister replied Mcds.
My mum storms out her room and goes 'did you not get anything for me' I said 'no sorry I just ordered because I haven't eaten all day, I can't afford to offer for everyone.' She goes, 'see we've had this problem before with you ordering' and just storms off. Can I just point out, since being an adult everytime I'm at my mum's I'll ask everyone what they want. I always buy food for them if I buy for myself as I've grown older and got better with money. I just don't understand the attitude that she HAS to have something bought for her and getting in a mood because she's been left out. Mcds for myself is £6. Mcds for my mum, my sister and her partner who I clearly can't leave out, is touching £20.
I just wondered what people thought or if there were any rules in your house when it came to ordering? If your kids order food, do they have to order for every person in the house every single time? Am I genuinely being selfish here and not seeing it even though I don't have the money to always buy for people? Help me out pls!