Am I being a Bridezilla?

[ChaosIX]

I (35f) am getting married this year. My partner and I just want to be married, and to have fun with our friends and family. But my mother argued with me about so many things that she has now completely taken over the wedding, and we have let her. My mother is having whatever she wants and that's cool, she's happy, I'm happy.

However... its gotten to the point now that its like its almost not my wedding anymore.
There's been a few instances where I've let her have her way even though I wasn't happy. For example, she said if my bridesmaids came dress shopping with me then she wouldn't be going because she didn't want me listening to other people's opinions! So I basically had to choose between her and my bests friends. She won obviously.
But now its all kicked off because my mum has bought a jumpsuit for the wedding but she cant do it up or down herself.

So she told me I'd have to help her and be her toilet assistant all day... ON MY WEDDING DAY!

I said to her no, I dont want to have to be constantly being asked to accompany you to the toilet and to have to look for you when I go.

I said you can get a zipper aid and showd her but now shes thrown a fit about it, said shes sendng the outfit back because I'm being a bridezilla and selfish and ungrateful etc etc

But I'm actually shocked she actually expects me, the bride, to be on hand to her.

So am I being unreasonable to not want to spend MY wedding day being my mother's toilet assistant?

Info: the wedding is at the family farm, and the toilet block will be outside across the yard (which will potentially be muddy if it's raining)

You’re me 6 years ago. The planning of the wedding part is completely linked to the personal assistant thing. Don’t do what I did. I should have told my mother where to go years ago.

Yeah, fuck that shit, I'd be cancelling all of it & buggering off the Gretna Green

Your DM is the Bridezilla, not you, you are way too tolerant of her. It's YOUR wedding

Op, I think there's a bigger problem here, that you don't see. Your mum is very controlling. '...she won't go to the dress fittings with the bridesmaids because she doesn't want me listening to their opinion'. They have got to wear those dresses all day - I'd like to think they get a say in what they're wearing.
Has your mum always been like this? She's being the bridezilla with her demands. Who the heck wears a catsuit to their daughter's wedding??

Have you bought the dress yet? I'm concerned that there will be a major hissy fit if you don't go along with your mother's choice. Can't you just tell her you're happy to leave the planning of the celebration to her but your choice of dress has to be your own, and you're entitled to get opinions from your friends it you want to?

Just let her send the outfit back as she suggested. End of drama.

@ChaosIX

I don't want to organise the wedding. I've been happy to let her get on with it. Her organising the wedding and throwing the party she wants is not the issue!! I don't care about cakes and flowers and decorations and all that non sense! We want to get married, and have a few drinks and some laughs with friends and family. That's it! But I don't want to be running back and forth to the toilet with my mother every time she needs to go 🙄

Your 'few drinks and laughs' are going to cost you quite a lot of money if you're leaving it all to your mother

So paragraphs and paragraphs in AIBU of the OP's painting a picture of a self-centred deranged twat of a mother, and then she gets snippy with a poster for making a reasonable suggestion.

Riiiiiiight.

I think you have a Mobzilla on your hands there. Good luck.