Neighbours’ leaving-the-house ritual

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Next door neighbours have got primary age kids. Every time any family member leaves the house for school, work, activities or whatnot, the remaining members of the household enthusiastically gather in the doorway and perform this lengthy and noisy ritual as if they’re never going to see each other again. They jump up and down and shout BYE!! at the top of their voice, alternating with the person who is leaving, at increasing pitch and volume, for the entire time it takes the person to walk down the street and round the corner (about 30 houses).
The first few times I found it quite endearing, but after two years of being subjected to this several times a day, it’s beginning to really grate. It’s loud, frequent and in your face (long narrow echoey street of tall town houses).
AIB a grumpy old fart or do they sound a bit unhinged?

Dash outside each time they leave, channeling your Elf excitement - costume not compulsory!

Just to be clear, I’m not actually a thoughtless, oblivious monster. I thought it would be clear from my tone that I was being lighthearted.

My Mum does the waving until she can no longer see me too!

I love it although often have to tell her to say goodbye before I leave if it’s particularly bad weather! Otherwise I can still see her tiny figure at the end of the drive still waving until I’m out of site 💕

She never got to say goodbye to her Dad who died when she was in her 30’s, reading through some of the pp it’s possibly why she does this and I love her even more for it.

Two positives:

1. You get to make a bit of noise / irritating behaviour if you want to.

1. At least they’re not screaming at each other. Listening to neighbours’ arguments is horrible.

OP I cannot stop thinking about the last two family members left at home(it has kept me awake) if A and B are left at home then B leaves does A do extra whooping and cheering more loudly than usual so when B does the 30 house walk they can still see and hear A. Also OP this is when you could step in when A leaves the house you can shout where you going, ring your bell, shout bye and do your own Mexican wave. I think that would work for the last person leaving

I still get waved off when I go and visit my mom or my sister. As I drive round the last corner where I can be seen I open my car window and wave out of it.

As a child we were always summoned to wave visitors off. I like it as an idea.

Love this thread! We've just got the annoying neighbours whose older kids still live at home parking their cars (5) in front of mine so nowhere for visitors to park 🙄

Go to the door every time and as he pass through flesh your tits to him every time, wave and wink in silence.
Try a few times, I bet they will stop warning everyone that he is leaving haha
Let us know if it worked

CAKEONTHEFLOOR
Crying with laughter are they dogs lol

Omg thats very weird

@Havers

That would drive me crazy - it's not cute or endearing, it's anti-social.

🤣 you must be missing something if you think love is antisocial, fyi that’s how big loving families say goodbye to each other

@MangoLipstick

Oh no, I’m afraid we were those kids growing up we would all shuffle out of the house in the morning for the school bus down the road, waving and shouting to our mum until we couldn’t see her anymore. Every morning. My mum ( dad joins in now too) still stand at the gates waving us off till they can’t see us anymore, as we drive off after visiting (and we pip the horn for good measure too)

That’s perfectly normal and very lovely, it seems there’s many grumpy people on here and lots of them sadly go without

@Jewel52

Seriously, who cares how your neighbours deal with saying goodbye to each other, each to their own. If I had enough time on my hands to monitor the comings and goings of my neighbours i’d worry that my own life was eventless. Just let them be, what harm are they doing???

Isn't it obvious? Enthusiastic leave-taking on an occasional basis may be OK, but prolonged shouting several times a day every bloody day is too much. Apart from anything else, what about any neighbours who are on shift work, or who have small babies, or who are ill? I currently have a permanent headache and other aches and pains and generally feeling lousy, due to shingles, if my neighbours subjected me to this several times a day I'd become homicidal.

Oh dear! 😂

My neighbours do something similar, except it’s on their return home. He starts at the end of our terrace shouting “I’m nearly hooooome” then when she opens the door it’s like she’s welcoming a long list relative... even if he’s only been to the corner shop and back... then their dogs join in the cacophony barking and yelping for a good 5-10 minutes because their humans wind them up with woosagoidboyden on and on.

@TheMissingMango
Laughed so much!

@ginforever
😂😂😂😂😂

I come from a family of enthusiastic wavers, and bye shouters. DH's family say goodbye hundreds of times by the door before they'll leave, I've learned to sit on the stairs to wait it out. More like 2 houses than 30 except when 3yo DS is saying goodbye to someone he doesn't see often. DS also likes to shout "where are you going?" and "how are you?" at various neighbours, they all answer him so hopefully nobody is too offended. A couple of the bigger kids try to get in first now shouting when they see him. I know the immediate neighbours find it hilarious, so they aren't the OP.

Horn beeping is annoying though!

@TheMissingMango

Get a small bell and every time they do it, sit in the window and ring it until they're finished. Never discuss the bell with them.

I am sorry to say I once had a neighbour who used to bank her kitchen doors if my children made too much noise( in her opinion) .....well when she did, I would slam mine 3 times. Any chance you can do something similar but with waving goodbye?

You should just join in, gets some bells and some of those horrible wooden rattle things that used to be always used at football matches years ago. and shout BYeeee, have a nice day. They might get the message, that it can be quite annoying,, but suppose it's quite sweet what they do in a way.

I remember years ago, if I had any close family visit,and they got in their car to go home, I would stand on the pavement or road, and wave them off, not for a few seconds, but until I could hardly see their car, they probably never turned to see me standing there at all !!

Separation anxiety?

Those type of neighbours are oblivious to others - such as night shift workers, people with babies, ill or sick, it's all about them, put on a performance which everyone has to be subject to. Strange odd folk.

@ApolloandDaphne

Sounds bonkers but at least they all seem to like each other!

Or they don’t, and they are celebrating them leaving

My neighbour has issues with the doors when they leave. I hear it every night as, we’re in a terrace and my bedroom is close to the back door. She has to check the door is locked by lifting the handle up and down really quickly for 4 time.. and repeats this 4 times. I have counted so many times.. the pattern doesn’t change. Every bloody night at 10:30pm on the dot. I don’t know how they do it so noisily!