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Neighbours’ leaving-the-house ritual
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warmeduppizza · 24/02/2022 17:46

Next door neighbours have got primary age kids. Every time any family member leaves the house for school, work, activities or whatnot, the remaining members of the household enthusiastically gather in the doorway and perform this lengthy and noisy ritual as if they’re never going to see each other again. They jump up and down and shout BYE!! at the top of their voice, alternating with the person who is leaving, at increasing pitch and volume, for the entire time it takes the person to walk down the street and round the corner (about 30 houses).
The first few times I found it quite endearing, but after two years of being subjected to this several times a day, it’s beginning to really grate. It’s loud, frequent and in your face (long narrow echoey street of tall town houses).
AIB a grumpy old fart or do they sound a bit unhinged?

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Furries · 03/03/2022 02:27

Shameless placemark as the site is constantly glitching!

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2Gen · 02/03/2022 14:28

@Squirtledeez

You could be talking about me or a family like mine who has been to hell and back,
I understand it may be really annoying but please don't judge them, I do the same with my family because 4yrs ago as my kids left home to walk 1 block to catch the bus for school 2 of them were run down and killed by a drug affected driver, they were only 6 houses from home, So now when anyone I love leaves my home I alone or with my family go outside and do the long loud shouty goodbye from the front yard, I'm terrified of what may happen to them but I can't stop regular life so this is how I cope and just in case something does happen I want them to know they were loved,

Oh bless you, that's horrible @Squirtledeez, I'm so sorry and I don't blame you at all, it's very natural after a tragedy such as that. I'd do the very same myself.
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warmeduppizza · 02/03/2022 14:18

Goodness @Squirtledeez, how terrible! Flowers

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Squirtledeez · 02/03/2022 13:59

Thank you mamabear715 xx Flowers

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mamabear715 · 02/03/2022 13:42

Squirtledeez, I am SO sorry.
God Bless you.. xx

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Squirtledeez · 02/03/2022 13:26

You could be talking about me or a family like mine who has been to hell and back,
I understand it may be really annoying but please don't judge them, I do the same with my family because 4yrs ago as my kids left home to walk 1 block to catch the bus for school 2 of them were run down and killed by a drug affected driver, they were only 6 houses from home, So now when anyone I love leaves my home I alone or with my family go outside and do the long loud shouty goodbye from the front yard, I'm terrified of what may happen to them but I can't stop regular life so this is how I cope and just in case something does happen I want them to know they were loved,

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Footle · 27/02/2022 22:29

@SnozPoz , the 'did you miss me' dude was quite sweet in retrospect, but I was relieved to see the back of him. Nigel C, I hope you found someone who really does welcome you home.

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Amortentia · 27/02/2022 22:28

@Halfofyou

My next door neighbours teenage daughter used to slam the door and scream “fuck you!” repeatedly while she walked down the road to school each morning. Once she came charging back and screamed “Mummy, aren’t you going to fucking wave?!??”. Mummy dutifully did. She’s at university now and causing no end of anti-social behaviour on her many weekend visits back. So I think your neighbours sound endearing in comparison but I can also understand how it could drive you mad if you don’t have a neighbour like mine!

I think we share the same neighbours. Except the parents used to scream and slam the door at each other too. After nearly 20 years of this one has finally left. Now, the remaining adult sobs loudly and screams at anyone who visits or calls and the daughter has parties nearly every weekend. I’ll take a sickening, endearing family any day of the week over this. I’m counting the days until the divorce forces the sale of the house.
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Poppiesway1 · 27/02/2022 22:04

My neighbour has issues with the doors when they leave. I hear it every night as, we’re in a terrace and my bedroom is close to the back door. She has to check the door is locked by lifting the handle up and down really quickly for 4 time.. and repeats this 4 times. I have counted so many times.. the pattern doesn’t change. Every bloody night at 10:30pm on the dot. I don’t know how they do it so noisily!

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Katieeb24 · 27/02/2022 21:58

@ApolloandDaphne

Sounds bonkers but at least they all seem to like each other!

Or they don’t, and they are celebrating them leaving Grin
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User1isnotavailable · 26/02/2022 17:56

Those type of neighbours are oblivious to others - such as night shift workers, people with babies, ill or sick, it's all about them, put on a performance which everyone has to be subject to. Strange odd folk.

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User1isnotavailable · 26/02/2022 17:53

Separation anxiety?

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1forAll74 · 26/02/2022 15:42

You should just join in, gets some bells and some of those horrible wooden rattle things that used to be always used at football matches years ago. and shout BYeeee, have a nice day. They might get the message, that it can be quite annoying,, but suppose it's quite sweet what they do in a way.

I remember years ago, if I had any close family visit,and they got in their car to go home, I would stand on the pavement or road, and wave them off, not for a few seconds, but until I could hardly see their car, they probably never turned to see me standing there at all !!

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Queenbee77 · 26/02/2022 13:52

I am sorry to say I once had a neighbour who used to bank her kitchen doors if my children made too much noise( in her opinion) .....well when she did, I would slam mine 3 times. Any chance you can do something similar but with waving goodbye?

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user1478939671 · 26/02/2022 13:51

@TheMissingMango

Get a small bell and every time they do it, sit in the window and ring it until they're finished. Never discuss the bell with them.

Grin
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MRex · 26/02/2022 13:51

I come from a family of enthusiastic wavers, and bye shouters. DH's family say goodbye hundreds of times by the door before they'll leave, I've learned to sit on the stairs to wait it out. More like 2 houses than 30 except when 3yo DS is saying goodbye to someone he doesn't see often. DS also likes to shout "where are you going?" and "how are you?" at various neighbours, they all answer him so hopefully nobody is too offended. A couple of the bigger kids try to get in first now shouting when they see him. I know the immediate neighbours find it hilarious, so they aren't the OP.

Horn beeping is annoying though!

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Queenbee77 · 26/02/2022 13:44

@ginforever
😂😂😂😂😂

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Queenbee77 · 26/02/2022 13:42

@TheMissingMango
Laughed so much!

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Tomeeornottomee · 26/02/2022 13:11

My neighbours do something similar, except it’s on their return home. He starts at the end of our terrace shouting “I’m nearly hooooome” then when she opens the door it’s like she’s welcoming a long list relative... even if he’s only been to the corner shop and back... then their dogs join in the cacophony barking and yelping for a good 5-10 minutes because their humans wind them up with woosagoidboyden on and on.

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Surgarblossom · 26/02/2022 12:51

Oh dear! 😂

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Ceto · 26/02/2022 12:16

@Jewel52

Seriously, who cares how your neighbours deal with saying goodbye to each other, each to their own. If I had enough time on my hands to monitor the comings and goings of my neighbours i’d worry that my own life was eventless. Just let them be, what harm are they doing???

Isn't it obvious? Enthusiastic leave-taking on an occasional basis may be OK, but prolonged shouting several times a day every bloody day is too much. Apart from anything else, what about any neighbours who are on shift work, or who have small babies, or who are ill? I currently have a permanent headache and other aches and pains and generally feeling lousy, due to shingles, if my neighbours subjected me to this several times a day I'd become homicidal.
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Etak123 · 26/02/2022 12:12

@MangoLipstick

Oh no, I’m afraid we were those kids growing upBlush we would all shuffle out of the house in the morning for the school bus down the road, waving and shouting to our mum until we couldn’t see her anymore. Every morning. My mum ( dad joins in now too) still stand at the gates waving us off till they can’t see us anymore, as we drive off after visiting (and we pip the horn for good measure too)

That’s perfectly normal and very lovely, it seems there’s many grumpy people on here and lots of them sadly go without
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Etak123 · 26/02/2022 12:07

@Havers

That would drive me crazy - it's not cute or endearing, it's anti-social.

🤣 you must be missing something if you think love is antisocial, fyi that’s how big loving families say goodbye to each other
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velvet24 · 26/02/2022 11:53

Omg thats very weird

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Queenkarm · 26/02/2022 11:51

CAKEONTHEFLOOR
Crying with laughter are they dogs lolSmile

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