I am fully aware this is a first world problem but….Finally got dh to sit down and discuss annual leave / holiday bookings for this year - it’s no wonder he’s been reticent!! Turns out, other than a week at Easter and a week in the summer (both uk cottage hols) he has used ALL holiday left over (till 2023!) to book to go to do his sport (not cycling…I know that’s the usual so thought I’d clarify early!). He said ‘sorry, you can’t book that week abroad you wanted to in the summer’, I said ‘well, I can still take kids away abroad, I’ll just go less far as I don’t want to drive solo too long’. Before he had a chance to say it’s not ok I left the room. Just because he’s prioritising himself why should I and, actually particularly, the kids miss out?! The four of us are perfectly capable of going without him, however it makes me really sad that he doesn’t see what he’s missing. I just find it amazing that he will inevitably tell me I’m unreasonable for going without him when he’s made his choice. Gah, I’m sure some will say I’m being spoilt - why doesn’t he want to spend time with us🤷🏼♀️