Women have that control too, but due to biology they get a chance to fix their mistake but men don’t. I don’t think that’s fair when at the very least, the woman’s choice has a big effect on the mans finances for the next 18 years.
It's not all the woman's choice that led to the pregnancy to start with though, yes the woman has the extra option, but without giving men the opportunity to force abortion or walk away from their mistake without concequences at all, there is no way to level the playing field and neither of those options are without concequences to other people, which seems to be fine as long as it's not the man facing them. Women do not walk away without concequences, they are the ones to have the abortion or the child, those are to the concequences that come with biology, it is a joint act that leads to the pregnancy, but you're advocating that the man not have any input towards his mistake should he choose not to. If he doesn't want to be a father then he needs to be active in preventing that. Although it's unpopular because many believe that men have an automatic right to sex, that the sex is undebatable and only what follows afterwards is up for debate.
Then let’s hold women to that standard and stop expecting taxpayers to pay for their abortions. Except, no one would agree that that’s reasonable, so I think it’s important that we try and level the playing field because equality is a thing that matters. It’s really not about trying to stop some poor men feeling hard done by.
Well if we're talking cost here, an abortion is far cheaper than raising a child for 18 years. So the cost of a woman having an abortion because she doesn't want a child is far less than a man getting to walk away and the state fund the concequences of his mistake.
And why are you only advocating women get charged for an abortion? Men should face 50% of that cost too, as they're the ones who provided the sperm.
Levelling the playing field involves someone else taking on the responsibility for a man's mistake solely if the man decides to walk away, it's not like they don't have the opportunity to not participate in sex, unless of course you believe that they shouldn't be expected to go without sex, or use the protection available to them because having sex in whatever way they want is more important than any concequences that may occur.
But don’t you see how this attitude could change if men were given the right to walk away from a pregnancy in it’s early stages the same way women can? If it’s known that men didn’t ‘opt out’ of a pregnancy, then the default is that they chose to be responsible for it. Society’s attitude would shift, because there could no longer be a belief that a woman tricked or coerced a man into having a child. It would not be considered acceptable for a man not to pay in the way it is now, because that man will have had the option to do something about it when he had the chance, and if he didn’t then he would automatically be considered responsible. There’s no reason why the CMS couldn’t be given more power to enforce payment, and I think there would be much more popular support for this if we could establish that all the men expected to pay it actively chose to have a child.
In short, no. Because we live in a society where men are encouraged, supported and expected to not take responsibility for themselves. In fact I think it would create more judgement towards women "You should have had an abortion when he signed those papers, not expected the tax payer to fund your child"
Abortion also isn't walking away from a pregnancy, it's ending it, no child is born. There is no child to walk away from for the man or the woman.
And there would still be those who insist men are tricked, they'd be claiming that the woman didn't tell him until it was too late, you will never get that to change because the belief that men are entitled to sex and that they are always the innocent victims in all this is so ingrained.
It's the reason why CMS is useless, it's the reason men are already sanctioned to walk away from their mistakes - the woman is always the one who was in the wrong and the man just a hapless victim.