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Partner refusing booster so can’t go on holiday?

106 replies

KerkyraBlue · 23/02/2022 14:02

My partner has been double jabbed but is refusing the booster for reasons I am not totally clear on…is very cross at Pfizer /Moderna, money makers, don’t want a heart attack etc.

We are supposed to be going to the Netherlands in April for a short break with our son. As far as I understand, Netherlands require UK visitors to be fully vaccinated including the booster. He won’t have it even if that means we can’t go away. I am blooming fuming. This trip has been arranged for ages and already been rearranged once.

I could go with my son anyway but I am still really annoyed at my other half for potentially ruining a holiday for some belief about Pfizer and Moderna that most of the population do not share.

Is it just me or would you be annoyed too?

OP posts:
sleepylittlebunnies · 23/02/2022 14:04

It is obviously his right but I would be annoyed too. Hopefully the rules might change, I would still be planning on going without him otherwise.

Brefugee · 23/02/2022 14:04

I'd be annoyed and using the time in NL away from him to reconsider the relationship.

GeneLovesJezebel · 23/02/2022 14:05

Perhaps he is using this as an excuse not to go.

Shoxfordian · 23/02/2022 14:07

I wouldn’t stay with someone so stupid

Chippingbird23 · 23/02/2022 14:08

@Brefugee

I'd be annoyed and using the time in NL away from him to reconsider the relationship.
And hopefully he will find someone who respects his body and his wishes on this medical matter 😊
Sharrowgirl · 23/02/2022 14:09

Go without him.

MissCalamity · 23/02/2022 14:10

Yes, I would be annoyed as well, hopefully the rules will change by then, however I would still be going!

Meandthesky · 23/02/2022 14:11

YANBU

Go without him. It’s his stupid choice but you don’t have to suffer the consequences

Sirzy · 23/02/2022 14:12

I would make it clear now that you and your son are going. Then he can decide if he wants to do what’s needed to join you or not

user1493494961 · 23/02/2022 14:12

Just go without him.

PAFMO · 23/02/2022 14:13

The rules are changing all the time and it might not be necessary to have a booster by then as long as your last dose wasn't too long ago, some countries are moving towards that now. So he might still be able to go.
I'd also have issues being with someone who believed conspiracy theories though.

Brefugee · 23/02/2022 14:13

And hopefully he will find someone who respects his body and his wishes on this medical matter

it must be so difficult to want to get all het up about nothing.

I didn't say anything about making him have a vaccination or anything. But i wouldn't be that keen on a relationship with someone who apparently can't understand simple statistics

Twizbe · 23/02/2022 14:14

I'd say fine and go without him.

His choice but these are the consequences of that choice.

Hugasauras · 23/02/2022 14:14

I'd be more worried he was getting sucked into weird anti-vax shit online if it's an unexpected change in attitude.

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/02/2022 14:15

I'd be super annoyed at his patheticness and would definitely go without him.

nearlyspringyay · 23/02/2022 14:16

His choice but I'd go without him. Sil and bil are refusing the booster for reasons I can't work out either.

YouHaveYourFathersBreasts · 23/02/2022 14:17

Go without him. He's made his choice but it shouldn’t stop you going about your life including going on holiday.

WutheringHeights66 · 23/02/2022 14:19

I’d go without him too. Actions have consequences.

girlmom21 · 23/02/2022 14:19

I'd change the holiday to somewhere that'll accept double-jabbed tourists or somewhere that'll accept negative tests in lieu of boosters.

Yeah it's a bit annoying but it's his choice, like it was your choice to get the jab.

Mulhollandmagoo · 23/02/2022 14:19

@sleepylittlebunnies

It is obviously his right but I would be annoyed too. Hopefully the rules might change, I would still be planning on going without him otherwise.
This is a really measured response, completely correct! It is up to him at the end of the day, but I wouldn't be cancelling the trip for you or your son
Jaxhog · 23/02/2022 14:23

@girlmom21

I'd change the holiday to somewhere that'll accept double-jabbed tourists or somewhere that'll accept negative tests in lieu of boosters.

Yeah it's a bit annoying but it's his choice, like it was your choice to get the jab.

Why should the Op compromise when her DH is an arse? He's made his choice!
doradoo · 23/02/2022 14:24

Are you sure he needs a booster?

As I understand from here www.government.nl/topics/coronavirus-covid-19/visiting-the-netherlands-from-abroad/requirements-for-proof-of-vaccination

You need to be fully jabbed (2) and less than 270 days from the second jab, you might need a test too.

Netherlands rules are all changing on 25th Feb, so don't write it off just yet.

girlmom21 · 23/02/2022 14:26

Why should the Op compromise when her DH is an arse? He's made his choice!

Because they're a couple and couples compromise.

If he'd refused to go because he'd seen their terrorist threat level was higher than he thought or because they had high covid cases and he was worried would he be an arse then?

He believes he's protecting himself by not getting the jab. That doesn't make him an arse.

FWIW I've had the booster so im not arguing his case because I agree with him - I don't.

Eightiesfan · 23/02/2022 14:30

@Sharrowgirl

Go without him.
This.

Carry on with your plans, once he realises he’ll be left at home he’ll have to make the decision one way or another. If he’s really dead set against it, rather than than fallen foul of some nonsense he’s read online you’ll need to respect his decision. But his choices should not have a negative impact on your or your son’s life.

irishfarmer · 23/02/2022 14:39

I'd be annoyed. I'd def go without him. If he has had the first 2 injections I really don't see why he is digging his heels in about the booster, but as others have said that's his choice.