To not find this appealing?

[Grantedunicorn]

DH talks in a way that I don’t particularly like a fair bit.
The comments he makes are crude to my mind - but I don’t know how others talk.
For example I tried on a new dress the other night and he did like a leery face and said ‘that’s a cum in your pants outfit. I’ll store that image in the wank bank.’
It’s this sort of thing - ALL THE TIME.
I don’t reciprocate. He knows it makes me uncomfortable.
Aibu to not like it?

Ew.

YAnBU

sorry to laugh but didn't realise people actually spoke like that in real life?! Sounds like the inbetweeners.
No YANBU, that would gross me out too! Has he always spoken like this?

My partner might say something like this (in an attempt to be funny 🙄) as a one off if I'd tried on sexy underwear in front of him.

But all the time? No. And not if I'd tried on a dress. He'd say "you look really lovely in that" or similar.

I don’t think I would have got to the marriage stage with somebody who spoke like that!

Yanbu. Tell him every time he does this, you're one step closer to separation and much less likely to want sex with him.

No, I wouldn’t like being spoken to like that!
“Gorgeous “ is what I’d have got!
You need to lay down some boundaries

Yuck!

Sorry to say it but I would really be put off someone like that if I was dating them, it would be the end of the relationship.

But as you used DH your not dating him and are actually married, so cant unfortunately just dump him has he always said things like that or is it a new thing?

Lol

Is he 15?

Eeewwww

That’s gross.
DH can sometimes be a bit leery. He thinks it’s flattering but not as bad as that. I’d have to say sometime, it would gross me out too much.

I am honestly not being goady, truly, but why did you marry a man like this? He is so crass and disgusting. I couldn't live with this kind of disrespect, not for a minute.

Maybe start leering at men and saying phwoa I'd shag that....

I was expecting to think you were being precious but actually this is fairly cringe so YANBU.

Ick!

I'd never wear the dress again, that's for sure!

YANBU.

He’s always been a bit this way, I think it’s got worse.
I feel like a piece of meat.

@Grantedunicorn

He’s always been a bit this way, I think it’s got worse. I feel like a piece of meat.

And you still married him

How long have you been together?

I’m really sorry he makes you feel like that.
Maybe he genuinely doesn’t realise, talk to him. Explain he makes you feel like a piece of meat and that it really upsets you. If he loves you he’ll try to bite his tongue in future, if not then that’s a different issue

Sounds like something Kevin or Perry would say.

Yeah that's really grim

Are you married to Jay from the Inbetweeners?

Why didn’t this put you off marrying him. It’s gross.

Welllll.. me and my oh both talk like this to each other so gonna put us both on the juvenile step BUT he also says really nice respectful things things. The wording if it doesn't make you feel respected maybe doesn't work for you but he's probably genuinely giving you compliments in his heart and mind and... Well somewhere else clearly ! Most men would love to hear this so I feel he possibly thinks he's giving a huge loving compliment. Alot of ladies don't get compliments so points for trying but if it ends up making you feel a certain way which is anything less then beautiful talk to him and let him know you love compliments but in a more respectful tone

It’s all just urgh.
He’ll be next to me in bed and will push himself against me and say ‘get your knickers off.’

Really OP?

He sounds uncouth, creepy and scummy.

How did you marry him.

That is not normal.

It's the type of creepy conversation from sex pest types.

If you don't have children, think about getting out.

Living with someone so rough that makes you feel like that is not healthy.

This is not normal.