3 year old saying Bog

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Got pulled aside by nursery last week to say DS was calling the toilet “the bog”. I know in the UK some words are more acceptable than in other parts but where we are “bog” is considered crude slang. So obviously I told nursery I didn’t know where he’d got that from as we don’t say it but I’d ensure he knows the word is toilet.
On Friday he spent the day with my parents and came home calling the toilet the bog again. I messaged my mum to ask if she knew where he was getting it from and she said she had been saying it to him as it was easier than toilet which he was struggling to say. I told her nursery wasn’t happy and I didn’t like it either so could she stop. She laughed and said I was being precious but agreed she would continue teaching “toilet”.

He was with my parents yesterday afternoon and whilst in the bath he pointed to the toilet and said “that’s a shithouse”. Now I know my father says this but I don’t believe he would tell DS to say this so I reckon my mum has told him that I was complaining about the bog word and my father has said something like “call it the shithouse then” as a joke and DS has overheard??

Anyway my aibu - I rely on my parents heavily for childcare which they insist on doing for free. Do I just let it go rather than causing a scene bringing it up again??

YABU - confront them about saying bad words in front of DS
YANBU - let it go, it’s not worth the fallout.

Does anyone remember the Purple Ronnie poem:

If your bottom burps in public
Try to say in time
Goodness gracious what a whiff!
It doesn't smell like mine!

Can't wait for the Mumsnet Lords and Ladies to decide what sort of prole Purple Ronnie must have been for using the term bottom burp.

Where I come from you go to the shithouse for a wet or a muck. Now that’s vulgar.

Sorry OP, this thread has made me laugh so much I need the bog.

[quote Innocenta]@Anonymous48 The NHS uses language intended to be accessible to most people. [/quote]
Yes, but fart? I would find it very strange to hear a medical professional talk about farting rather than flatulence or passing gas (terms which are surely also accessible to most if not all people).

@Anonymous thinking about it, I honestly don't think my DC would know what passing gas or flatulence was 🙈

@Anonymous48 I know, it can seem a bit weird, because they basically default to a standard-ish set of terms that feel slangy or even 'dumbed down' if it's not what you usually say. For example, saying 'tummy' to everyone rather than abdomen. But the intention behind it is good: they can't be expected to guess who knows which words, so it's easier, I think, to start with a hyper-accessible lexicon that they can then adjust if necessary. If you talk to a doctor using more precise terms (because it's what you normally say), they won't correct you or insist you use casual language. Some people really wouldn't know the other ways to say 'fart'!

(I have had doctors and nurses say 'passed gas / wind' to me, but in contexts where they were already caring for me and we'd adjusted to each others' language usage.)

[quote AllThingsServeTheBeam]@Anonymous thinking about it, I honestly don't think my DC would know what passing gas or flatulence was 🙈[/quote]
Really???

[quote Innocenta]@Anonymous48 I know, it can seem a bit weird, because they basically default to a standard-ish set of terms that feel slangy or even 'dumbed down' if it's not what you usually say. For example, saying 'tummy' to everyone rather than abdomen. But the intention behind it is good: they can't be expected to guess who knows which words, so it's easier, I think, to start with a hyper-accessible lexicon that they can then adjust if necessary. If you talk to a doctor using more precise terms (because it's what you normally say), they won't correct you or insist you use casual language. Some people really wouldn't know the other ways to say 'fart'![/quote]
"Some people really wouldn't know the other ways to say 'fart'!"

That's really hard to believe! But fair enough.

If he can't say 'toilet', teach him 'loo'. Nobody's going to object to that.

@Anonynous shock horror!!! Really! I have never ever needed to say either passing gas or flatulence Infront of my DC. I've just asked my 8 year old what do I mean when I say passing gas and he said 'the stuff we cook with at camping' so there you go! Madness eh!

@anonymous ffs sorry

You and the nursery are being precious with your bog objections.
The shithouse thing is really funny. Your parents sound great and very tolerant of your fussiness about the language they use whilst very helpfully caring for your child.
Obviously would discourage the child from further repetition to spare the abdabs at nursery and because that one is pretty crass.

[quote Migrainesbythedozen]@campion Loo sounds dirty and vulgar to me, I don't understand the UK obsession with the word. Why can't they use the proper term, which is toilet.[/quote]
Some posh people people think "toilet" is really rude and vulgar. My friend's Mum hated it and insisted on "loo" or "WC".

@KatyRebecca84

Oh dear lord! Bog is bad enough but shit house? Honestly. I’d be fuming! ‘Loo’ is bad enough but not rude and easier to say!

There is nothing wrong with loo and I will defend it till my dying breath.

@RallySooney

I'm intrigued that your child was struggling to say the word, toilet, but can manage to say, shithouse.

Me too. And so for that...I give 0/10.

Not troll hunting as that's not allowed....

💩🏠. Haha

I say bog or loo. If I'm feeling a bit posh I'll say toilet.

[quote AllThingsServeTheBeam]@Anonynous shock horror!!! Really! I have never ever needed to say either passing gas or flatulence Infront of my DC. I've just asked my 8 year old what do I mean when I say passing gas and he said 'the stuff we cook with at camping' so there you go! Madness eh![/quote]
That's funny!

I guess "passing gas" was just the phrase I always used with my kids, and what they would say in my presence, although of course they picked up the word fart soon enough!

I don't find bog or fart offensive as such I just wouldn't want to hear my young children say them as where I'm from they're a bit rude. We say loo or toilet, and pops instead of farts.

We call it the dunny in Australia. Give that a go, maybe?

@RallySooney

I'm intrigued that your child was struggling to say the word, toilet, but can manage to say, shithouse.

This is exactly what I was about to post.

The funniest thing about this thread is not the original OP - but the posters falling over themselves to agree on whether 'toilet', 'lavatory', 'loo' or 'bathroom' is the most refined , acceptable word. Or even worse - which word shows whether they are upper or middle class . Hilarious !

This is funny! Your child will learn all sorts of inappropriate words so it is best, I think, to just let him know not to use those words at nursery. He will soon get the hang of it. You can't go controlling what everyone says to him, just guide him into what is appropriate for him to say. Kids do get this.

This is a wind up right? Literally 😂😂😂😂😂😂

@Throughabushbackwards

We call it the dunny in Australia. Give that a go, maybe?

I always thought the dunny referred to the outhouse/building rather than the throne, but I guess you learn something new every day.

For those interested in the caca and shithouse combo, I give you the Afrikaans kakhuis (which is both the throne and the building!).

This is incredible. Sorry OP, know you’re stressed about it but it is funny.

DD always comes home from nursery saying “toilet” and I wince and passive aggressively say “Oh, you mean the loo?” because I’m terrible. “Bog” and “shithouse” would make me both cackle but also panic in case they stuck.

Mind you she’ll tell me if she doesn’t need a poo by saying “My bum is having a farty party” and somehow that doesn’t bother me.

Tell your parents not to say “shithouse” in front of small children. Tell your nursery “bog” is common but not actually a swear word. Tell your kid to use “loo”, go on, it’s miles better than “toilet” which makes me wince to even type. Encourage everyone you know to say “farty party” because it’s funny.