Estranged Daughter

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Daughter does not want anything to do with her Dad, long story, she is 27 years old. She has moved in with her boyfriend. Dad and I have been split for 10 years. Dad, my ex finally been trying to build some bridges with her but this is maybe a bit too late. He knew she was moving out but is really annoyed with me for not telling him actually when (a few weeks ago) and he was away anyway, we generally do not contact each other except when arranging contact with out youngest child. He is asking me for her address which she has asked me not to give to him. It is making me feel really uneasy, I have told him I cannot give him her address and have asked her to text it to him but he is adamant I should not keep it from him. What are your thoughts please?

I'd tell him he should have been a better father, maybe then his daughter wouldn't hate him. And tell him to do a better job of parenting with the younger one, then maybe he won't be a lonely old man later on.

DO NOT GIVE THE ADDRESS!! She’s old enough to make this decision, her dad sounds like a dick, and if you hand it over it will indicate that you think he’s right and she’s unreasonable. Plus she won’t trust you in the future. Have the courage to tell your ex that this is your DD’s decision and that he may not discuss it with you again.

@Heronwatcher you’ve not read the updates from the op have you?

My thoughts are that he is an entitled wanker who is trampling on both your & DD's boundaries.

Does that help ..? - because your OP reads like you know this really, but are so worn down by ex's demands that you maybe need some validation.

Here it is: - next time your impertinent ex tells you that you need to betray your daughter, tell him to FUCK RIGHT OFF because she doesn't want to hear from him.
Really.
He will bang on & on & on until you show him that you are not going to be bullied.

If he were not her father, I'd be advising you & DD to take stalker training. It is very worrying when a man refuses to hear a woman's "no".

@LoisLane66 good to know. Not an issue right now but for future reference

That's scary re IT side I generally if given the option don't consent to data sharing and probably naively thought at least with uk companies there's data protection laws

ChargingBuck - I like your reply 😂. Your right I am worn down and I won't be bullied x

@ChargingBuck

My thoughts are that he is an entitled wanker who is trampling on both your & DD's boundaries.

Does that help ..? - because your OP reads like you know this really, but are so worn down by ex's demands that you maybe need some validation.

Here it is: - next time your impertinent ex tells you that you need to betray your daughter, tell him to FUCK RIGHT OFF because she doesn't want to hear from him.
Really.
He will bang on & on & on until you show him that you are not going to be bullied.

If he were not her father, I'd be advising you & DD to take stalker training. It is very worrying when a man refuses to hear a woman's "no".

I like your reply 😂. Your right I am worn down and I won't be bullied x