Did anyone here have a really good upbringing?

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Lately I seem to hear constantly about the impact of childhood trauma and how it affects people going into adulthood, whether it be with their mental health, self esteem, addiction, relationships, attachment etc. I just wondered if those who had happy, healthy childhoods still suffer from these kinds of issues, or if they are relatively happy in life? Or is it a case of it doesn’t matter how you were raised, no one gets out unscathed?

(I'm not trying to be sarcastic by the way. If you can actually remember your brother's arrival then you would have had memory encoding capabilities well beyond the norm. The vast majority of adults have very few, if any memories from before age 3. Infantile amnesia is a pretty well documented feature of memory.)

I had a lovely, carefree childhood. It wasn't until my teens when DM started to 'detach' a bit from parenting. If it weren't for finances, I know that my DP's would have done more for me.

Technically I should be screwed, I was adopted as a baby from a home for unmarried mothers in 1960’s Ireland - a therapist’s dream. BUT I grew up with two parents who loved me very much and often told me how lucky they felt that they had me. We had very little money but lots of love which made me feel very secure and my parents adored each other. As an adult I felt that I deserved to be in a relationship with someone who treated me really well and my DH does. So many women feel they have to put up with appalling behaviour from their partners because they don’t deserve better, I find that so sad.

Wonderful childhood.

My parents had me very young, brought me up with zero money and living in a 1 room flat ( we slept in the kitchen)
They would buy my milk instead of their dinner, they then had my sibling 4 years later, dad progressed in his work and eventually owned his own business, my 3rd sibling was born 10 years later.

I always joke that she had a very different upbringing to me as by this time we had money, but it didnt make a blind bit of difference to our childhood happiness.

My mum and dad have never said "i love you" but we are a very loving family that work together every day, choose to go on holidays together and love each others company.

I have my own DCs, very happy in life.

I feel very blessed.

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I’d say I had a happy one that led to me being a well-rounded adult able to have positive relationships and achieve what I wanted. Nothing wildly unusual, but two loving parents, no abuse and a general background of always feeling loved. Enough money to eat healthily, live healthy and I was shielded from the financial wobbles. No holidays or big treats, but lots of family time. I have my own large family now and any periods of depression have been self-limiting and situationally appropriate/ not defining.

Sounds exactly like my childhood. Mum and Dad both played with us - even if Dad was just in from work he had time to come and play in the garden before going indoors (and he must have been so tired), and Mum cooked good plain meals. No money for treats but they managed to squeeze a little out of the budget for birthday and Christmas. Even when Mum went back to work they still both had time for us.

I remember that when it was cold and we were having our baths, mum would help with the bath while dad held our nighties up towards the fire so that we had warm nighties to put on.

That bedrock of absolute love has given me strength all my life.

I had a fantastic childhood. My parents wanted me to experience all kinds in life and they did brilliantly.
In my teens I went off the rails but that was on me, not them. In my twenties I reliezed I was being a little douche bag and now my relationship with my parents is really good again.
I owe them both a lot. Yes they argued at times and I had many augments with them but they gave up a lot for me and I'm very grateful.

I thank my lucky stars there was no social media when I was growing up as it could have changed things.