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I got poked fun at in the street and it's making me feel shit.

127 replies

Dky4 · 15/02/2022 22:49

I don't know what it was meant to signify but it was obviously negative and I can't stop wondering what I look like to be brayed at.
A couple in their 20's walking towards me on the pavement. Residential area in town. Man looks at me making a donkey eeyore noise, laughed. The girl shushed him and said 'dont'

What does it mean?

It's nothing I know but just wondering?

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SisterAgatha · 16/02/2022 00:25

Where I grew up it was almost a rite of passage to have a milkshake thrown at you from a bus or car. Happened all the time. It was a rough area with some very horrid people around. I was chatted up by one of my street abusers years later and oh my the belly laugh that came out of me when that happened was glorious. I howled!

The chump you encountered today will never know he is a chump either. The chump he was with might realise one day and leave him for a slightly better chump. But you, OP, are not the chump in this scenario x

Quantity5 · 16/02/2022 00:25

It means you feel sorry for his partner for having such low standards she thinks dating this prick is normal. You accept that when you are a reflective nice person that intrusions like this are uncomfortable but that’s because it reminds you of how cruel people can be, not because there is anything up with you. You

SisterAgatha · 16/02/2022 00:27

Guy in a small white van with his mate once leaned out the window and shouted ‘fat cunt’ at me. It still pops into my head every now and again.

Ah yes I’ve had that too and I punched his van at the lights. He shouted at me but backed down when I asked him why he was bullying women in the street.

I’ve also found a really loud laugh makes them slightly afraid of what you might do and stops them short because it’s unexpected, shows it hasn’t given the desired effect and shows how ridiculous they are.

Fatarseflanagan09 · 16/02/2022 00:28

Probably a misogynist with a small dick showing off because really he’s irrelevant, he wouldn’t do it to a man.

greasyshoes · 16/02/2022 00:32

@Fatarseflanagan09

he wouldn’t do it to a man.

Well that's rubbish, because I've had similar stuff happen to me in the street.

Sunshinelover2 · 16/02/2022 00:33

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lborgia · 16/02/2022 00:36

When I was very young, as in 14 onwards, I used to get comments from builders… usually along the lines of “cheer up love, it might never happen”, or if i was very lucky “I can put a smile on ya face love”… Hmm

I didn’t ever feel scared, but I did feel very very vulnerable. Those particular comments were probably because I was a very sombre looking child, especially if concentrating on walking alone, but was quite pretty at that point, so they felt they wanted to say something, but didn’t particularly want to insult me. Just make a note that they were there or something.

As pp said, it’s a power game for twats. It works, and it sucks. Try and let it go, but at least get your power from the fact that you know he’s always going to be a sad twat.

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/02/2022 00:38

It means that in ten years she will be on here saying "I wish I had seen the red flags sooner...."

NinaDefoe · 16/02/2022 00:57

A dare, a prank, an in-joke whatever the reason, he has a problem and it has nothing whatsoever to do with you.

Monopolyiscrap · 16/02/2022 00:59

Everyone is right.
But stupid men can do this and it means they lust after you.

Flowersandhearts · 16/02/2022 01:01

It means that he is a dickhead.

PrincessNutella · 16/02/2022 01:26

I'm glad I'm not his mother, because she raised an ass.

Topseyt · 16/02/2022 02:43

It means that he is an utter twat and not worthy of the time of day.

SuperSocks · 16/02/2022 03:01

I'm sorry OP. I don't know what it 'means', if anything. I've never heard of it as something people do? I guess as others have said it was a dare or an in-joke or something and you were a random recipient. It's not a nice feeling though. Many years ago I was just walking through town minding my own business and a young man in his late teens or early 20's, who seemed very hyper generally, turned and started as I passed him and exclaimed loudly to his mates 'Woah! Massive schnozzel!!' I have a big nose but not circus freak proportions! His mates had the grace to look embarrassed and hurried him on. It did stay with me though. People can be so odd. It's strange, but of all the mammals I think I understand my own species the least!!

GiantHaystacks2021 · 16/02/2022 03:09

He's a cunt.

And as for the female who is with him, more fool her for investing time in him.

I've had random stuff like that happen to me before, so have most women, but I never reacted in case I got a beating.

salsmum · 16/02/2022 03:17

I worked in a busy market years ago when I was 17. I really didn't have much self confidence but hid behind a sense of humour... one day one of the loudest stall holders ( a guy who bought and sold gold) was doing his magic tricks and had quite a crowd ( fancied himself as a magician) called me over and said in front the crowd 'I think I'll marry you... just to show everyone I have a sense of humour'. I was really Ty embarrassed and obviously blushed and walked away. I'm nearly 60 now and still remember those cruel words from a grown man.
This man seemed quite charismatic to joe public and could be charming I found out a couple of years later that he was imprisoned for molesting his girlfriends kids and was glad that his evil not so charming side was exposed and justice was served.
Karma is a patient lady and these idiots get their just desserts in the end PO I was just sad to hear he was exposed at the expense of innocent children. Angry

Arabellla · 16/02/2022 03:45

@PrincessNutella

I'm glad I'm not his mother, because she raised an ass.
Ah yes, blame the woman. What about his dad? Hmm
1forAll74 · 16/02/2022 04:02

Just a half wit, with low intelligence, and probably needs a smack in the face.

Jvg33 · 16/02/2022 04:03

He wanted to show off to the girl he was with by irritating others. I wouldn't bother thinking about it.

HW1989 · 16/02/2022 04:14

Yep, 100% just means he’s an immature idiot

Cocogreen · 16/02/2022 04:25

It means that this poor girl has a fuckhead boyfriend and she'll probably be posting on MN soon with a post titled " My boyfriend makes weird animal noises at random women in the street."
Sorry you felt upset though Cake.

BeckonCall · 16/02/2022 04:59

That would have rattled me too, OP!

I was walking down the road a year or so ago when a man coming towards me looked me up and down, head to toe then sneered and let off a stream of words in German. No idea what he said and I was just left stammering as he walked off. I didn't think I looked terrible or anything. But such a negative encounter with a stranger does throw you off a bit for the rest of the day..

LilacShimmer · 16/02/2022 06:05

Awful woman at school run, when we met alone, walking through school gate, looked me up and down and laughed.
Utter bitch.
It was summer, I was wearing green khaki linen, M&S under knee trousers ( can’t think how to describe them ) loose not tight fit, cropped trousers I guess, and a black t shirt.
It was hot, nothing tight or offensive.
She was the only offensive thing there.

People are rude, because they can be, and are psychopaths 😀 well she is .

Monty27 · 16/02/2022 06:09

💯 ass

OneOfTheGrundys · 16/02/2022 06:16

Yup. I’m a size 16 and a runner. Been openly laughed at while running by men in cars. Fat, that sort of thing. I do try to let it go because I’m half way through my 3rd 10k of the week and I think ‘we’ll bet they couldn’t do what I do’ but it’s hurtful.
He’s a dickhead op, she’s a fool.

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