What is your biggest regret in life?

[Teadrinker11]

At 26, I know I'm still at an age where I'm somewhat young enough to make good decisions to prevent more regret in the future, but I still do regret a lot. I've wasted so much money on things I didn't need, I neglected my health for so long, it's taken me to 26 to somewhat have my life together. I'm studying law and love it, but hate how I spent so much time after school messing around wasting my life. I didn't go to college straight after school like so many of my classmates did and I still pine over the years I lost, when people in their early 20s are having the time of their lives. What is your biggest regret?

Wasted too many years on my ex husband who held me back from so many experiences and deprived me of so much enjoyment that I should have had in my early twenties.

Not spending enough time with my dad. Now he’s gone.

No point in having regrets. You can't go back in time and thinking about them keeps you in the past rather than acting in the present for the good of your future.

Falling for the ‘natural birth is best’ rubbish, trusting the doctors and not absolutely insisting on a C-section. I still get upset today when I think of the trauma my baby must have gone through.

OP, you're not 'somewhat young' - you are young! You've more years ahead of you than behind, so stop regretting the 'lost' years (not so many...) and enjoy the now.

Marrying DH. He’s ok now but I don’t know why I picked him. I never felt the passion for him that I’d felt for other boyfriends.
I think at 28yrs old I thought time was running out. I now realise at 48yrs old I had years.
Only having 2 DC, would have liked more but DH wasn’t supportive and I brought them up mostly alone.
Not starting my current career sooner

Putting my whole self into work in my 20s and not prioritising socialising and friendships.

Having children

Cofifeefee

No point in having regrets. You can't go back in time and thinking about them keeps you in the past rather than acting in the present for the good of your future.

What a great way of putting it. I’m going to pin this up on my pinboard.

Staying married to exh for 21 years until I found he was cheating on me. I should have left 7 years earlier then I would have had so one fertile years left to have a baby with 2nd DH.

Selling my UK house. Agreeing to not have the planned c-section as "baby is right way up now, it will be fine" only to end up with induction and an EMCS 2 weeks later.

I cant say 'regret' as I don't think I would be where I was now without my past, but what I would say, is don't waste time on shitty people. Relationship wise and friendship wise.

I went out with shit men and I wish imy older set could tell my younger self to not compromise myself for a man.

TRIST YOUR INSTINCTS. ALWAYS.

Not staying overseas. I was homesick for England. What a dope.

TRUST them even haha.

Sleeping with most of the men I slept with in my 20s when my self esteem was terrible.

I should’ve had children sooner rather than wait until my (very) late 30s.

Wasting 12 years of my life in an abusive relationship.
Now out, but i doubt i'll meet anyone now at 58.

Also being a people pleaser most of my life, caring too much about what others thought of me, i really should've had more self belief and not given a toss.

'Regret' having such poor role models in my parents.. I bounced from one bad relationship to another.
Found a good one eventually at 42....

Getting married. A complete shackle.

Moved to Australia.
Too late now.

Not getting into the car immediately when my Dad phoned in the night to say that my Mum's condition had taken a turn for the worse. He told me not to drive through the night but by morning she had died and I never got to say goodbye.

No regrets at such - but I wish we had been able to buy a house

Moving in with my ex.

Still being alive.

Having joint finances with my ex.

In my late 30s I developed chronic autoimmune issues that have completely debilitated me. I wish that I hadn’t taken my earlier health for granted and basically wished I had gone out travelling / partying / living life at 1000mph. You never know when the ability to live without fear and pain will be taken away from you. It’s made me very resentful in my 40s.