How would you split the holiday?

[Mumstheword8]

So basically I have booked a holiday with my son (5), my dad and my dad's wife. We have got two rooms and also a free child place. How would you split the cost? Would you split per room so basically half the holiday each or per adult which is the holiday split into 3 as the child place was free?

In my day as a single parent going on holiday, the free child's place was based on two adults sharing the room. As I was the only adult, then I paid for my child as an adult, both at the hotel and the flight (once she was over 2 years old) and never got a free child's place.

Assuming this is still the case, then you should pay half the total cost.
Not to do so, means your dad and his wife are paying more for their holiday than if they booked for just themselves.

You could always ask the travel company to tell you what the price would be for your dad and wife if they had booked to go away on their own?

@Arabellla

They are trying to get a cheap holiday at your expense.

If you let this happen, you won’t enjoy that holiday and will resent it.

Make sure you get the FULL cost from the cheeky fuckers,

The opposite is true. A free child place is only available if booking with 2 adults. So if OP wanted to go just her and her child, she would have to have paid for 2 adults.

if I took my son away on my own it would of been more expensive for me so the holiday should just be split in half

But splitting it in half means you paying exactly what you'd have paid if you had gone alone with your son, but them paying much less than if they had gone as a couple - so that's not fair either.

I think you need to split the saving you make by going as a group between the 2 families.

Tell us the underlying costs, and we can understand better and suggest a way of phrasing it:

1. How much would you and DS have paid if it was only the 2 of you ?
2. How much would DF and his wife have paid if it was only the 2 of them?
3. How much is the total holiday for the 4 of you costing?

Will you have quite separate holiday when you are there or will you mainly do things together?

@Dutchesss

If it's a free child place then the child is free. Split between the 3 adults who will be eating, drinking and paying the air fare.

How much would the holiday have been if you had booked for 4 adults? Probably another 30% on top and you would have split it.

Your price breakdown on the confirmation should show up as per person.

There’s no such thing as a free child place for a single parent.

The fact that the OP has said she’s booked 2 rooms means that there is a single room supplement. The free child place goes with the room with 2 adults in.
So for 3 adults and 1 free child in 2 rooms you would pay more than them all in 1 room.

OP, you need to price up what it is costing extra for you being in a single room.

The fairest way would be to split the cost 3 ways.
However this is your Dad’s wife and not your Mum I presume so she may be not that fair?
What does your Dad say?

So if £1650 is half, is the total £3,300?

What was the price per adult? £1,100?

It is VERY simple.

This isn't about rooms. It's also about eating drinking etc.

If it was £1,100 per person, they pay £2,200 and you pay £1,100. That's it.

That's not you splitting it 3 ways. That's them giving you back the price per person they presumably knew about before, and agreed to pay you back when you went ahead and booked it.

Her idea is very wrong and she knows it. She's trying to load the child cost on to you.

Price per person was x. There are two of them. Simple.

She's also doing this retrospectively when she knows you're at their mercy as you've paid out.

Wow. The drama. I’d just pay half because it’s not realistic to work out the true cost of the child’s place and from what you’ve said half is less than the cost of two adults. So everyone is getting a cheaper holiday than if you went as two parties not one.

Pay per adult. The child place was free.

And the child is a grandson so if anything then you pay £1,100, she pays £825 and Dad pays £1,375 (which is his £1,100 and her £275 which is what this is all about - she feels she's subsidising the grandson's place out of her own pocket).

Or:

Her £825

You £1,100 plus £137.50 = £1,237.50
Dad also £1,237.50

That way, you and Dad are paying for your son.

I have sent a message to my dad explaining that I'm paying 2 adult prices in my £1600 and and if we can split it 3 ways instead as the booking was for per adult with a free child place. Sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth! But like people say, she must of know what she was doing when his wife told me I'd be paying more if it wasn't for them anyway!! I'll just have to see what happens now. Thank you everyone for all your different opinions and advice

Depends on your own family's finances. My dad would split it three ways so that he paid the bulk of the cost, but he can afford it and likes treating us because we struggle at times.
I feel like it would be fairest for you to pay a bit more than a third but a little less than half.

Tell him to leave the wife at home and you and your DDad pay for yourselves!

The way they are calculating it is making it cheaper for him to bring her! That makes no sense!

Stick to your guns on this one. It’s per person with one child free. You just need to pay for you.

Any chance you can go online and see how much it is for 3 adults? I wouldn’t be surprised if the cost per person is the same.

But they aren’t they now paying more because of supplementing the ‘free’ child’s place

Are you a single parent op?
If so your dad should be paying for your whole holiday, not using you to subside his holiday.
I have adult children as do all of my friends and we always pay for them and they pay for the odd meals/drinks. No we are not rich just ordinary people who know we have more money than our children as we have paid off our mortgage.
She sounds horrible and tight, one of those stepmothers who hates the thought of her stepchildren having any of their dads money.

@Mumstheword8 have you checked how much they would be paying if the two of them went on their own ? If that's the same as if you divide by 3 then great, but if they're paying more than they would otherwise you should have taken that into account.

You should get all the child discount, but they shouldn't be paying more than they would if traveling alone.

You are an immediate family group.
Your dad is having a lovely holiday with his DGC, as is your step mum.
Split three ways.

It’s all about the goodwill, not the money.

@Fairyliz why should parents pay for their adult DC holiday? What if their adult DC have much more money than them?

I think the problem is that if it was my dad and his wife going away with her daughter and child it would be a completely different story! But because its me I think she's trying to get one over on me. She wouldn't do this to her own daughter I can tell you that.

How much are you going to enjoy this holiday?

We always split shared holidays per adult, kids go free. Otherwise single parents get shafted!

I would always base it on what would have been paid by each family unit if not going together.

Eg if family one would have paid 2000 and family two 3000, but the combined price is 4000, I would say family one pays 1600 and family two pays £2400 as that way the group saving is split equally.

While these deals are "per person" the total price usually reflects the number of rooms needed - you might have found that a quote for four adults and the one child was not much higher than for 3 as it's only really the extra food.

@Arabellla oops I didn’t mean it to sound passive. I certainly would not be paying half and subsiding their holiday- cheeky fuckers asking when we can holiday together and then expecting their single mum daughter to take some of their costs for them.