To be so angry it’s eating me up inside

[Avelectra]

I was in a serious car crash last week. It wasn’t my fault, the other driver drove through a stop sign into the side of me at 60mph. I ended up trapped inside the car for over 3 hours and had to be cut out by firemen, but somehow only suffered a few broken bones and extensive bruising. I know I’m lucky to be alive, but it feels so unfair
I can’t go to the toilet without being in pain
I can’t blow my nose or sneeze without blood pouring out
I can’t wear my glasses as my face is so sore from the airbag
I can’t lie on either side as my sides are so sore from bruising, but I can’t lie on my back as I’ve got a huge bump on my head that hurts every time any pressure is put on it
I can’t put my own clothes on, DP has to do it for me
Everything just hurts and I feel like I never want to leave the house again, let alone ever get back in a car

The other driver was able to get himself out of his car, had no injuries and just went home after talking to the police. I’m so angry. It feels so unfair and cruel that he’s fine and I’m left like this. I know I shouldn’t let it eat me up but it is and I don’t know how to get over it

@Avelectra Dangerous driving would be difficult to prove on a road with no CCTV or witnesses - yes he ran through a junction but that may have been as a result of a momentary lapse of concentration rather than his driving up to that point specifically being dangerous if you see what I mean, so this might be why a dangerous driving charge doesn’t meet the threshold.

He may equally have been using his mobile phone immediately prior to the collision- do you know if this was checked? It’s not always possible to establish if they were or not but I would want to know whether it was considered and whether his phone was ever looked at.

If it was a momentary lapse in concentration, regardless of what caused it I would have thought it would have been grounds for the police to consider the offence of driving without due care and attention.

Hope you get some answers tomorrow 💐

Take photos. Keep a diary of the pain and injuries and the appointments needed.

There wouldn't be any burden to prove. It's a straight forward liability case. It will be damages that need assessing only.
OPs solicitors will have already submitted a claim to his insurer. Medical evidence will take some time now as it's likely they will obtain GP Ortho and a psych report to assess damages.

OP I wouldn't recommend contacting him even if you did have his address it would achieve nothing at all

Thanks for the update OP. I'm sorry you're having problems and sad, but not surprised at the police attitude.

Without outing myself too much, I have had direct experience in my family of police ineptitude in this area. Lost two family members to collisions, one an absolutely cut and dry case. Police bungling prevented any prosecution so my extended family pursued it privately for a bit but I was in university at the time and not included much in the details so not sure how that worked.

I used to have faith in the police. After the ridiculously insensitive (they repeatedly spoke to me about how "lovely" the driver who killed my family member was, how they played golf, family oriented, really sad about having killed my family member (who, by the way, was quite literally on the pavement when they were struck) etc etc without EVER asking what my dead family member was like. That was the TIP of the incompetency iceberg. The assigned officer also became aggressive with us in our home when my mother asked a very straightforward question and it then emerged that he'd left it too late to charge the driver with anything. With my other family member, they scrapped the vehicle before doing any kind of forensic investigation at all.

To be honest they were dim witted, insensitive, incompetent and a rubbish and pointless service.

Had I been a bit older, more assertive and involved more directly (I was a teenager) I'd have never let it drop and written letter after letter.

It's perhaps different for you because you're the victim. You need to weigh up your own needs against the stress of pursuing things. And it is stressful. However, bear in mind that not doing anything can ultimately be stressful too.

I hope you feel better soon 💐