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AIBU?

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It's me or the dog.....!

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justustwoandmoo · 07/02/2022 19:48

Ok so this whole issue is really REALLY getting me down.

I live in a small (2 bed) cottage. No garden but small courtyard out front and back. Around 1.5 years ago my partner moved in with me. He's amazing, I love him to bits but he brought with his his v large dog. Now I KNOW I signed up for it. Knew he came with the dog in tow so I get that.

BUT OMG I cannot have the dog in the house any more. No matter what we do he smells. You walk into the living room and the smell just hits you. He won't stop getting up on the sofas and every now and again he makes this horrible choking noice and gobs a bit 🤢. Vet checked him over and said it comes with age (he's 11).

This evening we have come to blows over it again. He jumped up on the sofa and got mud all over it. Again. I've ended up walking out and driving off to cool down.

It feels like there is just no solution to this.I feel driven out of my own home. When I go back I'll probably sit upstairs because of the smell. I feel like such a bitch because he's so good with the dog. I just cannot stand the smell and dribble.arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

What do I do????

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Buildingthefuture · 08/02/2022 06:33

@Bluesandwhites my dogs are lol at your comment! Absolutely no way could they manage outside! Some are elderly, some are of a breed that struggle to regulate their own body temperature. A few breeds yes, but the majority, no.

Suzi888 · 08/02/2022 12:24

[quote Buildingthefuture]@Bluesandwhites my dogs are lol at your comment! Absolutely no way could they manage outside! Some are elderly, some are of a breed that struggle to regulate their own body temperature. A few breeds yes, but the majority, no.[/quote]
My Lab is also deeply offended, he smells like baby powder thank you kindly. 🤣
He’s arthritic and would last maybe half a night outside. He sleeps on a huge orthopaedic dog bed, with removable, washable cover.

Suzi888 · 08/02/2022 12:26

@powershowerforanhour I never knew about that…. I’ll be removing my candles then, as there’s one above his bed. He does have very yeasty ears!

Sedai · 08/02/2022 12:38

This reminds me of something a friend of mine went through. Her partner didn't like her dog, and gave her the same ultimatum. Although it was a very tough decision to make, she made the choice to find a new home for her and her lovely dog, and let him to it. And to be honest, if my husband had given me the same ultimatum, I would have walked out with my dog too. You're not compatible- it's OK for him to say now he will never have another dog, but maybe he's saying that because he feels he has to. Better to go your own ways now than resent each other later down the line.

Sedai · 08/02/2022 12:39

Leave him to it*

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justustwoandmoo · 08/02/2022 13:44

@Sedai

Each to their own and thanks for your opinion. We won't be splitting up over it though. A relationship is about compromise.

We have spoken at length and whilst he may love dogs it wouldn't be fair to get another one backseat he isn't in the country for a fair amount of time each year. Even he knows getting another one just isn't fair on anyone.

Thanks to everyone on this thread for some sound advice on how best to deal with the smell etc. I've already put in an order to Pets at Home 😆😆

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justustwoandmoo · 08/02/2022 13:46

Backseat = because

🤣🤣 man I wish we could edit posts!!!

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Bluesandwhites · 08/02/2022 19:48

I came across this product on Facebook, a dog shower, fitted to the outside wall of a house, in a cupboard like a meter cupboard. A useful addition to households with dogs, I bet they are expensive though.

livelyredjellybean · 08/02/2022 19:54

Food allergies can cause a dog to smell if they’re clean in all other respects. If he’s not on a hypoallergenic diet, maybe try him on that to see if his smelliness reduces?

Cantfindausernamethatsnottaken · 08/02/2022 20:21

Weimaraners dont generally slobber.Could the smell be tooth decay?Ask your partner to get his teeth checked.Sniff his mouth if you can bear to.Vet can descale and clean teeth as well as remove if required.His diet as an older dog can be adjusted so its more easily digested if its his body odor.

TheHumanExperience · 09/02/2022 19:29

@WorriedGiraffe

Sounds like you and your partner arnt compatible, hopefully he won’t get rid of an 11 year old dog. Why wasn’t the mud cleaned off the dog? Why does he smell so badly, is it gassy or unclean? Basically is your partner actually making the effort to keep the dog clean and smelling less?

This 100% I trained my dog to stop on the mat at the front door. She will not go into the house until I clean her paws and say the magic word: break.

She doesn't smell as she is bathed once a month a week after her flea treatment and brushed a few times a week.

Does the dog have its own bed? Training it for its bed and not the sofa is doable. It just needs a little effort and treats.

You are obviously not a dog person. Perhaps it was a bad move to allow him to move in.

Arghteens · 09/02/2022 19:50

Throws on sofas, training not to jump on them ( might be tricky at his age), trying to embrace it?!

Toanewstart23 · 17/02/2022 12:29

I’m more baffled by fact that your partner moved in
With a large dog
In to your small 2 bed cottage
and yet you have a 12 year old daughter
And he’s got 2 young daughters

Forget the dog
What about space and children?

stockpilingallthecheese · 17/02/2022 13:12

@Bluesandwhites

OP, I hear you ! I can not understand why people have a dog in their house, they STINK! Dogs run around outside and bring all sorts of pathogens inside with them, including faeces from other dogs on their paws. Their owners allow them to sit on the chairs and settees (yes I know it's a free country !) and allow their dogs to lick their faces, after the dog has sniffed around other dogs' rear ends. The place for dogs is outside. Having said this, if i was stuck in the Highlands and freezing cold, I would be glad to see a rescue dog. Dogs have their place in the world and their usefulness, eg guide dogs, sniffer dogs, hearing dogs for the deaf, but their place is an outside compound, with regular walks.

Maybe in your mind but I doubt that's the common consensus!!

My dogs are part of my family. I have no issue with working dogs who are kennelled, but I want my pets in the house because I love them, I want them around me, and I love snuggles with them on the sofa!

OP do you have carpets downstairs? If so can you get rid? Made all the difference when we were in a smaller house. We also cover their beds and our sofa with towels and throws that are washed very regularly.

Wet dog smell is gross though, it just is count yourself lucky this is a short haired dog who will dry quickly!

Lavenderosemary · 17/02/2022 20:55

Put a dog jumper with sleeves on the dog. Buy a spare. It'll catch most hair and smell. Change the jumper daily. It should resolve most of the smell issue.

deeedeee · 17/02/2022 22:16

When you go to bed up end all the sofa cushions

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