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Wine gift etiquette

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ShowMeTheSugar · 04/02/2022 07:50

Last weekend my DP had his friend and friend's wife over for dinner. They brought a bottle of wine with them and gave it to Mr on arrival. I thought this was a "gift for the host" type thing and said thank you. On offering a drink I then offered from the selection I'd bought (red, whites, soft drink etc).

This morning a mutual friend asked how the night went and mentioned the wife had commented to her (mutual friend) that they were unhappy I didn't offer the wine the brought.

Was this a faux pas on my part? It would have felt odd to offer someone their own gift back. Apparently they were both quite miffed but neither said anything at the time.

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Coffeeholix · 04/02/2022 16:46

I don’t think it’s a rule that you offer the guests the wine they brought but I’ve seen other threads on here similar to this so it’s not clear cut. If I was a guest, the wine I bring is a gift for the host. If you’ve brought an expensive wine then it’s a gamble you take, it’s just one of those things. I’ve never thought it’s for you, as the guest, to drink. Unless you’re a teenager at a party where you all bring your own drink 😂
I invited a friend over for a mid week dinner a few weeks ago and he brought a very nice expensive wine. I had a (very drinkable) red wine already opened that day as had used a little for the cooking. I used my own discretion and opened his bottle as it was much nicer than mine, and I think he appreciated this but as a polite guest he would never have mentioned it if we’d just had mine.

RampantIvy · 04/02/2022 18:55

Would it be considered rude if the host decided to open their wine "gift" and offered it to their guests? Surely it isn't any different to sharing a box of chocolates that you have received as a gift??

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ShowMeTheSugar · 05/02/2022 15:38

KarenTheGammonRemoaner definitely not lambrini Grin

The reds were from one of those wee independent off licences nearby, they were more expensive than what I'd normally get for just myself but they're definitely nice.

Whadayaknow I love the idea of bringing something for the kids. I always stick to gifting wine/chocolate or flowers but yours has a more personal touch

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