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24 year age gap between Boris & Carrie

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Bunnybunny1 · 03/02/2022 04:07

That is a HUGE HUGE age gap.
The pictures of their wedding day are nothing short of disturbing. She genuinely looks like his daughter.
How can she be attracted to him? What do they have in common?
AIBU to think this is generally accepted when it’s actually really weird?

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 03/02/2022 06:03

@THisbackwithavengeance

I don't understand why you would say she's not a wonderful person.

How do you know?

I have no information about her to give me any idea of her actual personality. A friend of mine whose politics are somewhat left of Red Ken said he heard she did a lot for animal charities and was a big animal lover and for that reason didn't mind her.

Other than that, she married a man who is a) wealthy b) powerful c) well connected d) funny, e) intelligent and f) the Prime Minister. All very attractive qualities. She is set up for life. That aside, maybe they get on and have a laugh? It's not all about looks after all.

Grin hilarious.
TangledUp789 · 03/02/2022 06:03

Women tend to like rich men, in case you hadn't noticed. A wealthy, powerful, famous, well educated and (like it or not) charismatic and funny man like Boris Johnson won't have much problem attracting a younger woman - despite his many character flaws.

I wouldn't get too worked up about a mature, intelligent 30 year old woman choosing to date a man in his fifties. Macron and his wife have the same age difference, but he was a 15 year old schoolboy and she was his 40 year old teacher when their affair started. Now that's what you call 'really weird', not Boris and Carrie.

ivykaty44 · 03/02/2022 06:03

The calls to the police for DV would be much more of a worry to me than anything else

FrecklesMalone · 03/02/2022 06:04

@ISpyCobraKai

Didn't one of his exes say that shagging him was like shagging a bin bag full of custard? Ewwwww.
Oh god I knew I shouldn't have read this thread. It's not that he's just physically unattractive but his personality is also vile. He is racist, misogynistic, xenophobic, classist. I could forgive blobby if a wonderful man but he isn't. So it is purely power and money which does nothing for me.
Wiseupkid · 03/02/2022 06:07

If you want to understand Carrie's choices then you need to look at the past and her childhood, and how she must have felt when her mother was left alone with Carrie as a baby - it shapes a person's perceptions and choices. Father figure some might say? Craves security? I am sure if someone could be bothered to unpick it all, it would make for very interesting reading.

FrecklesMalone · 03/02/2022 06:08

@DreamTheMoors

I don’t know them personally, so I feel quite uncomfortable making judgements on strangers’ relationships. Other people’s personal lives are not my business — unless they ask for my input. Funnily enough, they rarely do — except on here.

If you don’t like huge age gaps in relationships, the best thing would be not to involve yourself in a relationship where there’s a huge age gap.

Otherwise, I can’t see why you’re kicking up such a fuss over something you have absolutely no control over. Seems futile and, well, unnecessary.

I do think the way the PM manages his personal relationships is relevant. And this had proved right. He treats those in his personal life with as much contempt by lying, cheating and getting all he can out of the situation as he does his electorate. He is amoral. Not a good trait for a PM.
DreamTheMoors · 03/02/2022 06:09

And, btw, get back to me after you’ve given Rupert Murdoch & Jerry Hall a thought, and googled some of those beach photos.

Nancydrawn · 03/02/2022 06:09

@Wiseupkid

Big age gaps bother me if one party is especially young, naive and/or vulnerable in some ways, however Carrie is fully pulling the strings behind the scenes, I believe far from young and naive. So in this instance the age gap doesn't bother me, her immense influence over the Prime Minister and his policies worries me more. I don't believe she is fully conservative and is doing a great deal of damage to the party with a woke agenda.
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Bunnybunny1 · 03/02/2022 06:10

I love that people have come on here with aggressive piety to tell me off for caring one way or the other, yet clicked on the the thread themselves!
It was obviously going to be a gossipy thread, and if you’re above such things, I suggest you scroll on by!

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Neurodiversitydoctor · 03/02/2022 06:10

I can't stand him but it's not that huge an age gap

What would be a huge age gap ? When she is 45 He will be a pensioner !

TheWayTheLightFalls · 03/02/2022 06:11

High profile, charming, powerful. I don’t think he is wealthy, for those who keep mentioning it - there is lots of talk about how he is practically on the breadline with paying for his various kids’ school fees etc (world’s tiniest violin plays in background). If you just want a bloke with a reliable six-figure income hanging around Pret by St Pauls at lunchtime would get you better results.

GreetingsAndSalutations · 03/02/2022 06:12

24 year age gap or not, they’re both odious people so it’s lucky they found each other. I don’t see them having a long happy marriage anyway, what with his track record for putting his penis in women who he is not currently married to.

Buttermuffin · 03/02/2022 06:13

I doubt she would have married him if he'd been a plumber or teacher etc. I suspect power and wealth comes into it somewhere.

Wiseupkid · 03/02/2022 06:13

You would need to full understand the whole story, and the war between Dominic Cummings and Carrie to see the downfall of Boris today started with Cummings and "Princess Nut Nut" comments and his anger that Carrie was forever getting involved at meetings from day one when Boris Johnson became PM. There is far more to this than a simple age gap nancy and is one of the reasons why David Frost resigned and others.

I would say Carrie is using the age gap to her advantage, but not on the way implied, but believing she is shaping policy and understands the youth angle.

Marshmelllo · 03/02/2022 06:14

Why is it odd? It is blatantly because he is rich, posh, and PM? He dotes on her, is wrapped round her little finger. He's attractive (to her). This is all a great adventure. And it shot her into the driving seat of the country.

If playing Snakes and ladders, marrying him was an amazing ladder.

He's presumably a loving and supportive father, and has picked up some good techniques in the sack, with all his lovers etc.

DreamTheMoors · 03/02/2022 06:14

@FrecklesMalone

I don’t know the man, nor his wife.

You apparently do.

I stand by my comment, whether speaking of a PM, President or King, or neighbor or distant acquaintance.

Ifailed · 03/02/2022 06:16

I suspect in a few years she'll be political equivalent to Sarah Ferguson.

dizzydizzydizzy · 03/02/2022 06:17

Money power status as @RainbowMum11 says.

weirdtimeoflife · 03/02/2022 06:17

@NorthGirlie

I married an older man but the age gap was 10 years. As time went on I realised he was at a completely different stage in life and we had little in common. I spent many years unhappy as I was not attracted to him so the marriage was sexless for over a decade. I ended it after 24 years. I’m still struggling with how my life turned out and what I missed out on. He looks older than he is whereas I look younger. People thought he was my dad! Carrie will realise one day…
Same here - 12 year age gap with my emotionally abusive exh. I was with him for 22 years, and am now unlikely to meet anyone Sad.

For me it wasn’t so much the fact he was older (though there was a power imbalance) but instead how unkind he became - silent treatments that would go on for a couple of months for example.

Due to the dc it was difficult for me to leave but luckily we are now divorced. But I am now in my early 50s and no one looks at me. I feel like my ex stole the years in which I could have met someone else Sad.

Somuddled · 03/02/2022 06:18

I miss read the title and though this was about Carry and Big. Anyway I stayed to read the responses and I'm really surprised at how many posters consider 'power' to be an attractive quality. That's been a big eye opener, I thought that was just a concept movies and TV tried to push on us. Not ever come across it I'm my circles.

Balaboostah · 03/02/2022 06:21

Strangely it's the exact same age gap as between Melania and Donald Trump - and between Emmanuel and Brigitte Macron which is even more unusual.

Each to their own. I wouldn't want it personally but they're all consenting adults.

Spookytooth · 03/02/2022 06:25

In the 1995 interview, Caroline’s Mrs Merton asked Debbie: “So what first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?”

What first attracted Carrie to Prime Minister Boris Johnstone.

DreamTheMoors · 03/02/2022 06:27

@Bunnybunny1

I love that people have come on here with aggressive piety to tell me off for caring one way or the other, yet clicked on the the thread themselves! It was obviously going to be a gossipy thread, and if you’re above such things, I suggest you scroll on by!
@Bunnybunny1

What’s “aggressive piety?”

I’ve read people expressing their opinions, both pro and con.
Haven’t read anybody being either aggressive or pious.

RedWingBoots · 03/02/2022 06:27

@DreamTheMoors

And, btw, get back to me after you’ve given Rupert Murdoch & Jerry Hall a thought, and googled some of those beach photos.
Because they are both OAPs people don't think it is disgusting.

Even though there is a massive difference between someone in their 90s and someone in their 60s.

Personally I think he's punched above his weight.

RedWingBoots · 03/02/2022 06:29

@Spookytooth

In the 1995 interview, Caroline’s Mrs Merton asked Debbie: “So what first attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?”

What first attracted Carrie to Prime Minister Boris Johnstone.

The joke being Debbie had more money than Paul when they started going out with each other.