I have been seeing a guy for over 14 months , he’s what I look for in a man, after my marriage ended I thought I would never find someone or be with anyone else, my 3 children adore him as do I…
It’s a long distance relationship and I have decided to move down close to him as I currently work full time with the Nhs which at the moment is busy to say the least, I currently see him once a week whilst trying to sell my house, I have a lot going on, my writing here is to ask a general census on something,
His ex wife has stated that I shouldn’t meet the kids until we are serious, which I get as I wouldn’t want that for my children either but what I don’t get is I can’t phone whilst his children are there, after 13 months and us talking about our future together I haven’t met them, I am so excited to meet them, I am not the bad stepmother type and I just want to be recognised, all that exists of me in the house is one picture on the wall, he dosent get to see his kids much and I get that he dosent want to scare them away but whilst in the midst of a divorce he’s trying to keep the peace but I am sat thinking how can we move forward if it’s like I don’t exist?
It’s something we have to discuss but because it’s so fragile I don’t know how, I am about to move down to my own house, move all 3 kids and this is without the building blocks being down as such, i feel like I have been patient enough, 14 months isn’t just a fling, help me see how I can approach this? And any advice from anyone else in a similar situation would be so well received ×××