Was I wrong to complain about queue jumping

[Pootlepoodle]

I am in a supermarket queue. There are only 2 people on the til and no self service. Long queue, about 10 people in front of me. The woman immediately in front of me has a basket of about 3 items but is then joined by her partner who has a trolley full of items.

It’s obvious that she joined the queue in order to placemark whist her partner does a proper shop.

I was annoyed by this and so I complained to them that it was not acceptable. They countered with “we’re shopping together”. I replied that if everyone did that no one would ever get to the front of the queue before closing time.

Who was being unreasonable?

But you could have waited longer than expected for many other different reasons (broken scanner, an old lady tries to find her purse, etc), some of them without the obvious "culprit". Would you be annoyed enough to start ranting here?

Those examples are unpredictable.
This was pre-meditated.

The same thing happened to me, I didn't realise the trolley and basket people were together, so I told the person with the trolley that there was a queue.
He sheepishly went to the back and they paid separately - the wife told him off for being so slow

No, if they had come together then they are together. It's not queue jumping.

If two friends had bumped into each other whilst shopping and one joined the other with a full trolley once the other was already in the queue, then I would say something.

If they had more than ten items then YANBU.

If they still only had ten items or fewer then I think YABU. I wouldn’t be cheeky enough to do that but there’s no rule to say they can’t.

I don't see a problem in this case. I would be annoyed if one person was joined by another person paying separately but I would accept if they were together.

its bloody annoying op im with you-it happened in a scene in me myself and irene which actually makes him flip into his alter ego

They were shopping together and paying together? I wouldn’t mind.

Not sure what it matters, I wouldn’t allow someone to push in in front of me but clearly they were together, you wouldn’t have complained if the trolley man was already in front of you so I’d just suck it up and move on tbh

I agree with you OP. trolley in queue and partner brings a few extra items is OK. Basket in queue and partner brings a trolley is not on!

I don't have much opinion either way, but I do think this is a supremely British thread

They were together and she had queued the same as everyone else. No issues.

I agree, cheeky bastard.

No doubt all of you saying this is OK would be fine with someone's spouse turning up with the year's takings from the penny arcade and joining them in the post office queue?

Aww it's a Peter Kay sketch playing out in real life.

I always feel guilty if I have a full trolley and then someone appears behind me with just a few items. It's too late to offer for them to go before me if I'm already half way through loading onto the belt, so I end up getting flustered and rushing everything trough, only for the cashier to them have to go in search of an item to check on the price as the barcode is missing!
It happens every time! I get used to the huffs, puffs, tuts and eye rolls.

I have SEN and I hate queuing so if I've been waiting 10 minutes in a queue and someone comes in with a full trolley. I would tell them to get to the back of the queue. Now people might think that's very rude but I think it's rude to push in front and entitled to push in front of people.

@Sugarsugar25

I have SEN and I hate queuing so if I've been waiting 10 minutes in a queue and someone comes in with a full trolley. I would tell them to get to the back of the queue. Now people might think that's very rude but I think it's rude to push in front and entitled to push in front of people.

I meant rude and entitled to push in front of people**

Yes that's incredibly bad mannered but there are are so many with this self centred attitude about.

@Sugarsugar25

I have SEN and I hate queuing so if I've been waiting 10 minutes in a queue and someone comes in with a full trolley. I would tell them to get to the back of the queue. Now people might think that's very rude but I think it's rude to push in front and entitled to push in front of people.

They weren’t pushing In. He was with her and they had queued. Good luck telling anyone to go back to the end when they’ve queued.

How has he queued? He's not queued at all? He's literally finished getting the little bits and then is like "Oh, I've got everything now" probably oblivious in his own little self-centred bubble, went in queue thinking there's nothing wrong.

You don't know the people who are behind you that have been waiting - I have ADHD and do you realise how hard it is just to queue? For you, it might be nothing and something you'd probably do but you don't think about the people around you.

That's above is to you @CharlotteRose90

I thought YABU but if they were 2 separate transactions then YANBU. Either way, I’d be pissed off! You may have picked that particular queue as thought you’d be quicker being behind basket lady….

I’d have been stood in the queue with two little ones and most likely sweating to death at the whole ordeal by this point.
I’d be highly annoyed. YANBU

It’s hard to be zen if you’re in a rush but otherwise just a bit irritating

Yes that's incredibly bad mannered but there are are so many with this self centred attitude about

Apparently half of the posters here have this attitude