Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Yasmin Chkaifi

98 replies

Cocoabutterkim · 25/01/2022 17:56

Stabbed to death in broad daylight by her ex husband.

Surely we can do more to protect women?
She’d been to the police countless times, panic alarms installed and restraining order in place.

What a travesty, yet another woman brutally murdered.

OP posts:
Original poster
Cocoabutterkim · 25/01/2022 18:09

Stabbed to death in broad daylight by her ex husband.

Surely we can do more to protect women?
She’d been to the police countless times, panic alarms installed and restraining order in place.

What a travesty, yet another woman brutally murdered.

OP posts:
Valkyrie40 · 25/01/2022 18:12

Is this the woman who was being stabbed and then a guy in a car ran over them to try and stop him?

It is so, so shocking - he was obviously completely unhinged (the husband I mean).

OP posts:
Cubit · 25/01/2022 18:19

This scenario is becoming so common and very little, if anything, is being done about it. Sad

endofthelinefinally · 25/01/2022 18:28

The police don't care about women. Just look at what they are currently doing to women all over the UK. Arresting and assaulting women who protest about violence against women and girls. Ignoring the rape, trafficking and exploitation of women and girls. Arresting and assaulting women who try to safeguard children.
I think you would have to be living in total isolation and radio silence to think that the police have any interest at all in protecting women.

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 25/01/2022 18:34

We are repeatedly told we don’t matter. Our voices are taken from us and so are our words. Our rights seem to diminish by the day.

And acts like these are happening more and more.

Men have it impressed upon them (usually by other men) that their wants matter more. Their rights matter more. They matter more.

And all the panic alarms and restraining orders in the world don’t matter when men who make women live in fear are permitted freedom.

If these attacks against women aren’t hate crimes then I don’t know what is.

RIP Yasmine 🌻

Original poster
Cocoabutterkim · 25/01/2022 20:36

What does work! Does anywhere in the world get this right?

Prison doesn’t work, from what I’ve seen they just come out and meet a new victim. Do we just not let men out of prison if they are guilty of violence against women? Because we know if they’ve done it once they will do it again and it’s likely to escalate.

OP posts:
Darbs76 · 25/01/2022 20:50

Absolutely horrific and yet another example of someone let down by the police when an ex partner was threatening her. My heart goes out to the family. I read earlier than they want to meet the man who was arrested for murder after he tried to intervene by running the man over (and hit both). They want to thank him, I hope to God he is not charged with anything. It was no doubt a terrible thing to come across and he reacted to try and help. Poor guy. I’m so angry on this poor ladies behalf and her poor boys age 16 & 18 now growing up without their mum

Enough4me · 25/01/2022 20:54

It seems the police can arrest women for having stickers that point out male violence is an issue for women's lives, but not an actual violent man.

Why2why · 25/01/2022 20:59

As you will notice, she was a black woman and Mumsnet is relatively quiet. If she was white, this thread would be going on pages and there would be several posts expressing outrage about the way women face violence on a daily basis.

Gazelda · 25/01/2022 21:22

@Why2why

As you will notice, she was a black woman and Mumsnet is relatively quiet. If she was white, this thread would be going on pages and there would be several posts expressing outrage about the way women face violence on a daily basis.
When I read this post, I immediately felt defensively outraged. But, sadly, I think you're correct. Which I'm ashamed (as a white woman) to admit.

And it's so awful that when I read the original headline I automatically assumed it was a previous partner. She'd been so badly let down for so many years. Her sons must feel completely distraught, and if I were them I'd have lost whatever remaining faith in the police I'd previously had.

Terfydactyl · 25/01/2022 21:27

@Why2why

As you will notice, she was a black woman and Mumsnet is relatively quiet. If she was white, this thread would be going on pages and there would be several posts expressing outrage about the way women face violence on a daily basis.
Yup. Cant argue with that. Although bibaa Henry and nicole smallman did get fair traction on here.
PerkingFaintly · 25/01/2022 21:33

So very sad and, awfully, not at all surprising.

From the small amount previously reported, it seemed so likely there'd be this sort of story behind it.

RIP Yasmin Chkaifi.

Whitefire · 25/01/2022 21:34

Absolutely horrific.

This is not on the main BBC news page (desktop website) and it is buried down on the England news page, it is quite possible that many people have missed it.

daretodenim · 25/01/2022 21:40

I hadn't seen it was her ex - although I suspected he was a current or former partner. It seems far more likely we'll be killed by one of them than by a random crazy bloke.

My heart also goes out to her sons. It's unimaginable what they're going through (for most of us anyway). I hope they know there's a world of us out here who care.

The motorist's action went wrong, but he seems like one of the few who proactively tried to protect her.

Rest in peace and power Yasmin Chkaifi

Why2why · 25/01/2022 21:57

@Gazelda, @Terfydactyl; sadly that’s the reality and the evidence shows it. Even when black women or girls go missing. It ought not to be doubt sadly it is so.

I’m warmly encouraged that you acknowledge that this should be how things work. Who knows, one day real change will come.

Yesthatscorrect · 25/01/2022 22:04

I saw this as headline yesterday and we talked about it a lot at work today. Rip poor lady. So sorry you weren't protected. I hope the guy in the car doesn't get into serious trouble. I can't say that I wouldn't have done the same as him.

endofthelinefinally · 25/01/2022 22:08

This needs to be reported loudly and accurately. It seems to me that the MSM is focussing on the arrest of the motorist who, it appears, was trying to intervene to save her.
There should have been much more about poor Yasmine and the evil man who killed her.
It is just awful and distressing.
RIP Yasmine. I am so sorry you were so badly let down.

nocoolnamesleft · 25/01/2022 22:08

Poor woman, so failed by the system.

teaandchocolate1 · 25/01/2022 22:11

Some men are truly monsters.

FrancescaContini · 25/01/2022 22:12

I read about this yesterday but as a PP comments, the focus was very much on the driver of the car (who sounds like a bloody hero). The report yesterday didn’t mention her name and the fact that she’d died wasn’t the main issue at all Sad.

Poor, poor Yasmin. It’s heartbreaking.

ghostyslovesheets · 25/01/2022 22:17

Just awful and sadly not uncommon - I wish I knew the answer - protecting women and getting men to not be misogynists might be a start - I'm just so angry - women don't matter

megletthesecond · 25/01/2022 22:21

I assumed it would be her partner or ex. The history sounds horrific Angry.

Why2why · 25/01/2022 22:40

@FrancescaContini

I read about this yesterday but as a PP comments, the focus was very much on the driver of the car (who sounds like a bloody hero). The report yesterday didn’t mention her name and the fact that she’d died wasn’t the main issue at all Sad.

Poor, poor Yasmin. It’s heartbreaking.

Would you like to guess the race of the driver? Yep the Dailymail made sure to point out that the driver was white even before saying who poor Yasmine was.

I hope he isn’t prosecuted because this surely was an action borne out of a noble heart.

I just despair at how race still matters such that the lives of some people are deemed less newsworthy, less important. It breaks my heart.

SunnyHens · 25/01/2022 22:42

I’m glad this thread has been started. Honestly, when I heard the news yesterday and hearing the quotes about what the attacker was saying, I knew it’d likely to be an ex partner. I went to sleep last night thinking about her and how frightened she must have felt. Terrified.
I don’t know why I’m writing this. It’s just unbelievably scary how some men need to control women and how they cannot deal with rejection or any severance of a relationship without being violent.

Rest in peace Yasmine. May your sons and your mother be supported and loved too.