To get a tattoo removed without discussing with DH?

[LizardTattoo]

Right. I've namechanged. I need opinions as I (obviously!) don't think IABU, but I'm willing to rethink if I'm being a horror.

I got a dubious lizard tattoo on my back aged 15. Rebellious stage, but luckily it's only small and easily hidden. Not many people know I have it.

Aged 37, I've been offered free laser tattoo removal - I have had laser hair removal, and my lady that does it (a nurse) needed a tattoo model and thought of me. I've accepted and have an appointment for next week. So far so good.

This evening, I mentioned it to DH. He hit the roof. Says it's an important decision, I should have discussed it with him, even though it's my body and I have it right to choose, I should have talked it through with him, that he'd never change his body without consulting me.

I got angry, said yes, it's my body, and I was in fact talking to him about it - I was just pissed off as by his reaction he seems to think he's got a right to tell me what to do with my skin, which he obviously denies. He says our bodies are shared history.

Either I just don't understand and am a lizard-tattooed heathen, or he's displaying uncomfortable signs of control that were previously hidden.

So, AIBU not to discuss it before booking the removal?

(I'm having it anyway, no matter what he thinks - my body etc, which I think is really annoying him.)

If any adult man was considering get circumcised, it would seem entirely normal to discuss this with his partner. I was circumcised at birth; my fiancée and I have discussed having future sons circumcised. A good relationship needs openness and honesty about such intimate matters.

He's nuts.

That's a very strange reaction indeed. Like he thinks he owns you? Creepy stuff.

@LizardTattoo

Right. I've namechanged. I need opinions as I (obviously!) don't think IABU, but I'm willing to rethink if I'm being a horror.

I got a dubious lizard tattoo on my back aged 15. Rebellious stage, but luckily it's only small and easily hidden. Not many people know I have it.

Aged 37, I've been offered free laser tattoo removal - I have had laser hair removal, and my lady that does it (a nurse) needed a tattoo model and thought of me. I've accepted and have an appointment for next week. So far so good.

This evening, I mentioned it to DH. He hit the roof. Says it's an important decision, I should have discussed it with him, even though it's my body and I have it right to choose, I should have talked it through with him, that he'd never change his body without consulting me.

I got angry, said yes, it's my body, and I was in fact talking to him about it - I was just pissed off as by his reaction he seems to think he's got a right to tell me what to do with my skin, which he obviously denies. He says our bodies are shared history.

Either I just don't understand and am a lizard-tattooed heathen, or he's displaying uncomfortable signs of control that were previously hidden.

So, AIBU not to discuss it before booking the removal?

(I'm having it anyway, no matter what he thinks - my body etc, which I think is really annoying him.)

TBH, I wouldn't be letting a nurse do laser removal. Laser use is not a walk in the park and should be undertaken with caution. Please check what education and training she has undertaken for this procedure to ensure this wasn't a weekend course offered by Wowcher BTW, I am nurse, so not having a pop at skills of nurses, just that this is clearly off-piste in terms of usual nurse skills!