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...to find living with a newly-minted coffee snob a pain?

174 replies

MitheredAndFrazzled · 23/01/2022 17:09

The freezer is full of little foil packets of coffee beans (varying caffeine levels, roasting temperatures, countries of origin), there's a set of super-accurate scales, a deconstructed mini-grinder and Aeropress on the table, partially ground beans have shot off all over the kitchen side and floor...

Earlier he was putting a thermometer in the kettle. And then when it's finally poured into the Aeropress (from a Pyrex jug), he sets a timer. I think he drinks it faster than he makes it!

I usually use a cafetière, but I'm suddenly tempted to plonk a jar of Nescafé on the side in protest. Grin

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Mamette · 23/01/2022 17:17

I have not had this but for some reason I am reminded of the time that DH decided to get into wheatgrass juicing or whatever you do to wheatgrass.

He had it growing on the windowsill and a special little scissors for snipping it. Then there was some fussy contraption for doing the mincing of the grass which had various parts that had to be cleaned out separately- which of course would get left lying around transferring green gloop on to everything.

Didn’t last long.

EmmaH2022 · 23/01/2022 17:19

Sorry, he is newly minted?

tiredanddangerous · 23/01/2022 17:28

Life is too short for this shit.

FrankGrillosWrist · 23/01/2022 17:35

Only the best for him eh 🙄. Most of this stuff tastes like Camp coffee that we had years ago.

Dustyroad63 · 23/01/2022 17:36

I think it’s lovely to have a new hobby/ obsession now and again. Makes life interesting.
I’m really into loose teas at the moment and bought a lovely Japanese teapot with a candle warmer to go underneath to keep it warm. It’s become a nice ritual I enjoy.

Stoop · 23/01/2022 17:37

I have a coffee obsessed husband.

It’s great. Makes for really easy Christmas and birthday gifts.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 23/01/2022 17:48

I also live with a coffee snob, albeit not to the levels you describe.

I just let him get on with it and leave all the dirty/used bits in a pile for him. Its fine, very little effort on my part.

Pedalpushers · 23/01/2022 17:57

I hate snobs in any area, if you don't like a single cheaper or less 'exclusive' version of something then you're not being an expert, you're just being pretentious. That said, I do get what it is like to be wrapped up in a new hobby, it's fun!

Twoweeksandcounting · 23/01/2022 17:58

Sympathy from me. My husband has a Moccamaster filter machine, an aero press, a little stove top coffee pot, a drip decanter that absolutely must be used with a special little metal pot with a long spout (which just has regular kettle boiled water in it), as well as the usual cafetière. It drives me nuts, it all takes up so much space!

dudsville · 23/01/2022 18:02

What's wrong with it though? It's just someone getting into something they enjoy?

NumberTheory · 23/01/2022 18:03

I ^love* all the paraphernalia and ritual around coffee. Can see it is an absolute pain for anyone not bothered about it though.

A jar of Nescafé on the side would be a brilliant silent response, though. Could you film the reaction?

AffIt · 23/01/2022 18:03

My OH cultivated a sourdough starter over lockdown.

I shall just leave that there, and say I feel your pain.

MitheredAndFrazzled · 23/01/2022 18:08

I'd forgotten the stove top coffee pot. In fairness, that doesn't bother me. It looks very sweet, and doesn't seem to require the same fussing over.

Perhaps I am being a spoilsport, and it is nice to see him enjoying it (he's even listening to YouTube videos about it in the shower). But it seems to involve hovering in front of every single kitchen cupboard, and using every kitchen side at some point in the process!

Good point about gifts Snoop. And perhaps I should count my blessings that it doesn't involve actually growing anything Mamette. Grin

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Mumdiva99 · 23/01/2022 18:17

Ha ha I have a similarly obsessive DH. His current obsession is the Ooni pizza oven. (I used to make pizza from scratch with the kids in a morning....we all roll our own and top our own pizzas and it's fun. I cook 3 at a time in our regular oven...now we are relegated to just saying what toppings we want.....and it takes about 40 minutes to cook them all....)

I do think your husband is being unreasonable using an aeropress. Obviously we have been though the coffee obsession and personally I prefer the bialetti.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 23/01/2022 18:21

I'm glad mine likes tea. Just means a few bags of leaves in the cupboard. (Plus the special teapot. And DDs teapot and infuser, and tea cup...)

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 23/01/2022 18:23

MitheredAndFrazzled
I usually use a cafetière, but I'm suddenly tempted to plonk a jar of Nescafé on the side in protest.

Oh, no, too cruel! Make it Douwe Egberts at least...

(disclaimer: I don't drink coffee, but I keep instant in the house for them as do, and that's the one the coffee snobs are prepared to drink.)

FamilyStrifeIsHard2Bear · 23/01/2022 18:24

🤣 you can take pleasure in telling him he's doing it all wrong - there's no need to keep beans in the freezer as they are much better freshly roasted, weighing the water as your pour directly in to the aeropress is more accurate than measuring in to a Pyrex and unless it's significantly below boiling point there's no point measuring the temp in the kettle either.
A cafeteriere is a perfectly good way to make coffee if you use the right method too - you can advise him to watch James Hoffman on YouTube to make sure he gets the right technique!

GoodnightGrandma · 23/01/2022 18:25

I hate the coffee grounds all over the piggin place 😡

sixtiesbaby88 · 23/01/2022 18:26

@GoodnightGrandma

I hate the coffee grounds all over the piggin place 😡
This! For some reason DH has to thump the bottom of the grinder to get all the coffee out.... leaving bits of coffee everywhere. I am an aero press
sixtiesbaby88 · 23/01/2022 18:27

Oops posted to soon
I am an aeropress lover though, makes much better coffee than a cafetière

MinestroneMini · 23/01/2022 18:31

My DH has been particular since 1999 about coffee. He even takes a giant Gaggia with us when we holiday in the UK.

He enjoys it so I am happy for him. I don’t like the grinds and the loud banging of the coffee holder thing to empty the pressed grinds.

DukeofEarlGrey · 23/01/2022 18:46

I would love this, because I adore good coffee but can't be bothered with the massive faff myself. Presumably he makes it for you to drink too?

haba · 24/01/2022 00:34

I'm the coffee fan in our house, I absolutely adore it. But I don't get grounds everywhere, and if I did I'd clean them up immediately.
I'm not interested in 15 different methods/contraptions to make it, I have an ancient machine that percolates it through. Takes about ten minutes each morning, but I can't go off to work without.

FelicityBeedle · 24/01/2022 00:39

Can this be a coffee snob widows thread? I don’t even drink the stuff but a whole wall of my kitchen is taken up with Welsh dresser, ECM cafe grade machine, 2 grinders, knock box, Moka Pot, Chemex, aero press, fancy pour over thing. I don’t mind really, it actually looks quite smart and it’s nice to be able to offer guests good coffee.

The current angst is over some new grinder he backed in kickstarted for £200 odd and the delivery date keeps getting delayed (about a year so far). As someone else said it does make for easy presents

WhyYesYABU · 24/01/2022 00:45

Are you also married to my DH? Has he started measuring the water temp with a meat thermometer yet? Or reading reddit coffee subs and lusting after £2000 machines? YANBU...it's boring!!

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