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Original poster

to tell my DH that the romantic hotel he booked is a waste of money??

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 12:50

My DH booked a 2 night break at a B&B costing £240, I think this is excessive, especially for the place he's booked. We had 1 night there last year and I thought it was a waste of money then!

I have told him that I feel its very expensive for the hotel and we could get a far cheaper hotel, after all its the time together thats important.

He has taken the hump with me, even though I keep telling him I appreciate the gesture and I want to have a break with him, i just feel our limited cash could be better spent on a cheaper hotel.

Have I been unreasonable? Should I just back down and shut up?

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SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl · 28/12/2007 13:33

you have to get round it good humouredly

tho as i say i have never had the experience of either tacky underwear or a surprise weekend

cheeset · 28/12/2007 13:35

You could go all girlie on him, tell him

''you know I'll moan if its not nice, and you don't deserve that for being such a good boy''

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 13:35

Thanks for the offer of the leopard print jacket but I would probably disappear into the furnishings, never to be seen again.

We are going mid January. If the positive approach fails I'll be spending the equivalent amount on vodka.

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amidaiwish · 28/12/2007 13:36

you have to turn it into a positive

heap praise on the idea
heap praise on him organising the childcare
heap praise on how wonderful he is and how lucky you are to have such a wonderful dh

then show him somewhere you would really love to go, "maybe we could see if there is space?" (even though you have checked in advance) as you'd like to try somewhere different for your special weekend

and don't slag off the original booking

WideWebWitch · 28/12/2007 13:37

book via Laterooms

cheeset · 28/12/2007 13:38

lol at WWW, still coming up with alternatives.

WideWebWitch · 28/12/2007 13:39

ha ha it's like a tic I have Cheeset!

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 13:44

Right I have been all positive and thanked him and praised him. Told him I love the idea, its just the venue thats an issue and can't we find somewhere together that we have never tried.

I await the response.......

Thanks WWW for all your ideas, I know where to come in the future when I'M doing the bookings!

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WideWebWitch · 28/12/2007 13:45

You're welcome, I've spent all morning browsing through the newest Mr and Mrs Smith guide, it's my hobby!

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 13:46

Oh for *** sake, he's paid ALL in advance and we only get the money back if it's rebooked.

Anyone want a couple of nights away????

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VictorianSqualor · 28/12/2007 13:47

Just go, stop moaning and have fun.
So it's not the Ritz, but he tried, give him a break.

nutcracker · 28/12/2007 13:47

I think what he has done is lovely, ok so it's not the exact place you'd have picked, but the fact that he did it at all would be good enough for me.

SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl · 28/12/2007 13:48

i do but that hotel looks a bit expensive 4 waht u get lol

WideWebWitch · 28/12/2007 13:48

#oh shit, you have to go then I think.

Magrat · 28/12/2007 13:51

when I was looking in the lakes last year someone recommended the howbeck .. but look at the room called The Retreat

unfortunately it was booked

but it looked wonderful

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 13:51

Well thank you everybody for your advice and suggestions.

I will think positive, it is a lovely gesture and I'm lucky to have a DH who would do that for me.

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SelfishMrsClaus · 28/12/2007 14:08

Oh fgs.

He tried to do something that pleased you.

Just be grateful. Loads of other ladies would wait a hell of a long time for their OH's to book anywhere for them... even a flea ridden hotel would look good if some effort had been put into it.

Was this your C'mas present? I just ask as you say you go away every year at this time

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Flame17 · 28/12/2007 14:13

I know they would and I do appreciate the gesture, it's just not a venue I would have chosen.

Normally we decide together where we are going at the end of January but this year he did it of his own back as part of my Christmas present.

I do realise I am very lucky and that it was a lovely thng to do, I only wanted to change an aspect of it.

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Ispy · 28/12/2007 16:00

No time to read rest of thread, but think how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot..

Don't know about the rest of you but I would swoon if dh did something like this for me and I wouldn't want to discourage any future efforts on his part by making a huge fuss on this one.. I'd go and enjoy!

notmyrtle · 28/12/2007 16:55

bloody hell! What an odd place

Pan · 28/12/2007 17:01

What's this?? The case for the "All women are demanding, ungrateful, high-maintenancers" prosecution??

lucyellensmum · 28/12/2007 18:04

sorry, being unreasonable, i turned down a hair cut from DP one valentines day, i had genuine reason and was suffering from PND, he hasnt forgotten though, and actually hasnt bought me anything since (even this xmas) now im not saying there is a connection, but mens feelings bruise as easily as ours.

Tell him you were just stressed about money, it was a lovely idea, and you can;t wait. If you still dont like the idea. I'll go! A romantic break away, is the stuff of dreams, if i have to go with someone elses DH well, its a small price to pay!!!!

UnquietDad · 28/12/2007 18:06

I bet the poor guy is thinking he can't do anything right.

lucyellensmum · 28/12/2007 18:14

no, ive read more of the thread now - i'll go with your DH, if it really is THAT bad, i'll find ways of taking the poor sods mind off it

pinetreedog · 28/12/2007 18:24

Presnets are dead as a dodo. No one really wants a surprise present any more. However, there will be resistance to this idea.

You, flame, should stay schtum. Develop a more relaxed attitufe to money and enjoy the break.

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