to tell my DH that the romantic hotel he booked is a waste of money??

[Flame17]

My DH booked a 2 night break at a B&B costing £240, I think this is excessive, especially for the place he's booked. We had 1 night there last year and I thought it was a waste of money then!

I have told him that I feel its very expensive for the hotel and we could get a far cheaper hotel, after all its the time together thats important.

He has taken the hump with me, even though I keep telling him I appreciate the gesture and I want to have a break with him, i just feel our limited cash could be better spent on a cheaper hotel.

Have I been unreasonable? Should I just back down and shut up?

[MerryKIFmas]

I think it looks funny. And I think saying to dh 'it's too expensive' is easy for him to hear as 'you don't earn enough to take your wife somewhere nice'. Buy some leopard print undies and go and have a laugh. As you say, it's the time together which matters.

[Crunchie]

That place is HILARIOUS, it is a total shag palace. I mean all you would go there for would be to shag really!!

Do you think it would work for DH and me

[onlyjoking9329]

i think its fab that your DH has made the effort and booked it and sorted childcare, go and enjoy the break and be pleased that he wants to be with you.
OJ

[newgirl]

im sure your dh meant well but that place looks soooo dodgy!!!

surely hotel du vin is cheaper than that

i am a shallow soul and would not be able to concentrate on conjugal rights for the dodgy decor!!!

[lucyellensmum]

ROTFL - that place needs a visit from the hotel inspector. But actually, i think its great, and its not a bad price either. Suspend your snobbery - ENJOY!!!!!

[Blu]

LOL - I thnk it's hilarious. It is exactly the sort of place DP would book - if he would book anywhere at all, of course! Am I right in thinking that one of the bedrooms has a pitchfork and a bucket leaning against the walls? If you are lucky you might get the Austin Powers room!
It's in a fantastic part of the world, find some lovely places to eat out, and enjoy yourselves!

[mumeeee]

YABU. He has booked you what he thought was a nice romanticbreak for both of you. So yes shut up and back down or he might just not bother at all.

[pinetreedog]

whey hey! Buy your novelty fluffy pants now

[VictorianSqualor]

Flame, I'm glad you see it that way, I bet now you're relaxed about it you'll have a wonderful time. Maybe it can become 'that weekend away' in 'that hotel' for years to come

[Flame17]

Thanks to all, I had a big guilt pang this afternoon and thought what a bitch I am, He wants to spend this money to take me away and I'm being a total bitch!

It may not be perfect, but its the thought and that he would do this and spend this much on me even when it's tight.

Thanks to all, I have some making up to do!

[oxocube]

Drunken Duck looks fab though. Loved the sample menu too! If I win the lottery, I'll send my parents there for a weekend to be totally spoiled. My mum is originally from Cumbria and loves the lakes.

[pinetreedog]

just seen the link. I think it looks fabulous. Very have-a-laugh-and-shag.

[Elizabetth]

YANBU, it looks really tacky, and obviously the hotel knows it considering they demand payment upfront (never heard of such a thing!).

The rooms do look a bit like a bordello/set of a porn movie, I wonder if that's the attraction for some of the guys that book it. That coloured fountain is something else as well.

[pinetreedog]

Presnets are dead as a dodo. No one really wants a surprise present any more. However, there will be resistance to this idea.

You, flame, should stay schtum. Develop a more relaxed attitufe to money and enjoy the break.

[lucyellensmum]

no, ive read more of the thread now - i'll go with your DH, if it really is THAT bad, i'll find ways of taking the poor sods mind off it

[UnquietDad]

I bet the poor guy is thinking he can't do anything right.

[lucyellensmum]

sorry, being unreasonable, i turned down a hair cut from DP one valentines day, i had genuine reason and was suffering from PND, he hasnt forgotten though, and actually hasnt bought me anything since (even this xmas) now im not saying there is a connection, but mens feelings bruise as easily as ours.

Tell him you were just stressed about money, it was a lovely idea, and you can;t wait. If you still dont like the idea. I'll go! A romantic break away, is the stuff of dreams, if i have to go with someone elses DH well, its a small price to pay!!!!

[Pan]

What's this?? The case for the "All women are demanding, ungrateful, high-maintenancers" prosecution??

[notmyrtle]

bloody hell! What an odd place

[Ispy]

No time to read rest of thread, but think how you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot..

Don't know about the rest of you but I would swoon if dh did something like this for me and I wouldn't want to discourage any future efforts on his part by making a huge fuss on this one.. I'd go and enjoy!

[Flame17]

I know they would and I do appreciate the gesture, it's just not a venue I would have chosen.

Normally we decide together where we are going at the end of January but this year he did it of his own back as part of my Christmas present.

I do realise I am very lucky and that it was a lovely thng to do, I only wanted to change an aspect of it.

[SelfishMrsClaus]

Oh fgs.

He tried to do something that pleased you.

Just be grateful. Loads of other ladies would wait a hell of a long time for their OH's to book anywhere for them... even a flea ridden hotel would look good if some effort had been put into it.

Was this your C'mas present? I just ask as you say you go away every year at this time

[Flame17]

Well thank you everybody for your advice and suggestions.

I will think positive, it is a lovely gesture and I'm lucky to have a DH who would do that for me.

[Magrat]

when I was looking in the lakes last year someone recommended the howbeck .. but look at the room called The Retreat

unfortunately it was booked

but it looked wonderful

[WideWebWitch]

#oh shit, you have to go then I think.