to tell my DH that the romantic hotel he booked is a waste of money??

[Flame17]

My DH booked a 2 night break at a B&B costing £240, I think this is excessive, especially for the place he's booked. We had 1 night there last year and I thought it was a waste of money then!

I have told him that I feel its very expensive for the hotel and we could get a far cheaper hotel, after all its the time together thats important.

He has taken the hump with me, even though I keep telling him I appreciate the gesture and I want to have a break with him, i just feel our limited cash could be better spent on a cheaper hotel.

Have I been unreasonable? Should I just back down and shut up?

[yulemoonfiend]

Cringe. It looks like a brothel!

But I do feel for your dh who is trying to do a lovely, romantic gesture...

(In the same way that my dh proudly presented me with red and black lacey lingerie (I had to stop myself PMSL after a recent MN thread about that very thing)

''look, it's got a bag of smelly roses in the box, too'' he said with great pride. (I tried to ignore the fact it was polyester, cooed over it - at least it was the right size - and graciously tried it on for him. Now, it can go to the back of my knicker drawer, never to be seen again!)

[VictorianSqualor]

Good point hula, lol Daddycool, he is a man we dont expect them to be good at presents!

[DaddyCool]

.... so cheeset, flame17 ends of doing all the work for her own present (is my point btw)

[Flame17]

Victoriansqualor ~ We go away every year at this time, there was nothing extra special about last year at this place

[WideWebWitch]

I think you could tactfully say that you appreciate the effort but you'd rather go somewhere else. I do see your point about it being a joint expense and it doesn't matter how much it is, it would piss me off if we stayed somewhere grotty. And if dh had booked it it would be HIS fault. Although I am in charge of hotels in this house.

[WideWebWitch]

And I take DC's point about backing down at sign of male childishness. Hmm, I've performed a volte face on this thread rather haven't I?

[cheeset]

DC, your right, re-book! The hotel looked like a 70's Disco ha.

Flame, your weekend too, got to be happy girl.

[SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl]

i think you have to grin and bear it babe

[DaddyCool]

yes and it's a disaster waiting to happen becuase when you arrive he'll insist that there is nothing wrong with the place and thats when it all kicks off...

[WideWebWitch]

Drunken Duck?

[SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl]

well maybe not can u just get him to see the funny side

[dividedselfridgesxmaswindow]

Oh dear - I had to talk DP out of stying in Bowness - it is a little tacky. Poor you. Do you like the animal skin stuff, I have a bolero jacket in leopard print you could borrow for the occasion

Hey, if you're going this weekend I'll see you there. DP taking me to overpriced place in Ambleside which I also nearly complained about but decided not to since I'm paying not a penny

[yulemoonfiend]

oh yes WWW the Drunken Duck is lovely, lovely!

[SantaBabyBeenAnAwfulGoodGirl]

nobody has ever booked me a romantic hotel or in fact made any similar gesture..i live in hope it may happen one day before i get too old to appreciate it

[WideWebWitch]

Samling?

[cheeset]

Drunken Duck is dead gorg, i'd prefer to go there.

If your dp a good boy, he can have a drunken duck ha

[Flame17]

Oh God, I don't know, it was a lovely gesture and he sorted it all out, including childcare which is unheard of.

I think Hula might be right that I may have to just think of it as "I'm worth it"

He would have a hissy fit if I just rebooked it.

[DaddyCool]

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[WideWebWitch]

Could you say "HEY, I've seen somewhere I'd love to try and the reviews are fab and I wondered if you wouldn't mind if we went there instead" making sure he knows you are v pleased at his organising childcare etc?

[DaddyCool]

oh, i don't know. I'd rather stay at home, watch reruns of top gear and have a few good afternoon naps

[dividedselfridgesxmaswindow]

It's like red lacy underwear sets really, isn't it? Bit tacky, nice thought, grit teeth while wearing.

[Dottydot]

ooh WWW - I was just thinking the same thing! keep it very positive but mention that you've seen somewhere different that you'd love to try this year.

[cheeset]

If you are gonna go with the flo, i'd have to give the hotel a ring before I went and tell them I wasn't happy with the previous visit, point out what was wrong.

So sorry, I must sound awful, like a terrier just cant let it go!

Just get pissed & you wont bl care, thats what i'd do, take the piss.

[dividedselfridgesxmaswindow]

Drunken Duck was all booked when we looked. When are you going?

[Flame17]

I do like the comparisons to tacky underwear, it is just like that, but at least the underwear won't set you back £240.

I like the look of the drunken duck, I will try the positive approach although I think he's fuming!