Am I being stupid? -child free night

[Onthefloor2]

We very rarely get child free nights, in 14 years you can count the times on one hand. We’ve been together 17.

The stars aligned somehow and tonight both kids are at sleepovers and it’s DP night off work. We could go out!! Like actually go OUT!! A drink, cinema, dinner….sit in the car in a car park…anything!!

Does this sound like an excuse?
“We can’t go out, this is our sons first sleepover (his 6 and at a school friends house) so we can’t go out because if he wants to come home and they call (the parents) we need to make sure we’re around the corner (and not 20 minutes down the road at the cinema, dinner or pub) to collect him.

Is he right?

(Or is this yet another stupid excuse that this mug has fallen for? Feels like he just NEVER wants to go out and do anything with me)

Aibu?

You can easily go for a drink someone local or a bite to eat. Cinema not so much.

Go out and make the most of it

You can easily go out. Easily.

No, you are right, I would be pissed off with that, what's seldom is wonderful and 20 mins down the road is not far.

We’re not going out, apparently we have to be home incase our son wants to come home-it’s an excuse not to go isn’t it?

Son was very happy and excited to go, it’s very very unlikely he will want to come home as two other friends are staying and the parents have arranged a really fun evening

You can easily go out, keep your phone out but on silent so you can see if anyone calls at the cinema but otherwise go for dinner!

20 minutes away is fine

Even if he did want to go home it’s not unreasonable to say you’ll be there in 30 mins!!

Definitely sounds like an excuse, I'd also be annoyed at that.
You could definitely easily go out locally for something to eat and drink

I would go out with friends and leave him at home.

Now I’m just sat here crying, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I think I’m a lovely person and whilst I’m not stunning or was a popular girl at school in my younger years, I’m averagely good looking, I’m not an ogre ffs, why does he never want to go anywhere with me, what the fuck is wrong with me!

I'd go out on my own if he refuses to go out. Oh boy, that would annoy me.

There's nothing wrong with being 20 minutes away, either 🤷‍♀️

Well he can sit home like a lemon.. Def an excuse op.
Next time he hints for a shag tell him no coz ds might need you
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I probably wouldn't go to the cinema just incase you needed to leave, but a drink definitely.

Just go. As someone else said, totally reasonable to say you’ll be there in 30 mins if the parents call you. Highly unlikely I reckon.

@Santahasjoinedww

Well he can sit home like a lemon.. Def an excuse op. Next time he hints for a shag tell him no coz ds might need you .

😂

I’ve text my friend but she is having a date night with her husband….salt in the wound 😭

Yes...he's making excuses. But you know this.

Do you have friends you could call and go and visit perhaps? Just to get out for an hour or two? Don't sit in a cry lovely! Slap on a bit of makeup, put something nice on and go out. Leave him to wallow!

He's a Twatface!!

As long as you can have access to your phone and can get back fairly quickly I see no reason not to go out.

Sounds like you’re fed up about ways your H is treating you more generally.

I can understand some of the worry; I’ve had similar concerns in the past; but what I found is that being further away is good for DS etc.

The idea that you can’t just swoop in does make them have to deal with the smaller issues that come up.

Go out. Have fun!

There's nothing wrong with you OP.
Shame on him for being such a killjoy. He's old before his time.
Does he ever go out or has he just got stuck in a rut?
Think you need to have a conversation about what the future is going to look like for you both. Is he always going to be this boring?

It’s not you, it’s him. He’s a lazy bastard

You can still get calls while out for dinner/a drink!

I'd go out on my own op, get some make up on and go get yourself a lovely dinner. I loooove eating alone

Definitely a crap excuse. Maybe I wouldn't go to the cinema or somewhere miles away, but a meal or drinks within 20 mins drive or so would be fine. What does he think would happen?

Go without him