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To refuse to kiss 70 animals a day?

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DueyCheatemAndHow · 18/01/2022 13:25

DS has slowly got into cuddly toys more and more. It got to the point where he had some on his shelf and some in his bed and he wanted me to kiss them goodnight, so I did.

But now he is insisting on having all of them in his bed. There's at least 35 if not 40. And he has a nap as well - so they both need two kisses a day.

Am I being a total bitch to refuse to kiss that many soft toys? He was 3 in September.

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INeedNewShoes · 18/01/2022 14:03

We have a max 3 cuddly toys in bed rule in this house.

Yes I know I'm dull but it just avoids me having to deal with crap like this

I'm impressed at your 3 year old's ability to amass soft toys. Who's buying them all!?

Snuggleworm · 18/01/2022 14:05

@Hedgesfullofbirds

Is that you Elizabeth...I mean Your Majesty?

This has made my day LOL

stingofthebutterfly · 18/01/2022 14:06

@Meowwwwwww plenty, thank you. I also know that all of them were in school nursery by that age and no three year old needs to be deliberately put to bed during the day.

ParisNext · 18/01/2022 14:06

We had this. Make a calendar with their names/picture on showing who’s toy of the day. Our toy of the day had a gold braid thing (possibly hair bobble!) to wear. He can help you make the chart. The teddies love the chart, being teddy of the day and clearly it’s very Covid safe not to kiss them all!

malpa · 18/01/2022 14:06

Blimey, I hope you never teach him the "There were forty ten in the bed and the little one said..." song - you'll be there all day!

How about a compromise (see pic)?

shouldistop · 18/01/2022 14:07

@stingofthebutterfly

Stop the nap and you've halved your problem. Why does he need a nap at 3?

It's pretty common for a 3yo to need a nap

AlexaShutUp · 18/01/2022 14:09

The charts and stuff are all good ideas... but how long does it actually take to just kiss the flipping animals.

I love my mum for the fact that she went along with it for years!

blogbunny · 18/01/2022 14:09

@Hedgesfullofbirds

Is that you Elizabeth...I mean Your Majesty?

Brilliant 😛😛

Tallyhodavey · 18/01/2022 14:10

You are the parent! Are you going to acquiesce to every demand he makes, because if you do, it will be miserable for you, and make him turn out to be the type of bloke who demands things of women and expects them to be done.
Tell him, no. Let him deal with being told no. You don’t have to tell him in a mean way, but you are the parent here, not him. You’ve got to have boundaries.

VelvetChairGirl · 18/01/2022 14:16

pfft I live in a flat with over 1,000 hot wheels

REP22 · 18/01/2022 14:21

@Sparklesocks

Could you do a big air kiss with a bit of a spin meant for ‘all of them’ or will your son know better

That's what I was going to suggest!

One great big loud one blown into the air "so everyone gets just the right bit for them! Love to you all."

Bless him. x

Hellosunshiner · 18/01/2022 14:22

You'll love this story when he's 18. Him not so much!

I totally get that it's frustrating to be plied with extra tasks like this but you'll look back on it with affection. Make sure you write it down (or take a pic of him with all the toys to jog your memory).

Also, I think it's great that he is so caring. My own DS was like this, always taking care of all his soft toys and always making room for one more. He's still a very loving and family oriented boy.

Sexnotgender · 18/01/2022 14:22

Nip that shit in the bud now 😂 I’d ask him to choose his 2 favourites for a kiss and that’s it.

Changechangychange · 18/01/2022 14:22

@stingofthebutterfly

Stop the nap and you've halved your problem. Why does he need a nap at 3?

FFS some kids drop their nap at 2, some at 4. How much sleep a child needs isn’t a moral failing, any more than needing 6hrs sleep Vs 8hrs sleep as an adult.

ArabellaScott · 18/01/2022 14:22

@VelvetChairGirl

pfft I live in a flat with over 1,000 hot wheels

Do you have to kiss the Hotwheels?

mynameismaybe · 18/01/2022 14:23

I read this at first as "DH" aka husband and was horrified

GrendelsGrandma · 18/01/2022 14:23

Get an empty pot or jam jar or something and say it has magic kiss juice in it, dip your fingers and then sprinkle over them. You'll be done in seconds and DS will be impressed.

The idea of kissing all that fur makes me feel ill!

BlowDryRat · 18/01/2022 14:23

Aw. Can you blow a kiss in their general direction?

ArabellaScott · 18/01/2022 14:23

Basically, OP, you need a spreadsheet, and maybe consider hiring some help. If you bend over for each one could be quite good for your core strength?

Hellosunshiner · 18/01/2022 14:24

@Tallyhodavey

You are the parent! Are you going to acquiesce to every demand he makes, because if you do, it will be miserable for you, and make him turn out to be the type of bloke who demands things of women and expects them to be done. Tell him, no. Let him deal with being told no. You don’t have to tell him in a mean way, but you are the parent here, not him. You’ve got to have boundaries.

A little harsh, but there's something in this too. Gently insisting on a compromise is probably the way forward. Kindly but firmly. This is the life of a parent! Some decisions are easy to make. Some are real grey areas. I guess you have to choose your battles carefully.

ArabellaScott · 18/01/2022 14:25

@INeedNewShoes

We have a max 3 cuddly toys in bed rule in this house.

Yes I know I'm dull but it just avoids me having to deal with crap like this

I'm impressed at your 3 year old's ability to amass soft toys. Who's buying them all!?

Maybe the small creatures are doing TOO MUCH kissing and that is why they are multiplying.

VelvetChairGirl · 18/01/2022 14:25

Do you have to kiss the Hotwheels?

thankfully not, I'd probably be dead from lead poisioning, he does have my old Corgis and matchboxes too.

AlexaShutUp · 18/01/2022 14:27

@Tallyhodavey

You are the parent! Are you going to acquiesce to every demand he makes, because if you do, it will be miserable for you, and make him turn out to be the type of bloke who demands things of women and expects them to be done. Tell him, no. Let him deal with being told no. You don’t have to tell him in a mean way, but you are the parent here, not him. You’ve got to have boundaries.

I disagree with this. There are plenty of boundaries that we have to enforce as parents. There is no harm in indulging minor whims of this nature, and potentially a lot of benefit.

missnevermind · 18/01/2022 14:28

@VelvetChairGirl

pfft I live in a flat with over 1,000 hot wheels

😁 I do rember having to kiss the Thomas Trains at bedtime.

SeaToSki · 18/01/2022 14:29

Get a spray bottle of that lavender scented pillow spray. Tell him its full of kisses and spray the teddies. Side benefit is that it helps dc go to sleep. If you want to go the whole hog get stickers with lips(kisses) and stick the, all over the bottle and add some glitter or ribbon! It also works really well for banishing nightmares and monsters under the bed

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