Unfair or not?

[Kaandii]

My boyfriend has given me an ultimatum. He says that if I want to be with him I MUST do the following things.

1. Delete pictures and tags with other men (some exes, some not) on my facebook.
2. Stop getting mad at him.
3. Go back to a doctor.
4. Answer any question he asks (usually stupid accusations)
5. Answer the phone any time he calls no matter what (all the time)

Are these reasonable requests or not.

Also I have only asked one thing of him, which he doesn't want to do, to listen.

Please help, I don't want to lose him, and my son loves him too, I don't know what to say to him.

No they are not reasonable. At all. He's controlling you.

I'm not sure about the voting but you need to dump him straight away. He is trying to control you.

I don't know what to say to him

"Fuck off, you controlling arsehole" might be a good start.

You say you love him but I can tell you that he does not love you, someone who loves you would not try to manipulate and control your choices in this way. His list of demands are all red flags on their own, combined they are a gigantic red fucking flag.

Ditch this one, you deserve better.

Of course it's not reasonable. It's controlling and abusive. And that's a bad environment for both you and your son. It's not a model for a loving relationship.

Are you safe, OP? Do you have family around you? Do you live together?

Go back to a doctor might be reasonable- might not...

The rest no way. Ditch him his a jealous controlling prat who you will always be walking on egg shells for.

What a control freak. Run. Run like the wind!

Red flags all over this

Raise your standards for the love of god

Dump him.

Bin him off immediately.
I'm very happily married but if my lovely dh demanded that I must answer the phone any time he rang, I'd be digging a very deep hole under the patio......

Super controlling - what ‘conditions’ does he have apply to him?

It’s not healthy.

Ditch him

Beyond controlling. There's something seriously and very scarily wrong with him. Get your son away from him.

He is completely unreasonable on 1, 2, 4, 5

3 go to Doctor not possible to answer without more info

When a partner can't deal with you tagging someone on Facebook- let's face it they've lost the plot! Get rid ASAP.

This is a ridiculous basis for a relationship.

.... RUN !!!!!!!

Sorry these are not reasonable requests and hard as it is you don’t want your son growing up thinking that’s normal.

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More red flags than a communist parade!!

Ditch the controlling arsehole FGS and spend some time working on why you think this is acceptable and worthy of your love.

Read your post again.. slowly... then think of how would would advise your best friend in this situation.

Honestly?
Engage your brain.
See your gp if YOU think you need to.
Ditch the loser.
Get some self respect.
Teach your son self respect.

Are these reasonable requests or not.

No, with the possible exception of 3 ('go back to a doctor'), because if you have to ask this, you are clearly suffering with poor mental or emotional health and could do with some support from a professional.

I very rarely say this but LTB

Where are your standards

Oh this is pathetic. OP, you know those are outrageous demands from him but it’s easy to see from your post that you’re going to go along with it so crack on.

But he’s a prick and he’ll make your life a misery. Your choice…

You’re giving your son a terrible role model.

Dump him before this gets worse! You are worth more than being controlled by some piece of shit like this. You can do better. Get out now before you regret not doing so in years to come