Unfair or not?

[Kaandii]

My boyfriend has given me an ultimatum. He says that if I want to be with him I MUST do the following things.

1. Delete pictures and tags with other men (some exes, some not) on my facebook.
2. Stop getting mad at him.
3. Go back to a doctor.
4. Answer any question he asks (usually stupid accusations)
5. Answer the phone any time he calls no matter what (all the time)

Are these reasonable requests or not.

Also I have only asked one thing of him, which he doesn't want to do, to listen.

Please help, I don't want to lose him, and my son loves him too, I don't know what to say to him.

Run

You don’t want to lose him, you should get rid of him, especially that this is the role model that you are presenting to your own son. It took me until my son was 11 to realise that my marriage was a mess… my son is now 23 and is still so angry about the whole situation.

@Kaandii

Why have you posted twice about this, with the other post giving much more detail?

Stuff that. Who died and made him king?

The whole point of a relationship is that you are equal loving partners. He is never going to be like that, no matter how much you bend over backwards and tie yourself in knots trying to please him and be the person he is telling you to be. He will never be satisfied with that.

For God's sake, dump him.

The doctor one is the only thing that might be reasonable. However, given the tone of the other demands, I doubt it really is. Is this what you want your life to be like?

I made it to #2

He's a walking red flag. Run and don't look back.

I don't want to lose him

Whyever not? Get rid and give your life a chance. It will just get better and better

Red flags.. Run.

But then it's really REALLY scary that you can't see how bug a red flag it all is. You really need to look at something, like the Freedom Program of counselling because Che a frigging bright red flashing flag of redness and you SHOULD, if you could judge healthy relationships, see that. Ease get some support, for you and your kiddo x

Get rid before you waste any more of your life with such a controlling bloke.

Say “fuck off, don’t try to control me. I won’t jump through your insane, paranoid hoops you abusive piece of shit.”