Responding to a breakup text? 🙄

[SCismybestieX]

Hey ladies

Was seeing a guy since November - the last date we went on I found out ALOT about more him (last week). It was also my first time at his flat. I knew he was ‘seperated’ but nil discussions about divorce, (not divorced but seperated is not the red flag BTW) He told me he still sees his ‘ex’ every 2 days and cares for her deeply, got her a Christmas present. I was like OK 😂 He also told me he does not speak to his ‘exes’ family after calling both the Mum and Dad ‘C*nts’ (Cannot remember the context). He then lets slip he used Cocaine and in my probing admitted he used it in the past six months. Cocaine is not my scene at all - no judgement to anyone who uses it but I could loose my job if I got involved with this sort of thing.

I felt a bit uncomfortable with some of these revelations so I wanted to leave and I kissed him goodnight on the cheek with the intention of probably not seeing him again. It was at this point the tone totally changed.

He said ‘ I thought you would be staying here tonight I thought you would be a right dirty bitch’, said with a sneer ‘ What are you the kind of woman who needs breakfast in the morning or something’. I knew I could be in danger with how his manner totally changed so let him down gently and said ‘I am sorry, I just do not become intimitate with Men I am not in a relationship with’, to which his reply was ‘I could shag you right now if I wanted to’.

I have very good communication skills, and was able to de-escalate the situation and nope outta there.

I blocked and deleted him and ghosted him on Iphone.

And I thought that would be the end of it. I turned on my Mac and realised the block does to go over all devices.

He sent me a bizarre message yesterday (a week after I have not spoken to him/seen him)

‘I am sorry, I cannot do this anymore. It is nothing to do with you and I enjoyed our time together’.

Now AIBU to think that this is utterly bizarre and delusional?!
I was just getting to know him and I get the most bizarre breakup text from a guy I was not in a relationship with?!
And from my perpective there was no ‘do this anymore’ as there was nothing to not do?

At this point I am thinking he is mentally unstable and I have dodged a bullet. Managed to get my tech savvy sister to block on all platforms.

Has anyone ever heard of similar things?

@oklets

Feel so sad 🥺 [[http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am]]iibeingunreasonable/4441339-Feel-so-sad

Sorry if I'm barking up the wrong tree here but it's the EXACT same text message (which is a weirdly specific one) but a very different story?

Perhaps op is one of those people who starts umpteen threads hoping for a different response because they didn't like the first ones. It happens a lot on here.

It does sound like the same story in many respects - the separated, but not divorced, seeing his ex regularly, being dumped etc. There may be more, but I don't have time to look closer.

@knittingaddict Yes but big difference is that in the other other thread the guy was a dick after they slept together and was basically ghosting her. In this thread, they've never slept together and shes ghosting him after he's making thinly veiled rape threats?

@Hotyogahotchoc

OP it took me a moment to find your posts due to the NC

Out if interest what did you say in order to get out?

He sounds odd but I imagine he's all talk. Report him if you would feel better. It sounds like he threatened you.

Why do you say he "stays" near where you "stay"? Do you mean where you live or is it uni accommodation or something like that?

I would say ignore him and block

I assumed OP is Scottish. It's fairly common to say you 'stay' somewhere, meaning you live there