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AIBU re nappy changing

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Mushrooms0up · 04/01/2022 15:16

I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable and I don’t have kids so I could well be!

Over Xmas at in-laws and 3 year old niece needs her nappy changed. SIL did it in front of everyone in the living room at PILs house.

Ok for a tiny baby but for a 3 year old? It stunk! AIBU to say she should have gone to the bathroom?

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NorthSouthcatlady · 04/01/2022 15:19

That’s grim Shock

Santaisstilleatingmincepies · 04/01/2022 15:20

A 3 yo shitting in a nappy is grim enough without sharing the experience..

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 04/01/2022 15:25

Disgusting. Even when DS was a baby I always changed his nappy on the changing table in his bedroom or if we were visiting someone's house I'd take him to the bathroom. He is now 3 and recently blocked our toilet with over of his poos, sod changing that nappy let alone in a living room with people in it!! 🤢

GalacticGoddess · 04/01/2022 15:26

What do you class as a tiny baby? I would change DD16ms in the living room at my parents or at my in laws. If my DD is still in nappies at this age I probably would ask if she wanted to go to the toilet or stay put and be changed in the room - as it's family and none of us are precious about things like that....although I would hope by 2.5years or so she is toilet trained. The only time I wouldn't change her in from of others is for less close friends or those without kids (and therefore not used to it maybe) or people I don't know well/wider family.

Also, comment above about children still being in nappies by 3 being grim is unfair for those children with SEND or incontinence/anxiety issues.

KiloWhat · 04/01/2022 15:31

It's a good idea to get them used to going to the bathroom by this age so they get hang of the idea that is where poo related stuff should happen.

Caspianberg · 04/01/2022 15:33

Yeah I wouldn’t like that.
Ds is 20 months, I have never changed him in the living room. I just don’t think it’s nice to make a place we sit stink or unhygienic.

At home we use changing table in his room every change, and at someone’s house bathroom. Ds has en-suite bathroom where all dirty nappies live before washed and where we can wash hands and get warm water to use for his butt. If I changed in living room I would still want to wash my hand and get Ds warm water, and flush any poop so it doesn’t even seem convenient

Looneytune253 · 04/01/2022 15:36

Hmmm my bathroom is upstairs with hard floors. I'm a childminder and I've always changed children in the front room in a hidden corner on a mat so I don't see an issue. Especially if she's (effectively as its grandparents) in her own space.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/01/2022 15:37

Is it the poo you object to or her flashing the nakedness?

LakeShoreD · 04/01/2022 15:38

I don’t think it necessarily has to be the bathroom, particularly as not all bathrooms have a lot of floor space, but it’s grim AF to change it in the room people are sat in. I would ALWAYS go to another room even with a tiny baby.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/01/2022 15:38

Oh sorry I missed the it stunk. Yeah if it's a poo I'd tend to do it in another room, if it'd a wee I wouldn't. But tiny baby's can smell worse than 3 yos so not really sure why age matters?

yellowleaves123 · 04/01/2022 15:40

YANBU. SIL once changed her 3.5 year olds pooey nappy (not SEN) whilst we were having a family lunch, on the floor next to the table. Vile.

yellowleaves123 · 04/01/2022 15:41

But tiny baby's can smell worse than 3 yos so not really sure why age matters?

They definitely don't.

EishetChayil · 04/01/2022 15:41

Just a word of warning about sharing stories about your children's nappy changes.

EatYourVegetables · 04/01/2022 15:41

My 3yo uses the toilet and has recently blocked it with a very large poo.

No one needs that in their living room.

Thatsplentyjack · 04/01/2022 15:44

Grim, but why are you still thinking about this enough to post on here? It's the 4th of January!

Couchbettato · 04/01/2022 15:48

What are you all feeding your 3 year olds for these bunker busting shits?

mumda · 04/01/2022 15:48

@KiloWhat

It's a good idea to get them used to going to the bathroom by this age so they get hang of the idea that is where poo related stuff should happen.
And there's a sink for washing hands!
PlasticCupPolitics · 04/01/2022 15:49

It’s gross, by the age of 3 their poo smells like normal adult poo, nobody wants to be sat smelling that.

Also it’s not nice for the 3yr old, give them some privacy!

LowlandLucky · 04/01/2022 15:52

Is there a reason the 3 year old is still in nappies ?

1forAll74 · 04/01/2022 15:52

its odd to be wearing nappies at this age.. But whatever, do the nappy changing somewhere more private.

yellowleaves123 · 04/01/2022 15:54

Just a word of warning about sharing stories about your children's nappy changes.

Curious, why? Not that I have shared any

BruceAndNosh · 04/01/2022 15:54

Dirty (as opposed to merely wet) nappies should never be changed in communal spaces. it's bloody grim

Toottooot · 04/01/2022 15:56

@LowlandLucky

Is there a reason the 3 year old is still in nappies ?
Not everyone is as perfect a parent as you. 🤷🏻‍♀️
hangrylady · 04/01/2022 15:59

Gross. Not only the smell but also the lack of dignity for the child. A 3 year old should have some privacy.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/01/2022 16:00

Yes, with a poo nappy they should definitely have left the room!