Toddlers are so irritating

[MiniPumpkin]

I remember years ago seeing a meme about how toddlers are the most irritating thing in the world. I feel like this today. Constant cheek from my 3year old dd, used the naughty step this morning and i got ‘you can’t do this to people’ and ‘I’m going to my grans’.
Save me 🤣
Yanbu- yes this is a hard stage
Yabu- no they are lovely, get over it

Yanbu, but…. Wait until they turn 13, you’ll be remembering the naughty step with fondness

AutumnVibes for you. That sounds utterly miserable. You're definitely not doing a bad job, it isn't your fault and I hope that things get more bearable for you soon.

@Catcrazy83

Yanbu, but…. Wait until they turn 13, you’ll be remembering the naughty step with fondness

I have a 13 year old...it's pretty hellish

Toddlers are marginally worse...you can't take your eyes off them. At least with teens you can go sit in another room, watch a TV show, get on with things without watching their every move! I swear it's the toddler years which put me off having a third.

@doadeer

Ahh my 3 year old is non verbal. I dream of him sassing me 💔

@doadeer mine was non verbal and had no understanding of language at 3, but after two years of painstaking intensive speech therapy he can talk now, hope your little one makes progress soon x

@Florencenotflo

I'll see your toddler and raise you a 5 nearly 6 year old, who yesterday spent 40 minutes arguing with me that the way I was driving to the zoo was longer than Daddy's way.

I pointed out that when daddy drove, we had been to X town before so we're coming from a different direction. And she can neither drive, tell the time/gauge time properly yet, or know anything about miles.

But no, 40 mins on why I was wrong. We did actually have a nice day, but it all started again when we got in the car to come home. FML.

She has to be right. Black is white, day is night... she will argue it!

I have one of those 🤦‍♀️ Sooo much harder work than her three-year-old brother!

@IHateWasps - thank you, x

My 5 year old DD is the daughter of two lawyers. I get to feel the disadvantages of her genetic inheritance on a daily basis 😬. You have my sympathy.

@AutumnVibes

My 3yo is increasingly violent, too. It's awful, isn't it? 7yo has never been aggressive in her life so it was a shock when her brother started. He can be so vicious, and most of the time on purpose (hitting, mainly, sometimes kicking). He also doesn't give a fuck if he hurts someone, and doesn't care about any sort of reprimand. I usually put him on the stairs to get him away from the situation, then tell him to go and apologise to whoever it was (usually DD). If you say, "DS, you're hurting me", he does it more and more, whether he gets a reaction or not.

Sometimes he says he likes to hurt us, and it's horrible. He also gets right up in your face and growls his words through gritted teeth, like he's about to go berserk and attack you. I hate it. It got much, much worse over the holidays so I'm just praying that going back to preschool helps a bit, because quite honestly it's what I dread most. Preschool don't believe me, he's such a good boy there.

Much strength to you, especially dealing with it whilst pregnant

My threenager has just turned 4 this week... he better have left his attitude behind

These are brilliant

My 3 year old on being told it's time for bed tonight "in a minute mummy" then when told again "- ONE minute mummy" then 3rd time of asking I got "oh keep your wig on!" I was like wtf I've no idea where he's got that from!

My 3 year old is RELENTLESS!!!!

Earlier i decide to keep count of how many demands she made - in the space of 5 minutes i counted 11 separate things - including one that turned into a tantrum - she fell, the dog stole her toy and she shouted until i chased him and got it back, she wanted a drink, a cracker etc., lots of ‘why’ questions, demanding I fix torn dress.

She shouts all the time but when any of the rest of us try to talk she says to be quiet!!!

My brain doesn’t get a chance to rest or to think!

@CoodleMoodle I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through it too and grateful that you shared it. It’s such a horrible thing. It’s also baffling, my husband and I rarely ever even argue let alone shout or hit and it’s just hard to understand why he’s suddenly so aggressive. I imagine it’s related to me being pregnant as he will often try to hit, kick or bite my stomach. But again, I feel like we try to approach it in an emotionally healthy way. Mine is the same in that he’s more or less fine at preschool, a bit lively, but nothing on this scale. Which I am relieved about. I wondered if mine is absorbing lots of our anxieties about baby, covid etc.
Worked out that I’m a quarter of the way through him being three, so if nothing else I can cling to the idea that hopefully one day he will grow out of it. But it’s soul destroying in the meantime. Hope things improve for you too and that you manage to squeeze some nice moment in among the grim ones.
Oh, and mine has also gone from sleeping well (7-7) to waking 2/3 times a night and being up for the day at 5 something. So I haven’t had a full night’s sleep for about 4/5 months. Yep, so far, not a fan of age 3 at all.

Mine has taken to yelling “MUMMY, you’re a BAD mummy.” Thanks darling… usually for giving her a “cutted up pear, I wanted it in slices” or other nonsense.

I have a beautiful little almost three year old.

Last night I got "these aren't big enough for your bum mummy" as she pulled a pair of pants out my drawer. She then put them over her head, put her hairband on and went running through the house (while otherwise naked as she'd just got out of a shower)

Her father got the following conversation:

Her "mummy, your my BEST friend..."
Me "aww thank you sweetheart, you're my best friend too"
Dad "hey, what about me? Am I your best friend too? "
Her thinks "no."
Dad "well what am I then?"
Her "your just daddy Paul"

She says it like she's got more than one daddy when I've been with her dad her entire life 😂

I remember my dds as being incredibly hard work as toddlers, especially when I had a baby and toddler, but I found the older they got the easier they got and they've been fine as teenagers so far. (14 and 17) if it's any comfort.

My son had a full blown tantrum this morning because I wouldn't let him eat chalk.
lying on the floor,foot stomping, slamming hands tantrum.... just as we were about to leave the house for nursery/school.
5 minutes later- totally calm like nothing happened. argh

DB came to see me today at home (I'm WFH he's not back at work yet).

Me: is V (his 3.5 year old) not coming back yet? No, he's at nursery. His DW is back at work too.

He told me - they didn't get a rest at all whilst staying with inlaws for some of christmas - but this is also factoring in looking after FIL who's a paraplegic.

I have three year old twins. I can confirm that they can indeed by incredibly irritating. Fortunately they are also hilarious and entertaining, which keeps me from running away.

That naughty step comment is hilarious btw

We had a lovely day just the two of us... until he got into a strop about something inconsequential (to everyone else in the world) on the way home from picking up DD from school, and I had to alternate between carrying him and dragging him along by his sleeve because he wouldn't let me hold his hand.

Oh, and I had his scooter and all of the bags (DD was scooting so couldn't help, but she was super sensible as always...). That was fun.

Now he's in the bath and is furious that I gave him bubbles. I'm sorry DS, I thought you were 3...

Yes hard work but least they are cute and manageable, teenagers on the other hand...................................