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Original poster

To ask if you have a moody/stroppy partner/husband?

101 replies

Friedbanana · 01/01/2022 18:39

Just that! I know mine is, and know that is it common from friends and family, so interested to see how common it is here!

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Aquamarine1029 · 01/01/2022 18:47

No. I wouldn't tolerate it. It's abuse, plain and simple.

Hotyogahotchoc · 01/01/2022 18:48

Yes!

elelel · 01/01/2022 18:49

interested to see how common it is here!

Sadly very common. Lots of women don't recognise abuse Sad

I'm interested to know why you choose to live with a person like that?

Harrriet · 01/01/2022 18:51

Sometimes he is but then so am I sometimes.

Blinkingheckythump · 01/01/2022 18:53

How is it abuse for a person to be moody/stroppy at times? I mean aren't we all?

MrsSugar · 01/01/2022 18:53

Oh absolutely! My husband is genuinely one of the moodiest ppl I know. Don’t worry he does have redeeming features but my god he’s a moody fucker !!!

Squaddiemum7 · 01/01/2022 18:54

Yes and he changes between happy and moody in the blink of an eye and won't say why .

SantaClawsServiette · 01/01/2022 18:55

yes, mine is quite a curmudgeon and always has been, I've always had a strong liking for curmudgeons and difficult grumps though, chances were high I'd marry one. I have a friend married to a chirpy optimist, my idea of Hell.

Suprima · 01/01/2022 18:57

Absolutely not

I wouldn’t be shagging anyone moody

Mummadeze · 01/01/2022 18:59

Yes, the atmosphere revolves around his moods, although they have upset me less as time has gone on. Agree it is a form of abuse though. Also agree that lots of Male partners seem to be similar from the experience of friends. I only really hear of nice partners on Mumsnet to be honest!

MushroomHunter · 01/01/2022 19:00

Yes and so am I! I know that am not the easiest person to live with either but we love each other unconditionally thankfully. Our relation is better because we both recognise our own weaknesses.

Whingasaurus · 01/01/2022 19:04

Yes and so am I! I know that am not the easiest person to live with either but we love each other unconditionally thankfully. Our relation is better because we both recognise our own weaknesses.

This! I'm very teary and emotional and if I'm honest quite passive aggressive. My dh is far from perfect he ls easily irritated quick to take offense and prone to sulking but I love him to bits and vice versa

emsmar · 01/01/2022 19:05

Used to. Left and found a lovely cheery fun man.

Thickasmincepie · 01/01/2022 19:06

Yes. He's got worse with middle age and type 2 diabetes. We roll our eyes at him a lot.

Most of my friends have men with moods.

I am peri menopausal, so whilst I don't have moods, I do have wildly uncontrollable swings. I think that women often spend a lot of years being attuned to their own moods, and so can at least recognise if they're off.

Dh, to be fair, was not moody when he was younger. But he does need to be told to snap out of it.

Shoxfordian · 01/01/2022 19:09

No; I wouldn’t spend time with someone like that

JorisBonson · 01/01/2022 19:10

Not at all. I wouldn't have married him otherwise.

Travis1 · 01/01/2022 19:11

We can both be stroppy bastards. We recognise it and it’s why we work. We’re also both stubborn cunts though and that can end in 3 or 4 days of ‘civilness’ then an eruption and then we’re back to normal. It doesn’t happen nearly as often as it used to when we were younger. We’ve both grown and communication is better. We both come from dysfunctional families in different ways so it was inevitable we’d have issues. Love the fuck out of him though

watchingrnfire · 01/01/2022 19:16

I think am the moody one lol🙈

kwaziseyepatch · 01/01/2022 19:17

Yes, as do most of my friends

MissAmbrosia · 01/01/2022 19:21

No. And I would leave him if he was. Life is too short to tiptoe round other people's funny moods.

Fuzzywuzzyface · 01/01/2022 19:23

Yes, been together over 20 years and he can turn on a penny Sad we can go days without talking. In the beginning it used to really get to me but now I just think fuck him.
I know it is not good for our DS to see so will try and snap him out of it but it can be difficult as he never thinks he has to apologise.

nomorespaghetti · 01/01/2022 19:25

Not DH, definitely not. But my dad was. We had to walk on eggshells around him and it has really affected me. Not a nice way to live. Think I married DH because he’s the opposite of that!

GeodesicDome · 01/01/2022 19:25

Of course not. I'm not a masochist.

MeredithMae · 01/01/2022 19:27

@Aquamarine1029

No. I wouldn't tolerate it. It's abuse, plain and simple.
Grin

I love MN.

I am the moody partner! Luckily my DW is very relaxed and laughs me off and can usually swing my mood around. We balance each other out. Smile not when I'm due on though, NOTHING can keep my moodiness away at that point

DivorcedAndDelighted · 01/01/2022 19:28

Relationships board would be good for this.
I had a moody ExH and put up with it for many years. I now realise that was futile and just added to the unhappiness for both of us. I used to feel like my own happiness depended so much on his mood. I should have called him out on it and not tried to keep the peace. Would never put up with it again.