To ask if you have a moody/stroppy partner/husband?

[Friedbanana]

Just that! I know mine is, and know that is it common from friends and family, so interested to see how common it is here!

No. I can not stand huffiness and he did it once or twice but not for years now. Has never been moody or stroppy. Not to say we don't have the occasional row but always sorted out quickly. No huffs hanging around here. We had a squabble over Christmas lights yesterday- it was utterly pathetic- and he just made some tea and said ' Sorry- I don't know what I was thinking' and I started to laugh and so did he. We were both just ridiculous.
My parents got into awful huffs after rows - they could go on days, even a week - and I just can not bear it.

No, I wouldn't tolerate it.
I have a father who is and was always moody growing up. Always treading on eggshells and living off your nerves, wondering what you had done wrong and made to feel like shit. It was no way to live and sucked the joy out of everything. I couldn't wait to leave home. Even now when I go
home I often feel a weight lifted when I leave. Sometimes he is okay, and it's the not knowing which is also horrible. It's caused me anxiety and continues to affect my relationship with my parents.

No. If anything, I can be, but I try not to be, as it’s a horrible, horrible trait.

DH is not moody, and I am so utterly thankful for that. He can be unhappy about something, sure. But that does not translate into protracted moodiness.

Obviously I can’t see inside my friends’ marriages behind closed doors, but their husbands don’t appear to be moody. My best friend’s husband is the most easy-going, laid-back chap you will ever meet (with a high needs autistic son), and he is incapable of moodiness.

It’s only on MN where I read about these relentlessly awful men.

@Fuzzywuzzyface

Yes, been together over 20 years and he can turn on a penny we can go days without talking. In the beginning it used to really get to me but now I just think fuck him. I know it is not good for our DS to see so will try and snap him out of it but it can be difficult as he never thinks he has to apologise.

What a horrible way for both you and your son to live, and you taking responsibility for trying to make things better

No. I couldn't be with someone like that.

No.

No.
I cannot stand adults who sulk.
My ex was a moody selfish sulking dickhead.

Unfortunately yes, but so am I 😁

My DF wasn’t moody and my DB isn’t moody. My FIL also isn’t moody.

Maybe it just depends on what each person’s ‘normal’ is.

No.

Everyone gets in a bad mood sometimes or snaps unnecessarily. The moody/sulkers are the ones who expect others to suffer the brunt of it for ages instead of saying 'I'm not feeling great, I'll just go for a walk/take the kids to the park/read a book until it passes" or even "sorry but I was upset when you said xyz"

I grew up with a moody, stroppy sibling and swore I would never marry someone like that.

She used to still be moody/stroppy with me as adults (after a massive blow up where I held my ground, she stopped) but in fairness to him her husband never tolerated it - and magically she managed to control her moods.

I think moodiness/sulkiness is the most self-indulgent behaviour there is. Loving having everyone tiptoeing around you.

Yes and I left him 6 months ago.
Bad example for my kids.

I am the moody partner! Luckily my DW is very relaxed and laughs me off and can usually swing my mood around. We balance each other out. smile not when I'm due on though, NOTHING can keep my moodiness away at that point

would love your wife's take on it.

Nope I couldn’t cope with that.

would love your wife's take on it
Why say that? Sounds like Pallisers and her DW have a great relationship.

Only really in the morning for an hour or so. I just normally ignore him then he will randomly start talking to me about something and wont be grumpy any more. Other than that nothing out the ordinary which would make most people grumpy anyway.

No. One of the most important lessons of growing up is learning that your bad mood is not anyone else's problem. Being moody is just childish and selfish. If you can't control yourself, take yourself off and sort it out. It's just not ok.

@bellabride

would love your wife's take on it Why say that? Sounds like Pallisers and her DW have a great relationship.

I'm pallisers - bellabride is the moody one :)

Well we only have bellabride's take on her (him?) being moody and the wife being perfectly happy with it. Lots of women come on here complaining about their moody husbands. Maybe those husbands would say "I'm moody but she makes sure she charms me out of my moods -well except for the really bad ones, those are epic - and she is fine with it" So I'd love to know if Bellabride's wife thinks it is all good.

Were they moody fucks before you married them or happy- go- lucky, cheery chappies who mysteriously changed personalities the second a ring went on their finger?

Yes this 7ear has broken me I’m praying it’s not cancer then I can leave.

I’ve genuinely never known anyone, ever, who didn’t get a bit moody or sulky from time to time. It happens to us all, surely? Some more than others.

No.

People who think they are entitled to set the atmosphere are dicks. It’s very bad for DC.

No not at all he’s easy going sometimes a bit grumpy if he’s tired or stressed but not at me and not for long. I suppose we can all be those things sometimes but it’s not something I would use to describe him as a dominant personality trait say.
I couldn’t be doing with it if it was a common occurrence. I’d hate to be tip toeing around a moody partner for days.

It’s interesting to read these replies! To be fair mine recognises what he needs- time to himself, he goes out for a walk by himself or has a bath or goes to do some reading, then he’s fine! Work can often get him down for weeks though. And today we were out and something stressed him and that was a bit annoying! I am completely the opposite and very rarely moody when I’m in company, always smile, easily cheered up by him if I am having a bad day and he’s making an effort to cheer me up! I wish he was as easily cheered up! But the older I get the better I am at doing things to please myself when he’s in a mood, not letting his bad mood affect mine!

No. I mean he can get a bit stressed and tense at times but he's a human being. We can't always be sunshine and light. I am more moody than him (and I certainly don't feel like I'm abusing him by being moody occasionally). Looking at relationships of people I know I'd say the women are more moody than the men...

Me and my partner both know that we have moods but we work together to manage them - like we really prioritise giving each other the time say at a weekend to go out and do our own exercise, while the other cares for our child. We know through experience that without exercise we can get moody and irritable, but when we come back from a run / cycle etc we feel much better. Everyone gets moody - it’s if you don’t manage it and recognise your patterns / put things in place to fix it that it becomes a problem. I couldn’t be with someone that didn’t try and fix the underlying issue.