To ask if you have a moody/stroppy partner/husband?

[Friedbanana]

Just that! I know mine is, and know that is it common from friends and family, so interested to see how common it is here!

No. I have a lovely, kind hearted, cheerful DH.

I had a moody exH. That's why he's an ex. Life's too short to live with an arsehole and tiptoe round their moods.

Yes and sometimes so am I.

Honestly for those that have one of these life is too short.
My DF was a volatile moody man too, it is not something I want for my DC it has a huge impact on the family.
I've been there before too, it infuriated me making the relationship a war zone.

Nope. Life is too short to deal with that shit.

No. Mine is very easy going and never moody or stroppy. I couldn't be with him if he was.

My dad is like this, as other pps have mentioned, it just created a terrible atmosphere. I was always anxious growing up. My husband is incredibly good natured, cheerful and silly, I love him to pieces. He can get hangry but snaps right out of it with a little snack!

My DH is unbearable at times...
Always been like this. Not sure why I married him, sometimes.
Went out with some lovely fellas before him.
We have a child now, so I don’t know if the marriage will last.

@boofg

No, I wouldn't tolerate it. I have a father who is and was always moody growing up. Always treading on eggshells and living off your nerves, wondering what you had done wrong and made to feel like shit. It was no way to live and sucked the joy out of everything. I couldn't wait to leave home. Even now when I go home I often feel a weight lifted when I leave. Sometimes he is okay, and it's the not knowing which is also horrible. It's caused me anxiety and continues to affect my relationship with my parents.

Same - it was fucking horrible. I'll never stop being relieved I can just leave if he ever starts when I'm there now. Couldn't do that as a child and it completely destroyed all self esteem and what I feel I should put up with regards men. I'm nervy, anxious, passive and vulnerable around men.

I can be moody with DC but that's only in reaction to their behaviour - my dad's moods were rarely about anything we had done but we all had to suffer

Sometimes he is, yes. But I can be a moody bugger sometimes too.

But he's not like that all the time and we don't take our bad moods out on each other which I think is the important thing.

I don't think there's a single human being out there who can honestly say that they never get moody, stroppy, tense or stressed. They're all normal parts of being human - what matters is how to deal with it, not that you experience those emotions in the first place.

Yeah, mine is moody/angry. So frustrating as he worked hard to hide it or find outlets - till I had a baby and now I can’t leave for “just” a bit of grumpiness.

Nope. He goes quiet if feeling unwell (gets dizzy spells) but other than that, smiles when he wakes up and still smiling when he goes to sleep.

Must be me that makes him smiles so much 😂

No he’s not moody at all. I’m fairly easy going myself and dislike confrontation so I’d hate if he was moody - I’d rather be on my own

I don't. DH is very even-tempered and doesn't have mood swings over trivia or over nothing at all. I'm similar, though from time to time I'll have a sudden mood dip which lasts for two or three days and I have to remember that it isn't because of anything DH has or hasn't done, it's just me being paranoid. I'm probably noticeably quieter at those times because I'm suppressing irrational thoughts.

I was moodier and more volatile when I was younger than I am now, and my XH was pessimistic and tended to contradict or find fault with everything and everyone so the atmosphere was often unpleasant. We'd both grown up in households in which outbursts of bad temper were commonplace and didn't realise that there was an alternative.

TigerKat. I’m easygoing, and must agree with you. I hate the aggro with my DH. He’s the one that brings it. And it often ruins my day...

Yes die to his neurologically degenerative condition or I wouldn't put up with it

Yes over the last few years he's become a real sulker. He has terrible sulks which can last a few days. He can never just have a row then make up it goes on and on and on....
If I ask what's wrong he says 'the way you treat me'
His dad was the same at the same age.
Many of my friends say similar. I can't stand it

Married a cheerful, laid-back man. Then the pandemic and lockdown happened. Now I live with an angry, reactive, moody husband. The whole covid situation has totally changed his personality. I don't even know who he is any more.

Mine is very grumpy and moody. But it suits me and my personality very well.

My Ex was so easygoing, life and soul of the party, got on with everyone….and it made me by contrast look like the miserable one. Which I hated. Always felt somehow in competition with him, and overlooked by friends and family as he was always the centre of attention.

I’m 1000 times happier in myself with DH, as I am always seen as the happy, cheerful one - which supports my own self-view and makes me feel under less pressure somehow.

@Harrriet

Sometimes he is but then so am I sometimes.

At last, an honest woman on MN, a gem among the self-declared perfection.

Yep, mine has got a horrible temper. I'm sick of having to tiptoe around his anger, and him taking his moods out on me and DDs. They're only little (3 and 6) and they adore their Daddy. He's just like my Dad - I hated that feeling of walking on eggshells as a child and fear that's what DDs are going to know.

He's just like my Dad - I hated that feeling of walking on eggshells as a child and fear that's what DDs are going to know.

Your history has clouded your judgment here. Those kids are only doing to know that feeling of you let them. Please break the cycle.

Not any more !

@Shoxfordian

No; I wouldn’t spend time with someone like that

This.

Though I have come across some moody men, I certainly wouldn't have married one #fxxkingdisaster

He can be grumpy and loses his temper easily but it is never directed at me and his mood passes quickly. I will readily call him out if I think he's being a dick but on the other hand if he can't show his feelings and emotions to me and know I'll have his back, then it'd be a very sad marriage. I love dh and noone is perfect.

Middle age it started they get more short tempered I've seen it with friends husband's . I think ageing, testosterone levels, health issues and vanity all play their part. We do a lot of eye rolling too.