@Notimeforaname
You keep coming back over and over with the same fatuous "I have my opinion, you have yours, each to their own, it's all fiiiiine (insincere smile emoji)" remark. Why? Unless you want to actually address any of the questions made to you, instead of repeating this blanket anodyne cluster of stock phrases, what is the point of engaging with the thread?
I say this as someone with no strong opinion on drag per se across the board. Loved Priscilla Queen of the Desert as a teen (although aware it would now be considered problematic that none of the three leads were actually gay or trans or queens). I think the "fishy" thing sounds disgusting and vulgar but so is a lot of comedy so it depends how it's being done and in what context. I think it is completely bonkers to suggest that drag is not inherently heavily sexualised and therefore isn't for kids - even in PQOTD I remember being troubled at the involvement of Mitzi's young son in the show etc. Of course it is sexualised, that's a huge part of the art and the humour.
I actually think this is true of panto dames too having recently been to panto with my 5yo - was actually shocked how explicit and sexual some of the jokes and visual gags were, I know it's meant to be "for the grown ups" but it does feel rather inappropriate in a room full of small kids. Found myself trying to explain some of the jokes to my curious young daughter and realised I could not explain to her what was supposed to be "funny" about it without first explaining some quite niche sexual and socio-cultural stuff to her first which was age inappropriate.
Anyhow the point is there are nuances, CV variations and contradictions within the range of what can be described as "drag"; it is all one thing or all the other, and ones sacred "personal opinion" on any subject cannot be restricted solely to one's own direct experience of things because that will of course result in a view which is embarassingly ignorant and partial because no-one's individual experience will ever be comprehensive enough to give a fully informed, well rounded opinion on a wide ranging subject. Just as someone who has only watched RPDR does not have a comprehensive understanding of what drag is and can be, neither can you allow what you have experienced from watching (and I think you've said participating in) your best friend's act to lead you to say "this is not problematic, this is drag, therefore drag is not problematic" this is a fallacy. And along with your patronising "I don't find these things offensive, it's totally fine if YOU do though, no-one is right or wrong!" equivocating, I can't help feeling you are totally missing the point of, you know, a discussion board. I mean of course we are all entitled to hold an opinion, to disagree with each others', and to continue to hold to our own opinion in the face of disagreement. But why bother coming onto a forum to say "I think this because this" and then to every single post saying "but what about x" or "how does that continue to hold true in y context", "ok but have you heard about z, does that change your view, if not why not?", reply "I think this because this" with absolutely zero engagement? If all you plan to do is restate the exact same opinion over and over why not just do it once and have done?
Also I find the whole "I don't find it offensive so shrug" attitude really annoying in almost any debate about what is and isn't an issue for women. I mean there are PLENTY of women who have told me they love being catcalled and beeped at because it makes them feel attractive. As far as I'm aware it's still legal for men to toot their horns and pass remarks at women going about their business in the street. Does that mean that street harassment is just a matter of personal opinion, nobody's right or wrong, shrug? Or is there actually a discussion to be had there?
Anyhow enough - as I say in a sea of things I'm bothered about drag qua drag is very low down the list. I just found your prolific and yet bad faith engagement in this debate annoying enough to pass remark on.