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What did your DC's school do if you couldn't get your DC to school as you are too unwell?

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UndertheCedartree · 01/01/2022 02:32

Just posting here for traffic.

If you are a single parent and have been in a situation that you were still ill to get your DC to school what did school do? I will probably be in this situation next week. This happened once prior to Covid and some of the pastoral care teachers came and picked my DD up. It happened once recently and they suggested she stay at home and do online learning. That was fine as I had twisted my ankle and couldn't put any weight on it but I could help with online learning. However this time I have Covid and will not be able to do online learning with her.

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SavoyCabbage · 02/01/2022 22:38

The funnel.

RedHelenB · 02/01/2022 22:45

@SavoyCabbage

The funnel.
What funnel?
GrolliffetheDragon · 02/01/2022 22:51

I have also experienced this when working full time and using wraparound care. I knew noone.

I work full time and my parents were doing drop offs and pick ups pre-covid so I don't know any of the other parents. No WhatsApp group that I know of. Surely it can't be that unusual?

Janus · 02/01/2022 22:55

I’m really pleased bitesize has continued, I think I knew that but wasn’t sure it was at the really fab level it was during the lockdown this time last year? It was a godsend to us, sometimes opening up the art homework which was (literally) 26 pages long on Egyptian knots was just too much to even begin to get and engage a 9 year old with! Bitesize was much more condense and made us at least do art rather than just give up!
The tiredness is overwhelming, I wouldn’t know unless I was in day 9 and know how it can affect someone. Again, I really hope it passes soon.

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UndertheCedartree · 02/01/2022 23:47

[quote BitcherOfBlakiven]@UndertheCedartree the people who can’t imagine having zero support must lead such lovely lives Sad Sorry, my mother is an unbearable alcoholic and my DC have never met her. My Dad moved 100s of miles away when I was a child, to be with his new wife, I haven’t seen him since. My Grandparents are far too old to assist me in any way. All my friends work too. Just the way the cards fell for me.[/quote]
Yes, it can be rather galling when people don't understand that they aren't in the position they criticise you for precisely because for whatever reason they have support and if you don't it isn't a moral failing!

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UndertheCedartree · 02/01/2022 23:50

@GrolliffetheDragon

I have also experienced this when working full time and using wraparound care. I knew noone.

I work full time and my parents were doing drop offs and pick ups pre-covid so I don't know any of the other parents. No WhatsApp group that I know of. Surely it can't be that unusual?

You wouldn't have thought so. I'll be honest I've thought how useful a Watsapp group would be but how can you set one up unless you know the other parents and their phone numbers?
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UndertheCedartree · 02/01/2022 23:51

@Janus

I’m really pleased bitesize has continued, I think I knew that but wasn’t sure it was at the really fab level it was during the lockdown this time last year? It was a godsend to us, sometimes opening up the art homework which was (literally) 26 pages long on Egyptian knots was just too much to even begin to get and engage a 9 year old with! Bitesize was much more condense and made us at least do art rather than just give up! The tiredness is overwhelming, I wouldn’t know unless I was in day 9 and know how it can affect someone. Again, I really hope it passes soon.
Thank you and to you too Flowers
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icklekid · 03/01/2022 03:06

@GrolliffetheDragon

I have also experienced this when working full time and using wraparound care. I knew noone.

I work full time and my parents were doing drop offs and pick ups pre-covid so I don't know any of the other parents. No WhatsApp group that I know of. Surely it can't be that unusual?

I think to know none of the parents must be… surely your child is friends with some of the children? Goes to parties or wants to see some of the children outside of school? Unless they are in reception but even then it’s a third of the way through the year? I work 4 days but still made an effort to find out who my children were friends with and connect with their parents?
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UndertheCedartree · 03/01/2022 03:16

You don't necessarily get invited to the parties if you don't know any of the other parents. Plus I'm a nurse so often couldn't make things at weekends anyway. Then when my DD was a little older I was ill in hospital. So it can be hard for various reasons. And then even now I do know a few people...mone near us for walking to school.

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mathanxiety · 03/01/2022 04:02

Living in the US, it's the usual thing in my area to have a school directory with contact information for all the families in the school. This made helping out and asking for help really easy.

ChimChimeny · 03/01/2022 08:08

Hi OP, I also have a 9 year old (year 5) and she wouldn't want to walk to school on her own (about 20 mins each way) but she has started walking out of the playground to meet me off school grounds and we are going to gradually build that up over this year and in year 6. There are some kids who walk to/from school on their own but they are in the minority.

We used The Maths Factor in the first lock down, you can get a free trial and DD could do.It on her own. She used www.timetables.co.uk instead.of TTRS because there isn't a timer, there are games on there too. Also try the Newsround website, DD enjoys reading stories on there and there are some games too.

Hopefully she is well enough for school end of the week/early next week and you get some help. Hope you feel better soon too

ChimChimeny · 03/01/2022 08:09

Also wanted to add that I tried the Oak.academy and DD couldn't follow it on her own either so your DD is not alone!

Excitedforthefuture · 03/01/2022 08:13

* The situation at home is caused by Covid nothing else*

Op I remain as confused as ever

You are up to posting regularly and very articulately on this thread
School doesn’t start until tomorrow
You’re some way in to your isolation period

Basically, why are you getting your knickers in a twist about this?

Excitedforthefuture · 03/01/2022 08:14

You say it has nothing to do with your existing serious mental health condition

Does it occur to you that perhaps your response to getting covid is very much linked to your mental health condition?

lololololollll · 03/01/2022 08:28

Crikey, I wish I hadn't read this. The ignorance and nastiness form others on here who are in their own perfect bubble has put me in a bad mood! I'm not in this position myself but someone who works for me is and I have so much sympathy for her. Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves

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Excitedforthefuture · 03/01/2022 09:15

Sarcastic?

There is no sarcasm in any of my posts. Not even a hint.

esloquehay · 03/01/2022 09:19

@Excitedforthefuture, have you heard of Johari's Window?

Excitedforthefuture · 03/01/2022 09:20

No
And can’t be bothered to Google

Hb12 · 03/01/2022 09:41

Never heard of a class WhatsApp group 🤷

SoupDragon · 03/01/2022 10:32

@Excitedforthefuture

Sarcastic?

There is no sarcasm in any of my posts. Not even a hint.

"Does it occur to you...." is pretty sarcastic actually.
KarlUrbansWife · 05/01/2022 19:46

@Hb12

Never heard of a class WhatsApp group 🤷
You're so lucky. They're all the rage round here, in all schools.
Lancrelady80 · 05/01/2022 20:29

think to know none of the parents must be… surely your child is friends with some of the children? Goes to parties or wants to see some of the children outside of school? Unless they are in reception but even then it’s a third of the way through the year? I work 4 days but still made an effort to find out who my children were friends with and connect with their parents?

So you had one day where you could meet and talk to other parents, which is more than some of us who rely on others/wrap around care do.

And the friend thing? Ch with ASD and other social communication difficulties don't necessarily make or have friends. They may play alongside, not with, and don't see a difference. They may be in their own little bubble.

It's not that unusual to struggle for a support network when things go wrong. It just takes an unfortunate set of circumstances.

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