We are going to leave

[FluffyT]

This is my NY resolution and I am putting it out there.
I am taking my DS and we’re leaving. By the end of 2022 we will have gone and be getting on with our lives without fear.
He is not going to hurt us much longer.
We are done here. We are getting out.

Good luck to you. A brilliant decision. No matter how bumpy the road may be, remember that you will be happier. And safer!

Good for you. I hope you achieve peace, happiness, contentment and serenity and a sense of well being.

Well done!

I mean this very respectfully - may I ask why you're waiting until the end of 2022?

Wishing you luck !
Well done 👏 and happy new year 🥳

You have got this. Keep focused it will be so worth it
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You sound like a powerful and determined woman. Consider starting a dedicated countdown thread on here. You could get so much support and advice. Happy new year.

Yes you are.
Best of luck to you and your Son, you deserve to be happy.

Yes, you are going to leave.
It will be the best thing you ever do.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Good luck in planning you’ll need months to plan properly all the best get passport bank account in own name online is best no paper trail for him to notice.

here for you @FluffyT

Dig deep-you can do it!!!

don't look back

Yes. Be safe, get help, tell people. Leave soon xx

Do it asap, don't drag it out. best wishes for a better life for you and your dc.

Brilliant.

I hope you feel all our support as you gain strength and gather belongings to get out

Wishing it brings you a restful 2022.

We have been planning and preparing for months. We will be gone by April I hope. It’s so hard when you don’t qualify for any help until you have actually left and refuges won’t take teen boys. We have tried multiple times before but it’s never worked out. This time is it. We are doing it on our own.

Best of luck op. That is a good resolution. Stay safe.

Good on you, I did the same in 2020. Won't lie, is it easy? Of course not! But it was the right thing to do! Sharing love and feel free to pm for an anonymous friendly ear x

Good for you! Be strong, be clever, be safe. You've got this!

Would you like to talk about what you've been through?

Take care and good luck OP. You can do this. Wishing a very happy future for you and your DS.

My best wishes for you and DS. We got out 4 years ago, the best thing I ever did.

If your DS is at school, ask them about counselling, a lot of schools have access to counselling. My DS is now getting help from his college, whichh I'm so grateful for.

Good for you OP. Take care 💪

@mathanxiety

Would you like to talk about what you've been through?

Oh god, I don’t know. It’s a common thing going on posts I read on here. It has taken me a very long time to get to get to this place, where I can see that I really can do it and just leave and whatever happens will be better than what we have now. It’s really hard to find the help and support if you don’t fit into the right categories. I have not been forthcoming though, I know that. It is terribly embarrassing and shameful to admit that the person that’s supposed to love you treats you and your child so badly. Christmas was awful. We are both black and blue. Next Christmas and new year will not be like this.

Great news @FluffyT

There is no need to feel embarrassed and the only person that should be feeling shame is your (soon to be ex) partner.

Do please keep coming here for help, support and advice. Mumsnetters are also very clued up on what help/benefits you might be entitled to if you need financial assistance so just keep posting when you can.

Wishing you and your DS the very best for 2022.

Wishing you and your son all the very best

May your new life be filled with joy and freedom!