Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

[Floogal]

Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

I don't use face book, insta or any of the social media nightmares. Mumsnet is about as much as I can cope with 🤗. It's freeing, liberating and makes life so much more pleasant not having to read all the nonsense. It has significantly reduced my levels of irritation, anxiety, FOMO since I broke away about 2 years ago .
The truth is that no one really gives a stuff about anyone else's kids or what they're doing. It's all a load of vacuous rubbish.

Then come off Facebook - simple

I too…… get that raging arsehole! I don’t think I was born to be around adult humans!

My current favourite is an acquaintance, who just happens to be a mental health professional, posting about mental health and how she is there for anyone who needs it, yet she was the meanest high school bully and the local gossip, which she has never grown out of. So many victims in her wake who undoubtedly suffered MH issues due to her vile behaviour. Yeah, as if I'm going to chat to you about anything you two faced cunt! There, I feel better getting that off my chest.

I had the same irritation with our local WhatsApp group, never been on Facebook, but usual annoying comments/questions so I left it and haven’t looked back. Feel so much calmer not knowing what the neighbours are talking about. Would strongly advise anyone to do the same and get on with your life in peace😊

Agree with this totally. It’s amazing how much lighter you feel without all the nonsense😊💕

@CrapDrawer

I get annoyed by similar posts and also posts where someone has found a phone/ bank card/ jewellery and posts on FB to find the owner. What if they’re not on FB. Really annoys me. Take to local police station or send bank card to the bank! Always seems to be someone wanting a bit of glory for doing a good deed but not thinking of the best way to actually get an item back to its owner.

Can't agree with all of this one I'm afraid. So many items are able to be returned because of FB. Bank cards should always be either taken to any bank or cut up immediately. Too easy to replace, even easier to commit fraud with. I don't know about ALL police stations but in my area they don't accept lost property and haven't for years. They don't even take reports on lost items unless it's cash.

Oooo the ‘mental health/don’t suffer alone/my door is always open for you posts’. It means “I’d love to hear all your problems cause I’m going to share them and gossip with as many people as i can’

Often starts or ends with a ‘let’s see who reposts this’ - Hint it’s always the same bell end friends who also post this shit.

We have a few local Fb groups. There’s one woman who posts daily about her 9 year old daughter on EVERY group and I feel so sorry for that child. If she’s not making bird feeders from china cups and being dragged around numerous Christmas markets to sell her wares mum advertises the child doing at home fitness classes on video link, being a Christmas Elf from 23rd December all through Christmas delivering oatcakes and biscuits to people, doing lockdown crafts, being part of a theatre group - and the endless posts go on. That child must barely have time to breathe and it’s such a shame she simply can’t be allowed to enjoy her childhood. It’s actually very sad to watch.

@CrapDrawer

I get annoyed by similar posts and also posts where someone has found a phone/ bank card/ jewellery and posts on FB to find the owner. What if they’re not on FB. Really annoys me. Take to local police station or send bank card to the bank! Always seems to be someone wanting a bit of glory for doing a good deed but not thinking of the best way to actually get an item back to its owner.

I think that it’s a good thing……

There have been a few similar posts on my small village FB group page. The owners have been found usually the same day and haven’t had to go through the inconvenience of being without their bank card or phone for many days or upset at losing a treasured item of jewellery.
If the owner of the lost item isn’t on FB they have probably told friends of their loss who are on FB. Also the nearest police station is miles away.🙂

I can somewhat understand people asking if they know of anyone in need of items simply because our local charity shops don't have the capacity to take in any more items at the moment and alot of people are flytipping outside of them - (meaning the charities actually then have to pay to get rid of now useless items). But as for the rest of it there's no need to announce charitable to the world and it is just attention seeking. It's lovely that people do it of course but it makes me wonder if they would still do it if they weren't getting a lot of praise for it.

@Mumkins42

I don't use face book, insta or any of the social media nightmares. Mumsnet is about as much as I can cope with 🤗. It's freeing, liberating and makes life so much more pleasant not having to read all the nonsense. It has significantly reduced my levels of irritation, anxiety, FOMO since I broke away about 2 years ago . The truth is that no one really gives a stuff about anyone else's kids or what they're doing. It's all a load of vacuous rubbish.

Totally agree Mumkins42. I left all social media 4 years ago and don't miss it. The only media I go on is Mumsnet. X

There's a mum on a local freecycle group, I actually know her and had her on Facebook.

She asks for things everyday because she's so strapped for cash, clothes for her kids, sofas, potty's, tablets anything you can think of but it has to be delivered for free because she can't possibly get a bus with 2 children! All while bragging about having her nails done, makeup done by an mua for nights out, what new wigs she's bought, smoking weed every night etc.

Drove me mad but anyone dare tell her to sort her priorities out and she's cries to everyone on Facebook and theres people that actually support her with the "it's none of their business hun"

Donate and do things anonymously without fuss.
By far the best way, surely?

My particular favourite was when my then toddler lost a very treasured toy. I had no idea where he had dropped it, only that it was local, most likely in the street so I posted to see if anyone had found it. Someone replied, she had seen it at the local doctors reception. Only I couldn't collect it from there as she had taken it upon herself to claim it then bring it home with her! I had to arrange to meet her at her house and felt obliged to hand over a 'reward' for her 'good deed'.

On a train to Reading a few months ago, virtually empty carriages, I sat in aisle seat, noticed something stuck between inside seat and wall of carriage. Was an iPhone with train tickets (16-25 discount) and bank card between see through back of case and phone.
Thought about handing it to railway lost property but you never know, lots if faffing getting the right person to deal with it blah blah.
Phone was open. I rang last number. It was friend of the lad who owned phone. He got lad's mum to ring me and she sent her address to my own mobile after I said I'd send it which I did the following day, first class tracked signed for.
I would never hand it to police, bus or train company. I do my own digging.

@emsmar

Is Tesco open today?

Is the tip open?

What time does the x19 bus come at?

Google it ffs!

The virtue signalling is desperate too.

That would do my head in🙄 So glad I'm not on FB!

Or checks into the hospital or doctors surgery, loads of 'oh are you ok' replies...then nothing! They just go silent so everyone can assume worst. Or does any one have the telephone number for....oh yeah I'm with you on this one, absolutely rage inducing. YANBU

@Lairymary

We had: "I have just been followed by a suspicious looking black male whilst out for a walk with my newborn, his hood was pulled up so I couldn't see his face but he was wearing a grey jacket and black joggers, just to make people aware." Response: Err that was me on my lunchtime walk, my hood was up because it's cold. Sorry for being black

Fucking hilarious 😂 Poor sod!

@Thewolvesarerunningagain

Heck yes Coffeerunner. That is definitely something that boils my piss. ‘I have chosen to donate to charity rather than send cards this year’. So that’s two quid fifty for the cat rescue then? Great, they’ll live large on that. Crazy virtue signalling that only comes from people who could easily afford to send cards and donate to charity.

@notatroll45
I had similar on NextDoor. Bought clothes (she told me order number🤔😳) trainers, she asked for 50 pounds 'spends' as was going to visit b/f I sent 30 which she returned via PayPal as she had a row and went home (sofa surfing) which was honest and good of her as I didn't expect it t. Asked various other favours as moving into temp accomodation. Bought mobile WiFi unit. Was asked for 100 towards buying a puppy. That wasn't going to happen so I rang seller.
I don't hear from her now but hope she's ok. She was wanted on a warrant.
You do your best for those struggling but sometimes it gets a bit much.

Using that particular expletive phrase ASAP 🤣🤣🤣

[quote Dontwanttolivewithmylover]@notatroll45
I had similar on NextDoor. Bought clothes (she told me order number🤔😳) trainers, she asked for 50 pounds 'spends' as was going to visit b/f I sent 30 which she returned via PayPal as she had a row and went home (sofa surfing) which was honest and good of her as I didn't expect it t. Asked various other favours as moving into temp accomodation. Bought mobile WiFi unit. Was asked for 100 towards buying a puppy. That wasn't going to happen so I rang seller.
I don't hear from her now but hope she's ok. She was wanted on a warrant.
You do your best for those struggling but sometimes it gets a bit much.[/quote]
I seriously hope she didn’t get a puppy!
Pups - dogs- need stability and also money to keep well
Never mind insurance and vets fees.

I knew a chaotic woman on dole who bought a horse.
Now that’s an animal that is not cheap to keep well.

Insanity

Our Next Door currently has an extremely irate woman demanding to know who signed her up for these intrusive emails and that they should stop them immediately!
She's very angry. I really want to tell her that the person she should be directing her ire is herself but I might let her rant a bit longer 😂

I saw an annoying one recently. A lady took a photo of a load of lovely clothes in my daughters size. I’m pretty skint and thought I’d love to buy those if they’re going cheap. However the post said ‘my daughter has kindly said she would like to give these away to someone who is in need and doesn’t have much money. The person in highest amount of need gets them. No grabby people please as this is only for people who have nothing’
Lots of replies of ‘you’re so kind’ and how wonderful her daughter is but no one is going to want to explain their case to them and tell them how little they have just to prove to her! I’m not going to degrade myself to that.