Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

[Floogal]

Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

@DillonPanthersTexas

In a fit or childish behaviour I once put up a missing pet poster up at a local bus shelter, the missing pet in question was 200kg fully grown silver back gorilla called Elvis. It was clearly a spoof wind up but it made its way onto the nextdoor app where several folk took it seriously and wanted to know what kind of person kept such a dangerous animal as a pet. Most saw it for what it was, a joke, and pointed this out to the gullible few but they would not let it go and spent days demanding that the owner come forward and report themselves to the police and RSPCA. It became a further joke for some to report 'sightings' of Elvis around the neighborhood, using the swings at the playground, on the roof of Tesco's etc to which the same idiots thinking it was real were getting in twist demanding why Tesco's were doing nothing about said ape on their roof.

I actually felt a bit bad that people that thick were being taken advantage of

😂😂😂

Also when people offers something massive that’s now left outside in the middle of the night and needs a 20 tonne truck and 10 people to move it and there’s 50 posts underneath:

“Oh I really want that but I don’t have any way to pick it up. Can someone pls just pick it up and drop it round at my place?”

“Can someone go now and check if the item is still there then if it is hold it for me at their place till I get back from holidays next month?”

“I see the item is now been taken, I’ve been looking for something like that for two years and I really need it. It’s not really fair that just because I didn’t see the post till now that I missed out. Can whoever took it please let me know so I can collect it?”

A number of years ago, some of our 'nosey neighbours' called the police on a van with two men which had been parked for a while 'acting suspiciously'. Turns out they were planning to kidnap and potentially murder (they had their written plan with them) Joss Stone.

Completely agree! Have stuff I don't want that I want to give to people in need. Only reply if you're needy. As if!

If you are so altruistic just drop it off at a charity shop, refuge etc. No virtue signaling needed.

In our community posting something someone has dropped almost always gets back to the right person.

I buy all my Christmas cards directly from charity shops thus both giving to charity AND sending Christmas cards. It's not hard.

There seems to be a mix of casual racism (and "Northernism") - people knocking on doors with northern accents or dodgy people handing around and somehow people know they're Eastern European without speaking to them

Indeed. This is totally outing but a recent conversation on ours was someone asking if the local Chinese restuarant was any good because the outside 'looked like a traveller's site'.

This is totally outing but here is the 'offending' building....

During lock down it was mostly hysterical posts about dog napping, there seemed to be a white van that had been identified as being dog nappers - not sure who actually decided that they were - but lots of posts, sharing of the number plate and pics of the van (who of course had foreign looking drivers, possibly Eastern European, but never said how they knew this), it was daily and getting more hysterical by the post.

Funnily enough 18 months later no dogs have been stolen.

@WorraLiberty

YANBU but Mumsnet is no different at times, except those who want a pat on the back try to shoehorn their post into an 'AIBU'? question.

"I saw an old lady crying in the street and I stopped to ask what's wrong. A friend said I should've ignored her and now I'm doubting myself. AIBU?"

Yes, you should've kicked her in the fanny instead 🙄🙄

OMG yeah, the sort of post that says 'was I being unreasonable to have paid the £27.90 bill at the checkout, for the poor young mum with 3 kids in tow, whose transaction didn't go through, because she didn't have enough money in the bank?'

SOOOO attention seeking, and sad......

Why the FUCK would it be unreasonable to help someone pay their bill if they didn't have enough money?!

We used to have a rock painting hide/find thing in my old town, a bit like a community treasure hunt. It was a bit of fun for everyone but a few kill joy's were outraged that an adult might enjoy taking part and were occasionally labelled as weird, or strange. One poor person who is known to have MH/SN issues would often be seen walking around the usual rock hiding spots (usually very peaceful places that would really benefit anyone looking for a bit of calm) and the FB patrol were "scared that one's children may come into contact with them" "should they even be outside". It was seriously disgusting behaviour. I don't have FB/SM anymore as it has had such an awful impact on people's behaviour and attitudes. I can't really bare to watch anymore.

I'm on a few different local groups in my area and each of them seems to have a token misogynistic man that leaps on posts by women with either a sarcastic or a downright obnoxious reply.

@BackInBlackAgain

During lock down it was mostly hysterical posts about dog napping, there seemed to be a white van that had been identified as being dog nappers - not sure who actually decided that they were - but lots of posts, sharing of the number plate and pics of the van (who of course had foreign looking drivers, possibly Eastern European, but never said how they knew this), it was daily and getting more hysterical by the post.

Funnily enough 18 months later no dogs have been stolen.

It's always white vans, isn't it? Because no one has every stolen something with a red/black/blue van

Someone posted a couple of weeks before Christmas asking where they could buy an artificial Christmas tree. It took all I had not to respond with "literally fucking anywhere, supermarket, B&M, garden centre, Amazon, Argos, take your pick". I think she may have been after a freebie but why not just ask if anyone has one they don't want!

A few posters on local sites have been hauled over the coals for posting complaints or telling people not to use or go to specifically named businesses.

It seems people post on FB without directly contacting the offending business/person which many posters thought was very unfair and told them so pointing out they could potentially harm someone's livelihood with just one aggrieved person's whinge.

We have a rule in our FB group that you can't badmouth local businesses, but some people have extended that to the local leisure centre and South Western Rail. The leisure centre is operated by nationwide company Everyone Active, so I think both they and SWR are fair game

@CharlotteGoldenblattYork

I'm on a few different local groups in my area and each of them seems to have a token misogynistic man that leaps on posts by women with either a sarcastic or a downright obnoxious reply.

Yes!!!! We have a few culprits who seem to enjoy posting sarcastic know-it-all comments to any woman asking a question. Always white middle aged men, the type to have their education listed as ‘school of hard knocks’ & a pub car park photo on their profile.

Or when someone asks where to get a decent full English breakfast, and most of the replies are "cook your own". Gee thanks, so helpful

or when someone asks where you can get a nice Sunday roast and people say "my house". Well yes, but you are not going to invite them to yours, are you?

I'm on a few different local groups in my area and each of them seems to have a token misogynistic man that leaps on posts by women with either a sarcastic or a downright obnoxious reply

we have someone who knows everything from keeping huskies, to ultra running to plumbing to psychology, to diet methods - you name it, he's the expert. Interestingly I met someone the other week who said she was in the year below him at school and said he was just as much of a know-all then.

@ColsterGalWorth

There seems to be a mix of casual racism (and "Northernism") - people knocking on doors with northern accents or dodgy people handing around and somehow people know they're Eastern European without speaking to them

Indeed. This is totally outing but a recent conversation on ours was someone asking if the local Chinese restuarant was any good because the outside 'looked like a traveller's site'.

This is totally outing but here is the 'offending' building....

Ah, a row of lights and some small shrubs. The bastards.

Our NextDoor group is a hotbed of loons. It’s a lovely mix of virtue signalling, complaining about the council (who could be giving away puppies and flowers and someone would still whinge about it), Covid hysteria, cats in gardens (“Shall I take it to the vet? It’s been sitting on my shed for 20 minutes”), over-priced homemade tat, “I need a removals company/plumber/cleaner tomorrow but I don’t want to pay for it” begging and a particular individual who treats it like her personal FB page on which to document her mental health/social/financial issues.

As for local FB groups and their “does anyone know wat dayz da bins r bein collected at chrismas?” posts, I itch to use Let Me Google That For You, but I’d get banned.

lmgtfy.app/#gsc.tab=0

'To the person who didn't stop at a crossing/honked their horn/scared my child as they drove past....'
Yes, I'm sure that person got straight onto Facebook as soon as they got home to see if there was a post about them that they could apologies on 😂

@Thorilicious

'To the person who didn't stop at a crossing/honked their horn/scared my child as they drove past....' Yes, I'm sure that person got straight onto Facebook as soon as they got home to see if there was a post about them that they could apologies on 😂

I love the anti-social behaviour ones. Especially if accompanied by "What is wrong with people?"

Have to say this thread has passed an enjoyable half hour as I sit in bed with COVID.

@BackInBlackAgain

During lock down it was mostly hysterical posts about dog napping, there seemed to be a white van that had been identified as being dog nappers - not sure who actually decided that they were - but lots of posts, sharing of the number plate and pics of the van (who of course had foreign looking drivers, possibly Eastern European, but never said how they knew this), it was daily and getting more hysterical by the post.

Funnily enough 18 months later no dogs have been stolen.

Yes yes to this!

We had reports of a dog having been stolen, but no one knew what breed, colour, size etc

Just it was taken from Acacia Avenue, but no one knew whose dog it was.

Because no dog was taken!

@Doyouknowtheway

So annoying and the ones who claim their kids had the idea are the worst. Your kids don't want to litter pick 9-5 every Saturday and have their pic taken to be put on socie meeds. They either want to do it to help save the planet or you're making them (that's your business)but why post them on Facebook. If someone else posts your good deed I'd congratulate you, if you do it yourself your a bad meff/desperate for attention.

DS does like to go litter picking, I used to pick up any litter on the school run. Since lockdown and regular family walks he has asked to go litter picking to save animals that might get trapped.

we have someone who knows everything from keeping huskies, to ultra running to plumbing to psychology, to diet methods - you name it, he's the expert. Interestingly I met someone the other week who said she was in the year below him at school and said he was just as much of a know-all then.

We have a similar person (female) who feels the need to comment with a essay or life story lengthy reply on almost every post. Often the reply is only very slightly relevant to the original question

@StrapOnSallyChasedMeDownTheAli

One of the reasons I deleted Face ache.

A couple of years ago a 'friend' gushed with pride all over Faceache that her 3yo DD wanted to donate all of her Christmas present money to charity, about £200 in total that were a collection of gifts from friends and family. The money was donated and the obligatory photos everywhere.

It just felt, off...I'm not really sure why, it seemed a bit exploitative of their child, and giving away something that was meant for her. £200 is a lot of money for a few likes and gushy replies, but I guess when the money wasn't yours in the first place...🤷‍♀️

OMG this is fucking awful. How sad for that little child.

Not only sad for the child, but also very exploitative and sickeningly fucking attention seeking!

@Thorilicious

'To the person who didn't stop at a crossing/honked their horn/scared my child as they drove past....' Yes, I'm sure that person got straight onto Facebook as soon as they got home to see if there was a post about them that they could apologies on 😂

Annoys me too. Chances are high this person will not read this post (or give a shit if they do!)

@NdujaWannaDance

I absolutely HATE it when people use facebook groups as a captive audience for their creative writing attempts. These things should be confined to blogs, so people can choose to follow them or not.

And I hate it when people who do have blogs are constantly posting links to them all over fb groups.

Pisses me right off. It's so attention seeking. If you want to be a writer then get on a be one, but don't spam groups with massive long posts that are all about you and your ego, trying to drum up business and followers.

Argh! I hate this too. On MY small market town facebook page, there's this one man who takes load of photographs, calls himself 'Photography by Dave' or some other twatty name, and posts between 20 and 40 photos a week in batches of 4 or 5.

Pics by the nature reserve, the canal, the river, the woods, daffoldils, poppies, cows etc etc (all half a mile to 2 miles from town.) He photoshops and adds special effects and filters and suchlike, and people rush to say 'OMG these are sooooooooo awesome,' and 'well done mate these are fab,' and 'I have never seen such wonderful photos' blah blah blah...

As I say, they are clearly photoshopped, and filtered (around half of them anyway,) and quite frankly, are no better than the ones me and my DH take around the area. We just don't post every fucking photo we take of red mushrooms, reeds, the canal, field of poppies, trees, cows, ponies, sheep, clouds etc etc etc, on the local facebook page for all the likes and huns and 'OMG that amazing' comments.

And yes, I also hate people putting their poetry and creative writing stuff too. Like, NO-ONE on facebook cares. NO-ONE!