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Getting annoyed at virtue signalling on Facebook local groups

491 replies

Floogal · 28/12/2021 23:13

Ignoring the fussing questions everytime a police helicopter is on patrol or fireworks. Where I live it's usually the same thing. Always along the lines of;

" I've got a lot of old tat but want to donate it to charity"
" I brought the homeless guy on the high street a coffee and had a chat with him"
And, this " how many homeless people are there in town? My (photogenic well dressed) twin daughters want to give out Xmas packages" obviously hoping to appear on the local news or "and finally...' on ITV news. Usually the 'ooooh aren't you wonderful' gushing replies. Gives me the raging arsehole.

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Fallagain · 29/12/2021 11:04

@CrapDrawer

I get annoyed by similar posts and also posts where someone has found a phone/ bank card/ jewellery and posts on FB to find the owner. What if they’re not on FB. Really annoys me. Take to local police station or send bank card to the bank! Always seems to be someone wanting a bit of glory for doing a good deed but not thinking of the best way to actually get an item back to its owner.
Police won’t take found property anymore.

My local Facebook page is all sunsets, dog shit and cycle lanes.

Porcupineintherough · 29/12/2021 11:07

@CrapDrawer

I get annoyed by similar posts and also posts where someone has found a phone/ bank card/ jewellery and posts on FB to find the owner. What if they’re not on FB. Really annoys me. Take to local police station or send bank card to the bank! Always seems to be someone wanting a bit of glory for doing a good deed but not thinking of the best way to actually get an item back to its owner.
YABU about this. Reuniting owners with list wallet/keys/cats/dogs is the only thing our local group is good for. The rest of it is just people sharing thing doorbell footage of Eastern European "suspicious" looking men in the neighbourhood.
Lifeisnteasy · 29/12/2021 11:10

We have lots of ‘OMG saw the police outside the co op, hope everyone’s ok’

Best response I saw was a pic of Norris from Corrie looking round a corner

Walesrecommendations · 29/12/2021 11:10

I'm sure someone's said it but my worst ones are "helped a little old lady who had dropped her shopping in town today, I've been thinking about her ever since and wanted to post to see if she's on here or if anyone knows her and can let me know she's ok?"

Fizbosshoes · 29/12/2021 11:19

Agree @cobblers123 and @Ironingtsunami

We have the same. Always has to be reasonably priced and done within the next week (although I'm never sure what that means as people in our town seem to have unlimited budgets for other stuff, just not for paying local tradespeople!)

Although more often someone needs a birthday cake making - must be exactly like a pic of beautiful but obviously very complicated and time consuming cake - by the end of the week.
Last year someone made a request on Xmas eve that they wanted one by the end of the week! Surely you would know your spouse/parent/child's birthday in advance and organise something before Xmas eve or just buy or order the best you can at the supermarket and have a more celebratory cake in the new year. Confused
IIRC it wasn't for a small child who wouldn't understand the concept of a belated celebration.

CharityDingle · 29/12/2021 11:19

@Lifeisnteasy

We have lots of ‘OMG saw the police outside the co op, hope everyone’s ok’

Best response I saw was a pic of Norris from Corrie looking round a corner

Grin I love it!
OmgIThinkILikeYou · 29/12/2021 11:20

I once found a debit card in a carpark machine. I had seen the guy as I walked over but he was well gone by the time I realised he left his card. I took it and looked out for him for a bit, then called the bank company and reported I had found it and they advised they would call him, let him know and I should destroy the card. Sometimes there isn't a shop you ca hand it in to bit i don't know what good fb would have been.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 29/12/2021 11:26

We get loads of "i've got a load of towels/cat food for the local animal rescue centre but I don't drive so can someone take them up there please"

ginghamstarfish · 29/12/2021 11:29

Saw this done on a grand scale last week, in the pics of the Sussex's Christmas card, with a list of charities they had donated to .... classy!

Lolamento · 29/12/2021 11:41

Woke and VS are not genuine people in most cases. I am leaving a friendship because the person is now too unbearable as a friend. I know this person has serious issues and has spend her life in therapy. For some reason she now seems obsessed with joining the latest fad. Get triggered by little things and it has become very intolerant with people with different views. I do not have time for this level of stupidity. Twitter is her bible and if approved there is gospel. Sad 😔

Gonnagetgoing · 29/12/2021 11:42

@Walesrecommendations

I'm sure someone's said it but my worst ones are "helped a little old lady who had dropped her shopping in town today, I've been thinking about her ever since and wanted to post to see if she's on here or if anyone knows her and can let me know she's ok?"
@Walesrecommendations - when I helped an older lady who’d fallen and dropped shopping 2 years ago (icy weather) I just drove her home and checked a neighbour was in next door to help. Left old lady my number, rang her the next day (she was ok) but didn’t post it on FB! But I’m not one of those who do post this there.
DillonPanthersTexas · 29/12/2021 11:42

I get annoyed with the 'flytipping' posts. People leaving unwanted crap outside their house and asking people to 'help themselves' as if it was some kind of altruistic act rather then the owners not wanting to make a trip to the the dump or pay for a council collection. Seriously, who is going collect your rusted piece of shit broken BBQ or the ripped sofa that has spent a night outside in the rain. Lazy cunts.

Gonnagetgoing · 29/12/2021 11:46

@cobblers123

There are some that make me laugh though, we have an airfield near us that is operational, it houses the coastguard helicopter plus some private planes and a spitfire.

It's been there for ever and was once a naval airstation.

Every now and then there is someone on FB or NextDoor complaining about the noise from the aircraft, especially the spitfire which is quite noisy but is a fabulous sight and many people love to hear and see it.

Cue many replies saying, if you live near an airfield, you must expect noise from aircraft and as the place has been there for so long, they must have known when they bought their house, there would be aircraft noise!

Idiots!

@cobblers123 - we get this a bit - air ambulance (or crime squad) copters park in the parks near us. You can tell by the colour what they do….

There are still some people on local FB page either whinging about the noises of it (do you want criminals to be caught or not or someone hurt or sick to be rescued?!) or lots of virtue signalling and even selfies next to it… the air ambulance one - or as near as they can get. Ghouls.

Fine to walk kids past it but don’t treat it as a fun day out.

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 29/12/2021 11:46

@Smokeahontas

‘Is there a charity I can volunteer with on Christmas Day?’

Because they don’t need them the other 364 days of the year.

Haha, my dad used to volunteer all year round with a homeless charity and it gave him the rage when people did that so you're spot on with that one.

I once shuddered when someone I was dating said it was on their bucket list to help out in a homeless shelter on Xmas day.

WeDontTalkAboutBruno · 29/12/2021 11:49

And let’s not forget the opening of any new takeaway:

“Another? We don’t need another!”
Well if people didn’t use them Simon they wouldn’t stay in business.

“Well I cook my own, I know what is in it then!”
Well done June, but when I get in at 11pm I have neither the time nor inclination to whip up a chop suey.

“It’s all a front for money laundering!”
Really? Do you have any evidence of this? No?

“So that’s where all the cats went har har har”
Oh your such a wit James. Really. Oh no, a Twit.

Then follows thirty replies of “X Takeaway is shit, I use Y” etc etc

LittleRoundRobin · 29/12/2021 11:53

@CoffeeRunner

May I also add the "I haven't sent Christmas cards this year, I have donated the money to the local foodbank/cat rescue etc".

a) why tell anyone? Cards are not obligatory.
b) it's possible to send cards & also give to charity.

This gives me irrational rage and makes me eyes roll into the back of my head. Like, we get it, you can't be fucked to write some Christmas cards out to the people in your life who you profess to like and love (and who have probably sent YOU one.) Just own it, you just can't be fucked to bother.

Ooooo, but the ENVIRONMENT they cry. Probably drive a car, smoke, have kids, use throwaway plastic, have expensive tech/electronic gadgets blah blah blah...' Smug virtue-signalling twats. It doesn't make them better than anyone else because they're not sending Christmas cards!

@Floogal YANBU!!!

I am only on page 1 of this thread. Looking forward to reading the rest! settles in with brunch...

LindaEllen · 29/12/2021 11:54

I think people online are just a bit nuts in general. We sold something on marketplace (and it wasn't something for 50p haha it was a console) and the woman knocked on the wrong house first - next door but one to us. Apparently she had a 'terrifying encounter' with their dog (it does bark loudly to be fair) - but when she got home, she'd taken a photo of our door, and put a post on the town's Facebook page saying don't buy anything from x and y (our full names) at xxxxx (our full address) because their dog bit me and needs putting down.

She knocked at THE WRONG DOOR so it wasn't our dog.
It didn't bite her, just barked.
How fucking dare she post photos of our house and give our details.

We had so many comments on the post slagging us off, saying call the police, agreeing that our dog (which we don't bloody have) needs to be put down. It took a ridiculous about of time to get the group admins to take it down, and they wouldn't allow us to put a clarification post up.

It was shit.

XenoBitch · 29/12/2021 11:55

@WeDontTalkAboutBruno

And let’s not forget the opening of any new takeaway:

“Another? We don’t need another!”
Well if people didn’t use them Simon they wouldn’t stay in business.

“Well I cook my own, I know what is in it then!”
Well done June, but when I get in at 11pm I have neither the time nor inclination to whip up a chop suey.

“It’s all a front for money laundering!”
Really? Do you have any evidence of this? No?

“So that’s where all the cats went har har har”
Oh your such a wit James. Really. Oh no, a Twit.

Then follows thirty replies of “X Takeaway is shit, I use Y” etc etc

Or when someone asks where to get a decent full English breakfast, and most of the replies are "cook your own". Gee thanks, so helpful.
AdobeWanKenobi · 29/12/2021 11:55

One post last night asking what time the local Chinese opened was so spectacularly illiterate that Facebook actually offered a “see translation”underneath.

MrsLargeEmbodied · 29/12/2021 12:01

that is disgusting @LindaEllen

stupid vigilante, totally wrong person

that is what i totally hate about facebook

Spikeyball · 29/12/2021 12:03

I saw a few before Christmas on the local freegle page along the lines of "I am doing a big pre Christmas clear out of toys. I want them to go to a deserving child/ family who can't afford much so can people put down the names of deserving families and I will pm them all and decide who gets them".

There was a mixed response of people saying various charities will take them ( " I want to make sure they go to someone who needs them" as the response) and 'you are so generous babe'

UnRavellingFast · 29/12/2021 12:07

@Lairymary we get similar crap round here- one of the many reasons I left FB. here it’s all about ‘suspicious person, looks Eastern European’. My ex was Eastern European and our dcs obvs part of their heritage. These idiots posting ‘warnings’ about stuff like this are ignorant moronic shits.

cobblers123 · 29/12/2021 12:08

I do burst out laughing at the ones that state they are "fumming or fumin" and my favourite "discusting or disscusstin". It's usually something ridiculously pathetic too that they are so angry/upset about.

It's even funnier when someone picks them up on their spelling, the rage just intensifies.

Facebook, the gift that keeps on giving ...Grin

NdujaWannaDance · 29/12/2021 12:09

“It’s all a front for money laundering!”
Really? Do you have any evidence of this? No?

To be fair, if they insist they only take cash then it probably is.

Like nail bars and hand car washes.

At the very least they are on a tax fiddle.

Even Big Issue sellers take debit cards these days.

ivykaty44 · 29/12/2021 12:13

“It’s all a front for money laundering!”
Really? Do you have any evidence of this? No?

its a good way for criminals to find vulnerable families who are going to be tempted by money or nothing type deals and then find themselves mixed up in county lines type ventures and can't get out

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