Does anybody else not use people's names when speaking to them?

[Maddymorphosis]

Someone pointed out that I do it the other day

I only use names if I want to get their attention for instance if there are a few people in a room or they're part of a different conversation.

I wouldn't say 'Hey Sarah, how are you Sarah' etc.

I might on occasion do it by message but generally I don't use names when I speak to people.

I now feel kind of weird for it and odd, is there anybody else like me ?

Haven't thought about myself but people seem to use my name several times in any conversation!! It's a very unusual name tbh so maybe they just want to use it!!
Except dh - very rarely he says it!! Prob less than 5 times in 9 years!

I probably don't use names unless talking about the named person to someone else. I called my late mother 'mum' all the time though when speaking to her, she was the exception.

I'm more likely not to use gendered pronouns these days cos of the minefield that is, but that's a whole other thread.

I never use people's names in conversations. I thought that only happened in sitcoms?!

Oh this is me. Using people's names makes me so uncomfortable. I have absolutely no idea why. Even my fiance of 6 years.

I don't tend to use people's names to them unless it's really necessary, ie if I need to attract their attention, and I don't really like people using my name as it always makes me jump.

I don't do it. I kind of thought it was a TV show thing, because I don't know anyone who would do that in real life.

I don't know why but I find using people's names really awkward! So no, I don't use them in conversation as a rule

My DH is like this. He almost never uses my name. I am always a bit taken aback when he does say it.

My Dad uses people’s names in conversation all the time and he is not to be trusted - so I’m very skeptics of anyone I meet who does this. It’s weird, a bit slimy and not normal! You are fine OP

I was having a conversation about this the other day as I had to shout downstairs to my DP and I realised its the only time I use his name when speaking directly to him. I find it awkward when people use my name a lot when talking to me.

Use DH name when he's in trouble or in furious fights.
Names only otherwise used in alerting others to a tea round. But I am probably weird, everyone thinks so...

I don't but I had a boss who had clearly been on some sort of course or training where he was told that it was a good thing to do so used to do it endlessly (and pointlessly) in meetings. It used to drive me irrationally mad.

This is so interesting. I have a real complex about people using my name ( completely normal name) unnecessarily in conversation 😂. I'm fine with it being used in a group or to get my attention, but as soon as it's used when there's no need I feel like I'm being told off or like the conversation has taken a serious turn, or like I'm being put on the spot 😂. Please tell me someone feels the same 😅. My husband does it to get a reaction now.

Me! I use my children's names in conversation but not adults, unless I need to get their attention. I find it weird when people add my name to the conversation. To me you are the normal one!

There was a thread about this a little while ago (Nov maybe). I'm 52, it's the first time ever that I realised it's not just me.

Lots of us find it uncomfortable.

It always makes me think of a salesperson who’s been on a course and been told to use first names. I just find it really creepy, especially if you don’t know them very well.

I hate name overusers, they’ve usually been on some ghastly sales course and been told that’s how to build rapport

It’s the sort of thing David Brent does.

I use people's names in their presence all the time. I bumped into an old friend on the street yesterday and said "Hi Jane, how nice to see you" etc etc.

I did once get it wrong, which was a bit awkward but I brushed it off after overthinking it for two years.

I don't generally, though I have found it useful to use just after being introduced to people as it really helps remembering names, which I am otherwise terrible at.

I must say, done right it feels very nice and attentive, though, as has been said, it can come over creepy.

I don't use people's names unless getting their attention. I think some people do it to help them remember a new person's name.

I used to work with someone who would do whole conversations using my (or whoever they were talking to's) name constantly.

Hi, trago! How are you trago? Did you have a good weekend trago? That sounds great trago, I bet you enjoyed that trago! So, trago, have you seen Simon? Oh, hi Simon, I was just asking trago if she'd seen you, Simon! So trago, Simon, the latest project... And on and on and on. Urrgh...

My husband said my name today when he was trying to get my attention, sounded weird as he doesn't often do that. I've heard him saying my name when talking about me to other people but not normally directed at me. I hadn't noticed that until today 😁
We've been together 24 years

It is also something pointed out to me. I don’t do it, reminds me of smarmy sales tactics. I also hate my name so don’t like it when people constantly use my name when speaking to me either.

Oh yeah this is me. I've read about it on here before and I could really relate to those that said that using people's names makes them feel uncomfortable. I don't know why I dislike it so much but I do. It's particularly bad with my MIL and I actually really like her and we get on well, but I just never use her name.

I've kind of learnt to use DH's name occasionally after he mentioned it years ago, but it still makes me feel fake. I always thought this is such an odd issue to have.

Yes, overuse of names is total dodgy car salesmen territory. Why would you use someone's name when you are already talking to them?