Does anybody else not use people's names when speaking to them?

[Maddymorphosis]

Someone pointed out that I do it the other day

I only use names if I want to get their attention for instance if there are a few people in a room or they're part of a different conversation.

I wouldn't say 'Hey Sarah, how are you Sarah' etc.

I might on occasion do it by message but generally I don't use names when I speak to people.

I now feel kind of weird for it and odd, is there anybody else like me ?

I find it a bit patronising/condescending when people do it too much, but I alsp know I do it

My Dad uses people’s names in conversation all the time and he is not to be trusted - so I’m very skeptics of anyone I meet who does this. It’s weird, a bit slimy and not normal!

@Bouncebacker have we got the same dad? Mine is a prodigious so philanderer so maybe. I really hate the name thing.

I’m always worried I’ll get their name wrong - even if I absolutely won’t (because I’ve known them for 20 years…).

My mum’s the opposite. Actually she’s terrible with names and frequently does get them wrong, that’s probably where my paranoia comes from.

I never use other peoples names when in conversation with them. I sometimes cant bring it to mind quickly enough but then again I dont use names much anyway.
I have always marveled at colleagues who round a corner and immediately say ' Hi Titter' when i haven't even realized who it is in front of me.

No I don't, and I think it's very odd. Apart from calling their name to get their attention, or to call them over etc, why would you need to keep saying it? They know their name, there is no need to keep saying it.

I think it sounds condescending and patronising. As a few people have said, it usually comes from middle management who have been on some 'rapport with people' course, or as someone suggested, from smarmy salespeople too...

And sometimes MPs do it. When we had those programmes on TV several years ago with all the Political party leaders on answering questions from audience members, the host would say 'this is Dave.. what's your question Dave...?' And the politician talking to him, would say DAVE every bloody 12th or 13th word! SO annoying and patronising!

I hate it when anyone does it to me I KNOW my fucking name OK?! You do NOT need to keep reminding me FFS.

I'm the same op. I feel really weird calling dh by his name. I usually get his attention by saying, "I say," (in my Yorkshire accent so it's more like, "Ah seh,") or just start talking at him. It's the same with most other people I talk to socially.

It makes me really uncomfortable too, I don't know why.
When people use my name in a convo I always feel like they are pissed off with me for some reason.

@mynameiscalypso

I don't but I had a boss who had clearly been on some sort of course or training where he was told that it was a good thing to do so used to do it endlessly (and pointlessly) in meetings. It used to drive me irrationally mad.

Ditto!! I hate it when sales people do it too

I do it at work all the time, but its a very specific environment (not sales!!) where using people's name's can actually change the dynamics of a situation quite quickly. Because I do it all the time at work, I find myself doing it in social situations as well. However I generally socialise with people I have known for 20+ years, or with people who do the same job as me, and thus understand why I sound like a weirdo!

So glad to know it isn't just me!
I always thought there was something wrong with me for it

People only use my name when I'm in trouble for something.

I'm the same. I also dislike people calling me by my name in conversation too.

I hate saying names or hearing people say my name. I'm autistic, it feels akin to eye contact, so invasive. Back off.

I have noticed the Prime Minister says Mr Speaker continually at PMQ, it's very, very annoying.

I find it quite jarring if my name is used, not sure why. Calling out to me is fine but randomly in conversation feels weird and more like written dialogue.

Eg. “It was such a laugh, FabriqueBelgique!”

I don’t.

My DH cracks me up as when he texts me he writes Jay then signs off David. 🙄

I've been attempting to use other's names in conversation more, to remember them. Too many times in the past I've heard their name once, remembered the conversation, but not the name.

Neighbours moved in a few months ago and the husband, wife and her parents ALL address me by name.

'Hi Hairy, how are you today Hairy?' I could maybe understand if I was in a crowd, but I'm usually on my own, or just with DH. Occasionally my name comes up again, within the conversation. They use my name each and every time we meet!

I assumed at first it was some sales technique to recall someones name, but they still do it months on. I find it so annoying and cringy. No idea why, just seems so unnecessary when I'm the only one there!

There's a sketch think Mitchell and webb.

Party introduced to bloke.

Bloke goes something like.
Nice to meet you Dave! Good party! What line are you in Dave? I'm in sales. Tell you what Dave, I love it. Nothing better than making that sale, Dave! Etc.

After a bit Dave says.
Oh! I get it! You're 'good with people'!
And etc.

I can see if find it..
V funny.
Realised then I've met loads like that at work things!
And I'd been picking it up...
So I've tried to stop.

NO OFFENCE to anyone who is or loves someone who says name in convo,

I'm sure none of them are like this!

Mitchell and webb..

@Maddymorphosis

So glad to know it isn't just me! I always thought there was something wrong with me for it

OP!!!

Watch clip 😁

I am always quite aware of people using my name repeatedly in a conversation, it's often touted as a rapport building/sales technique and seems extremely fake, I just don't really trust people that shoehorn 'Brussel' into every other sentence! It's not how people naturally speak

I only ever do if I'm calling to them say calling othe half to say the bathroom's free, or to check if I have the right person wen phoning. I really don't like it when they're talking to me in conversation. I know what my name is, don't need reminding. And I loathe it when cold callers repeat it when they're droning through the script and do that insert-name-here thing. Especially when they address me as Mrs.

I find it really condescending (high I appreciate is a bit idiotic if me). Has the same effect in me as people starting their sentences with “Look,….”

Other than to get someone's attention I hardly ever call anyone by their name, and definitely not repeatedly in a conversation. I hardly ever use my husband's name; I have loads of pet names for him instead.

I think I'd feel quite awkward if someone used my name a few times in a conversation..