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DP doesn’t like what he ordered, wants half of mine?

257 replies

DietCokeChipsAndMayo · 28/12/2021 21:51

We ordered a takeaway tonight, DP always orders different things, I stick to what I know to avoid this exact scenario

His food has come - he doesn’t like it, he thinks I should half my meal and give it to him as we have sides and it will be enough

It will be enough - but why tf shouldn’t I get my whole meal just because he mis-ordered?!

I told him to order another main and warm up some sides when it gets here, now he’s cutting his nose off to spite his face and says he just won’t eat anything 🙄

Who is BU?

OP posts:
diddl · 29/12/2021 18:18

So if he wants half of your meal, what does he want to happen to his meal that is OK he just doesn't like it as much as what he's had before?

Is there anything that you like & he doesn't that you can order in future when he tries something new?

Fruby · 29/12/2021 18:20

If definitely share with my dp! As he would for me

Goldbar · 29/12/2021 18:21

The only way these people learn is if those around them refuse to let them impose the consequences of their choices on others. A one-off is acceptable, making a habit of it is not.

If you want pudding, order it.
If you want a fish supper, order it.
If you want a side of chips, order it.

If you want to take a risk and be adventurous, do it. But don't come crying to someone else if your choice doesn't work out.

skodadoda · 29/12/2021 18:23

Don’t indulge him, you’ll end up always having to girl in to him.

Somersetlady · 29/12/2021 18:23

I hope this isn’t indicative of your entire relationship!

I’d share but I’d have offered before he had to ask. I’d assume he’d do the same for me.

I’d also have tasted the dish he didn’t like just to see if I did!

BorderlineHappy · 29/12/2021 18:24

@DietCokeChipsAndMayo did you share.
Or did he order something else.

FredtheCatsMum · 29/12/2021 18:25

From what you say, I'm guessing Indian? I would always share anyway, and try to order a balanced meal (vege sides, different meats if you're doing meats, good mix of rice and naan)

Mufasa1118 · 29/12/2021 18:25

Joey doesn't share food!

QueeniesCroft · 29/12/2021 18:40

@Overthinkingx3

Ridiculous that you are married but won’t share a takeaway

And that you always have the same thing each time

You are bU

The OP says "DP", which is partner, not husband. Regardless of that, I don't think she is being U, and as so often happens, I don't think this thread is really just about a takeaway, except in the sense that his behaviour when her order didn't arrive is quite telling.
Sneezesthrice · 29/12/2021 18:41

So he regularly goes off on menu chicanery into New Things safe in the knowledge that if he doesn’t like it he gets to pinch half your ‘safe dinner’ and refuses to eat ANYTHING AT ALL if you won’t give him it.

And when you actually had NO dinner at all because of macdonalds fuck up (nothing to do with bad decisions on your part) he didn’t think to share even a little bit of his dinner with you.

I’m on your side with this one.

QueeniesCroft · 29/12/2021 18:42

@Somersetlady

I hope this isn’t indicative of your entire relationship!

I’d share but I’d have offered before he had to ask. I’d assume he’d do the same for me.

I’d also have tasted the dish he didn’t like just to see if I did!

OP said that she did try his and it was too spicy for her.
Bettyboopawoop · 29/12/2021 18:43

I would share especially if you have plenty of sides.

inheritancetrack · 29/12/2021 18:45

Anyone unwilling to share with their LO is unreasonable. If he ordered something lovely I'm sure you would want a taste. It's normal. This is like the old 'give us a chip' scenario when you don't get one!

Londoncallingme · 29/12/2021 18:45

There’s enough - don’t be greedy - just share.

Butchyrestingface · 29/12/2021 18:46

@inheritancetrack

Anyone unwilling to share with their LO is unreasonable. If he ordered something lovely I'm sure you would want a taste. It's normal. This is like the old 'give us a chip' scenario when you don't get one!
Have you read the thread?

He DID order something a while back and refused to share with OP.

Raspberriesbananas · 29/12/2021 18:47

When this happens the other one shares their meal. It’s what me and DP do anyway.

St0rmTr00per · 29/12/2021 18:52

Assuming this is a rarity and not something he does every single time...I would have automatically offered DH half of mine, as I know he would with me (and as I would do for DC). I would then try some of the dish they didnt like. Lesson learnt and nobody goes hungry.

However YANBU as it is your meal and its your choice. I am like you and order the same thing over and over.

CambsAlways · 29/12/2021 18:53

If there was enough food then yep I’d share but no way I’d give him half of mine 🤣🤣

77kidsandcounting · 29/12/2021 18:54

Hard work! Of course i wouldnt be a greedy bastard

pollymere · 29/12/2021 18:55

If you warned him you wouldn't share, I wouldn't have sympathy if he's ordered food he doesn't like. I'd possibly let him have some of mine with a warning you won't next time. I don't think YABU to share or not share.

TruthHelps80 · 29/12/2021 18:56

Frothy? Great play on the food post 😉
Nope, like I said, I simply can’t get my head around how someone can post this as a problem, that’s it, literally baffles me!!
If it was my other half, I share my food. Simple. As the lady said, “ain’t nobody got time for that”. 😁 🤷🏼‍♀️✌🏼

TruthHelps80 · 29/12/2021 18:58

Haha comment of the day!!!!

Picklypickles · 29/12/2021 18:59

I absolutely fucking hate sharing, not just food anything! I have too much experience of "sharing" actually meaning others just taking the piss.

Having said that, in this situation I probably would have shared with my DP as I know he would happily do the same for me. We very rarely get a takeaway as its a lot of money for us, I'd feel bad sitting there enjoying a meal if he didn't have anything - as long as that was through no fault of his own though!

His mother used to be a nightmare, we lived with her for a while and would get a takeaway about once a month and every single time we'd ask her if she wanted anything and she'd insist she didn't and was going to bed. She'd go off to bed, the food would be delivered and within 5 minutes of us sitting down to eat she'd appear behind us and just start eating food right off our plates, if you protested she'd just give a tinkly laugh and say "oh I only want a nibble".

My friends husband always maintained he didn't like chips. If we ever went to a pub or for a day out at the seaside and the rest of us got chips he wouldn't get any, insisting he hates them but would then have his fingers in everyone's chips and again if you said anything he'd do the same "oh I'm just having a nibble".

PumpkinPickle22 · 29/12/2021 19:01

I’d share mine with my husband. I wouldn’t want him going hungry - he’d do the same for me.
Surely marriage is about putting each other first

midsomermurderess · 29/12/2021 19:04

The guy is selfish, childish and greedy. Bin him off, OP. Make it a New Year to be proud of. Christ, this place really makes them come out of the bloody woodwork. But calling him a bit of a baby when you are the one complaining to strangers on the internet about a bit of takeaway is a bit rich too.