Long story short we’ve been engaged a while and have a child. He will be 1 in the summer. I’ve gone round in circles trying to think what to do about a wedding. My partner is happy to go along with whatever I want but agrees that he doesn’t like the whole formal wedding ceremony, meal, speeches etc either. I think why bother putting ourselves through that for the sake of other people when it’s not what we want and is A LOT of money. We’d like a big party but aren’t really fussed on the during the day part. I hate the idea of everyone’s attention being on me at a formal wedding. My parents live in the country and have a large shed we could use for a party or lots of fields we could do a marquee in.
Tonight I’ve came up with an idea.. we could invite everyone to our little boy’s 1st birthday party, bbq, bouncy castle etc at their farm and when they turn up they realise it’s actually our wedding (as well as his party). Hopefully it would be a nice day and it would all be outside. We’d have bbq food, everyone sitting out in the sun, bouncy castles, lots for children to do and a funfair style feel. Obviously if it was raining it wouldn’t be quite the same 😬 We’d just do the legal part quickly in the morning ourselves or maybe walk down an aisle outside and have a quick humanist bit before it began. At night we could have a party either in a shed or marquee. Really struggling for how else we can actually get married when I’ve had a reason why it wouldn’t work for every possibility so far 🙈 Is this a terrible idea?