No bathroom bin

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If you are at relatives house with no bathroom bins where do you put your used sanitary stuff? I've been wrapping my tampons putting in handbag and putting them in the outside bin. I would always empty the bathroom bin and my periods are very heavy so need changing frequently., SIL isnt menopausal even my dad who lives alone has bathroom bins ??!!

@PinkSparklyPussyCat

It never fails to amaze me how many posters don't seem to understand that peoples circumstances might be different to theirs. In this case you must have room for a bathroom bin, as if no one could have a tiny bathroom.

I was told once that it's not possible for my garden to be 8' wide (the garden for the upstairs flat runs next to mine) and when I was really struggling with WFH I was told everyone had room for a desk, get one that folds against the wall. I don't have a spare wall to attach it to but apparently that's making excuses and I should get rid of my furniture!

So agree with this!

I am lucky in that I do have a space to wfh if I need it, but it's tiny and not really ideal. But I totally understand that different people and different families have different needs and space available

[quote ChristmasyFairy]@tigger1001 You are very good at twisting things.

No one said you had OCD because you had no bin.

It was because you freaked out at the idea of a san pad or tampon with blood on it in a bin inside the house.

If you feel so squeamish over menstrual blood how do you cope with your own? Or is that why you dash to the outside bin to throw it away the minute you change it?

I've lived in numerous places, from being a student, to rank lodgings when I started work. I have never, ever been in a bathroom too small to hold a tiny bin.

As for the poster who says she has a cat litter in her toilet I can't think of anything more gross. Cat poo in your own bathroom? MN is certainly an education into how people live. [/quote]
Me twisting things??? I never freaked out. I said I wouldn't have used sanpro in a bin in the bathroom and I would dispose of it outside. Only on Mumsnet is that considered freaking out.

Hilarious!

As for the poster who says she has a cat litter in her toilet I can't think of anything more gross. Cat poo in your own bathroom? MN is certainly an education into how people live.

This might come as a shock to you but humans also poo in the bathroom. Cat poos or wees (not very often, he usually uses the garden), one of us scoops into a bag that goes into the outside bin. Easy!

Fucking hell, anyone would think I have cat shit piling up in the bathroom!

This reminds me of when I started working at a new restaurant a few years ago, built and masterminded entirely by men. When we started our first day and noticed there were no sanitary bins in the (all gender neutral) toilets, we asked what were and and the customers meant to do during periods, their response, after checking the prices for sanitary bin services was "wait until you get home?".

They installed some a couple of weeks later when there started being bloody pads blocking every toilet.

The idea of going to the outside bin multiple times a day is just wild to me. Having to put shoes on and off multiple times a day. And if its bad weather - I'm in a cold country, its been fucking freezing lately so going outside in -20 multiple times a day would be insane. And are you putting the rubbish in a plastic bag each time or just chucking it in the wheelie bin loose to possibly get loose when the bin men tip it into the bin lorry? Both options are not great. And what do you do if you need to change a tampon in the night? (even with a cup I have to empty it during the night on the heaviest night, when I used tampons I had to change twice during the heaviest night) Going outside would wake me right up and I'd never get back to sleep!

OK, OK, so besides the sanpro stuff that everyone seems to walking about with in their pockets til they find a kitchen bin (fucking weird), what do you do with used condoms late at night? Are they in your pyjama pocket or on your bedside table til the morning?

@Youdoyoutoday

OK, OK, so besides the sanpro stuff that everyone seems to walking about with in their pockets til they find a kitchen bin (fucking weird), what do you do with used condoms late at night? Are they in your pyjama pocket or on your bedside table til the morning?

Don't use condoms.

What about visitor’s condoms?

@tigger1001 well I have to, not going back on the pill for love nor money!

@sparklingbrook eww yes!! Though my house is definitely not big enough to accommodate shagging guests! 🤣

@Sparklingbrook

What about visitor’s condoms?

That would raise a lot more questions in this house other than do you have a bathroom bin!!! 😂😂

@CoffeeRunner

We have a bathroom bin & I don't even have periods!

Where do you put your used cotton wool balls, cotton buds & loo roll inners?

San Pro belongs absolutely anywhere bar the kitchen IMO. I'd way rather a smelly bathroom bin than a smelly kitchen!

Exactly this ⬆️

I said I wouldn't have used sanpro in a bin in the bathroom and I would dispose of it outside. Only on Mumsnet is that considered freaking out.

That is quite high on the 'unusual approach to sanpro disposal' scale, I feel.

*No one said you had OCD because you had no bin.

It was because you freaked out at the idea of a san pad or tampon with blood on it in a bin inside the house.

If you feel so squeamish over menstrual blood how do you cope with your own? Or is that why you dash to the outside bin to throw it away the minute you change it?*

Well lots of the posters who have bathroom bins seem to also be squeamish about menstrual blood and freak out at the prospect of it being in a kitchen bin, or in their pockets/bags, even when wrapped or in a nappy bag, they seem horrified at the thought of walking through the house with wrapped used pads/tampons, doing so is seemingly grim, minging, horrific, disgusting and undignified 🤷‍♀️

It is undignified, and it sends a message that menstruating is an unacceptable thing to experience, not an ordinary, everyday part of life that requires appropriate measures to deal with it in a way that allows women and girls to be comfortable. It harkens back to the days when periods were unmentionable. My mum went to a boarding school where the girls were expected to supply all of their own (cloth) napkins and wash and dry them in a cold wash-house away from the school building, and this failure to acknowledge periods and provide a convenient place to dispose of sanpro reminds me of that.

It's rude and unfeeling, and I feel very much an indication of internalised misogyny to make women and girls carry bloody items through a house. Not everyone has a pocket or a handbag to put a bloody item in, and not everyone relishes the prospect of blood leaking from a tampon into clothes or a bag. Some girls and women have heavy periods and completely soak their sanpro.

This isn't about being squeamish around menstrual blood traversing various rooms of a house. It's an effort to provide a convenience for menstruating women and girls who live with you or visit. It's a sensible way to acknowledge the needs of women and girls in your house.

But given that it’s an ordinary everyday part of life, why the awkwardness around disposing of the used items? Shouldn’t it be similar to dumping used tissues, nobody bats an eyelid at snot-filled tissues being in the kitchen bin. Saying they can only be disposed of in the bathroom bin for reasons of comfort and dignity and using words like ‘forced to parade through the house carrying leaking tampons’ (am paraphrasing from a number of posters) sounds very much like telling women this is shameful and needs to be hidden.

@sammylady37 not everyone feels like this though. My in-laws don't have a bathroom bin but my MIL would be absolutely mortified if she caught me putting a tampon in the kitchen bin- I mean- what if the menfolk found it?

After I had given birth to my first she quietly told me that she had put the pack of maternity pads I had left on the bathroom window sill in the cupboard under the stairs (I of course took them out again because what use are they there?)

not everyone feels like this though

Well, clearly. But attitudes are never going to change if expecting people to walk through a house carrying used pads which are securely wrapped or in a bag is considered akin to torture, such is the way it’s described on here.

Societal attitudes to menstruation do need to change, but we won’t achieve that by forcing embarrassed 9 year old girls to carry used pads to the kitchen bin in their friends’ houses.

[quote limitedperiodonly]@Bluntness100 My family and friends understand that none of us wants body fluids in our bathroom bins. None of us goes in for passive aggressive notes or anything cocky like that. That's why I know you and I could never be friends.[/quote]
Christ, some people are having weird conversations with their friends!

We have a bathroom bin, which people are welcome to put any rubbish in they like, bodily fluid-containing items included!

Heck, you can even help yourself to tampons / liners from the bathroom cabinet if necessary. And / or a nappy bag to put your used pad / tampon into before binning it (or just wrap it in loo roll).

Of course I have a bathroom bin, I'm not some kind of weirdo

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[quote Smorgasborb]@FrangipaniBlue

Me "where's your bin?"
Friend "normal or recycling?"
Me "normal, I just have some rubbish to go in it"
Friend "it's over there in the corner"

Can people literally not walk through a room without being accosted by family/friends and interrogated about where they are going and what they are doing?

Well no in my in my MIL house ... she guards the kitchen 24/7 like a sphinx. Any attempt to enter would be thoroughly cross examined
MIL: where are you going? Do you want a drink? Shall I make you a sandwich?
Me: oh I just need to use the bin?
MIL: the bin? Well what is it dear?
Me: oh just bathroom rubbish
MIL: is it paper or card or plastic? The council are very funny about the bins you know and Kathleen told me she had a telling off because she put a milk carton in the normal bin and she's worried the council tax will go up now I told her to go to Watchdog but I don't think she will because she doesn't watch the BBC.
Me: oh neither really, it's just usual bin stuff
MIL: oh dear well give it to me and John will have a look and decide
Me: JUST GET A FUCKING BATHROOM BIN!! [/quote]
Or you could just say "Marge it's a used tampon that there was nowhere else to dispose of as you don't have a bathroom bin so for the love of god woman step aside!"

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Menstrual cups solve everything

@Natty13

This

it feels so undignified to have to carry bloody sanpro in a bag trying not to be spotted go outside and put in the outdoor bin while trying to pretend not to be doing anything.

And this

Why should we have to hide periods in the 21st century

Don't exactly match up, do they? We don't have a bathroom bin and I don't have to make it some secret mission to dispose of my tampons in the kitchen bin. If someone sees what I'm doing, I couldn't care less. It's 2021, most people who would be in my house either have had periods at some point in their life or live with someone who has. We all know periods happen, it's natural and a fact of life.

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