To be really confused and ‘meh’ by these gifts

[Postyisalwaystired]

I know this sounds spoilt. It’s more that I’m confused more than anything. Bought my mum a lovely necklace, her favourite chocolates and fudge, a key ring from my DS and lots of other personalised things. I was given a small foot stool (?), a throw for my sofa and a wax melt burner. I feel a bit gutted as my sister got a brand new camera plus lots of other nice bits. I just feel like no thought went into the gifts for me? I’m 26... these gifts seem a bit odd. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, just confused

Sounds nice to me. Does your sister have kids? If not maybe she spends the equivalent amount to the camera etc on your and your son

They sound like lovely presents

They are nice don’t get me wrong. It’s just everyone got individual gifts including my DP, but I got stuff for the house, which doesn’t feel very personal.

My sister does not have kids, nope

Maybe your sister told her what she wanted?
Did your mum ask what you would like to have?
Is your sister single or been down lately?
Maybe your mum though she needen a pick-me-up?
(IF she’s alone i mean, since have your partner and a son.)

You're being fussy from my pov.

A foot stool??? What person in their 20’s wants that?? She’s not a nana. Did you actually ask for anything or give any suggestions? I’m guessing your sister asked for a camera.

I think they sound lovely. What would you have liked instead?

I would also feel a bit weirded out by that OP - I can completely understand your feelings these are for your house, not you as a person.
You'll always get loads of folk piling on to say you are selfish blah blah in fact I feel some just lurk on MN on Christmas Day to be mean because they are unhappy in themselves.
But I agree they are not very personal gifts compared to your sister.

I think you gave your mum way to many presents. One or two things plus some chocolates would be plenty, in my view.

As for the foot stool, a throw for the sofa and a wax melt burner - it seems to me that your mum was trying to gift you things to facilitate a comfortable way of chilling out: put your feet up, wrap up warm and smell some nice incense. What's wrong with that?

Did you ask for something specific and she then ignored what you wanted? Or did you not tell her anything you wanted? The gifts sound practical.

I'm going against the grain here. I think a footstool for someone of 26 is really odd.

I'm 73 and I think I'd be a bit wtf if someone gave me a footstool as a Christmas gift.

Likewise a throw for the sofa and a wax melt? All a bit boring tbh.

I'm going against the flow and agree with OP.

I'm 46 and bought myself a footstool earlier in the year.....I love it!

What present would you have preferred?

I had a footstool for Christmas a few years ago. I had wanted one. I loved it and still use it.

Personally, I think your gifts are fine, but you feel how you feel I guess.

I’m with OP, they are bizarre Christmas gifts. I’d hate to be given the wax melts burner and footstool for Christmas, the throw would be ok if it was a nice one.

Maybe you need to be more direct with your mum. And/or back off on gifts for her and spoil yourself a bit more.

I would much prefer the gifts you received to the ones you gave her, tbh.

I feel like I’d need to see these presents to judge. I can imagine well-designed and upmarket throws and oil burners being rather indulgent, whereas the same items from Next or Tesco Home would clearly not be in the same league as a camera. I’m struggling to imagine the footstool at all tbh.

She’s recently read about hygge and thought that you needed items to help you relax maybe?

@Bussinbussin

I would much prefer the gifts you received to the ones you gave her, tbh.

This is what I was thinking!

I get you op. I've had very nice candles from ddad for Xmas, technically a couple present. I don't burn candles, I haven't been a candle kind of person since my early 20s, I'm nearly 40. DS got identical. Last Yr it was a case and oil burner, and vase was quite personal taste. Year before was cups. Always same as DSis. There's nothing in it about me, just what you might buy women in their 30s

Is there a back story @Postyisalwaystired? In my case my Dsis is GoldenTits and I'm the Black Sheep I don't kiss up to my DM like Dsis does cos I don't need her to financially support me Or is it just lack of thought?

You got her chocolates and a keyring...think what she got you is nicer tbh

Op I would rather have had that tbh than what i received off my dm but I'm in my mid 30's with 2 young dc!
I put so much thought into her gifts getting her good quality items that she likes and can use. She got me gifts suitable for a teenager: sparkly compact, tarnished ring and bracelet set, a nother fashion ring but clunky and not my taste, she knows u don't gp anywhere to wear this stuff aswell! And yet nother rinestone keyring (I have 50+ of these things)! I honestly just wish she would get a massive bottle of my fav bubble bath or one really nice item that is my taste than all of the tat. I feel disappointed as she keeps saying she knows me yet she doesn't at all.

I don't go*

@Divebar2021

A foot stool??? What person in their 20’s wants that?? She’s not a nana. Did you actually ask for anything or give any suggestions? I’m guessing your sister asked for a camera.

My husband has always had a footstool, his parents had it made to match the rest of the 3 piece suite + curtains and it is awful mid-80s brown swirly corduroy.

The sofa, chairs and curtains are LONG gone but DH uses it daily and won't get rid - he moans if he cants sit with his feet up.