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Help! I've got Covid and I'm stuck in a hotel

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medusawashere · 22/12/2021 11:26

I travelled to Plymouth for Christmas and did all the right stuff. I'm double jabbed, booster booked for early Jan and have been doing lateral flow tests every day to stay safe and protect others.

This morning, I woke up coughing, sneezing and with chest pains and my LF is positive.

I'm stuck in a hotel with no way of getting home! I live in Bournemouth and my fiance (who was going to meet me Christmas Eve) has also tested positive.

Does anyone have any bright ideas or am I stuck in a hotel room for ten days? I'm devastated. I just want to go home :(

OP posts:
Doubledoorsontogarden · 22/12/2021 13:19

You need to get someone to pick you up, book a pcr test for where you live? What time does your boyfriend finish work?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 22/12/2021 13:19

Unless of course completely empty coach

icedcoffees · 22/12/2021 13:20

@Frauhubert

Honestly, if the fiancé only half tried to explain to his manager what the situation is, i am 300% sure they wouldn’t bat an eyelid, especially now, when everything is winding down. Plus, if he is very new, he can’t be THAT important and irreplaceable for ONE day, to quite literally rescue his stranded fiancee
For the millionth time, he has COVID too. He shouldn't be leaving the house!
Abraxan · 22/12/2021 13:20

OP, you don't say but is your DF particularly ill with covid?

I know you say work is a concern as he is new, but if it is just work he could get you after work.

Yes, he has covid, but if not particularly unwell, the risk of him driving there and back to get you s fairly low to other people.

The chances of getting a flat tyre or breakdown is probably extremely low, depending on your cars. I have had one flat type is over 25 years of driving and broken down twice, with with the same older car which had a fault.

Chance of accident is still very low. Most people don't have accidents regularly, after all. If that happened then he would need to inform everyone he called or needed support from that he had covid, wear a mask and take other precautions.

Petrol - google which services/local petrol stations have contactless payment. Many do now. He then can wear the plastic gloves to dispense and pay at the pump.

Toilet stop - i wouldn't ordinarily suggest such a thing, but he could take a bottle or stop and have a wee in the bushes at the back of a service station or similar en route.

Food/drink - take with him.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/12/2021 13:21

@gogohm

Alternatively go now, double mask stand in the bit between the carriage with the window open. Needs must
You have trains with windows that OPEN??
Grimchmas · 22/12/2021 13:21

"But if she doesn't get the train, she will be stuck there over Christmas! I doubt many on this thread would give up Christmas with their family's just because they have an illness"

Again, I think you'll find most of us would be willing to miss Christmas with our families, if we had covid.

HalfTermHalfTerm · 22/12/2021 13:21

@Idontgiveaf324

But if she doesn't get the train, she will be stuck there over Christmas! I doubt many on this thread would give up Christmas with their family's just because they have an illness. I'd definitely get the train home. It's just one of those things where you have to be selfish. Okay, it's not great but what's the alternative?
Well the simple alternative would have been to not go and stay in a hotel far away from home, just before Christmas when you know that if you test positive for covid then you have to self isolate for 10 days.

Fortunately the OP isn’t as self-centred as you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Idontgiveaf324 · 22/12/2021 13:21

I think if you get the train you run the risk of there being people with Covid on it though? So I wouldn’t expect a vulnerable person to be on the train really 🤷‍♀️
I just think that if it was me, nothing could stand in the way of me getting home for Christmas.

BungleandGeorge · 22/12/2021 13:23

I’d just self isolate at the hotel (let them know). How long where you meant to be staying? You have relatives nearby who can help with food drop offs etc. Your bf shouldn’t really be doing a 6 hour round trip with covid (possibly more as it will be busy), what happens when he needs the loo? He definitely shouldn’t be doing it if he feels unwell.

SilverHairedCat · 22/12/2021 13:23

@sleepingstandinguo yes we still have the slam door trains running through Devon and Cornwall.

crazycatgal · 22/12/2021 13:24

People suggesting getting the train are absolute arseholes. Luckily the OP is a decent human and doesn't want to get on a packed train and spread covid to others.

If your DF has mild covid then he should come and get you. If he is worried about work then surely he can set off when he finishes? If he does that then you are highly unlikely to come into contact with others.

DixieSun · 22/12/2021 13:24

@gogohm

Alternatively go now, double mask stand in the bit between the carriage with the window open. Needs must
Definitely don't do this FFS.

My DH is a train driver and it's bad enough anyway this time of year let alone with people knowingly travelling with covid.

hibbledibble · 22/12/2021 13:24

So sorry to hear this. I don't see what option you have currently other than staying put in the hot, if there is no one to drive you home. If you put a post on the local Facebook group I'm sure kind hearted people would bring you supplies. Do also let the hotel know, so that you don't endanger housekeeping.

Lovemusic33 · 22/12/2021 13:25

You do should collect you, it’s not a huge journey, as long as he doesn’t stop anywhere it should be fine, it’s probably the safest way to get you home as you won’t have to infect anyone else. He’s being selfish not collecting you.

If he won’t collect you then you will need to stay put 😢

PineappleRisotto · 22/12/2021 13:28

Do not marry a man who refuses to come and get his ill and stranded fiancée at Christmas time. He is well enough to wfh, he is well enough to come and get you

That really doesn't follow. My relative worked from home whilst feeling really crap. Weak and headachey and snotty. Slept through lunch break and finished early. But got some work done. The man has covid too, people are forgetting. But his fiancée expects him to turn out and do a 6 hour round trip when chances are he feels worse than her. It works both ways.

WutheringHeights66 · 22/12/2021 13:32

Someone getting the train with covid last Friday is why I’ve now been pinged and am waiting the results of a PCR - don’t get the train!

JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:32

My DH is a train driver and it's bad enough anyway this time of year let alone with people knowingly travelling with covid

? How would your DH get covid (or anything else)? The cab is separate to the rest of the train. There may be a risk to the guard, but they haven't been doing the rounds as much since the pandemic started.

it’s not a huge journey I think six hours is a huge journey!

Cocomarine · 22/12/2021 13:33

@itsgettingwierd

Agree about getting home and asking someone to take you.

But I'd also be re considering marrying someone who won't put me first in this situation and pick me up.

You should come before a job.

I disagree that collecting your girlfriend should come higher than your means of paying your rent and food! So I wouldn’t judge him for not grabbing his keys immediately… But, it’s only 6 hours round trip, he should be collecting you after work. As I posted before, I very much doubt he’s “too ill” as if that was the case you’d have told us that, not that he doesn’t want to leave work.
catgirl1976 · 22/12/2021 13:33

I honestly cannot believe people are suggesting the OP get on a train.

Or that someone other than her DP (who does have COVID) comes and collects her.

OP I hope your partner is well enough to come and get you in a car and you can have Christmas together but you cannot get on public transport or in a car with someone who is negative. You really can't

JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:33

He’s being selfish not collecting you

yes so selfish refusing to do a six hour round drive when he's ill and could have an accident and kill people that way instead.

Seriously people on this thread! Are you really this stupid or just playing at it?

JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:34

only 6 hours round trip

only ?

Oh my goodness.

Cocomarine · 22/12/2021 13:35

@JuergenSchwarzwald

My DH is a train driver and it's bad enough anyway this time of year let alone with people knowingly travelling with covid

? How would your DH get covid (or anything else)? The cab is separate to the rest of the train. There may be a risk to the guard, but they haven't been doing the rounds as much since the pandemic started.

it’s not a huge journey I think six hours is a huge journey!

Its certainly long, but I wouldn’t say it’s huge in the circumstances because 6 hours is short enough to fit into a collection setting off after work and still being able to get back at a time that doesn’t massively impact your sleep time before the next day. It’s a ballache, sure - but it’s a very “do-able” time.
icedcoffees · 22/12/2021 13:36

@Abraxan

OP, you don't say but is your DF particularly ill with covid?

I know you say work is a concern as he is new, but if it is just work he could get you after work.

Yes, he has covid, but if not particularly unwell, the risk of him driving there and back to get you s fairly low to other people.

The chances of getting a flat tyre or breakdown is probably extremely low, depending on your cars. I have had one flat type is over 25 years of driving and broken down twice, with with the same older car which had a fault.

Chance of accident is still very low. Most people don't have accidents regularly, after all. If that happened then he would need to inform everyone he called or needed support from that he had covid, wear a mask and take other precautions.

Petrol - google which services/local petrol stations have contactless payment. Many do now. He then can wear the plastic gloves to dispense and pay at the pump.

Toilet stop - i wouldn't ordinarily suggest such a thing, but he could take a bottle or stop and have a wee in the bushes at the back of a service station or similar en route.

Food/drink - take with him.

That's all irrelevant - he still shouldn't going anywhere within his isolation period. Test and Trace are still checking up on people - maybe he doesn't want to risk getting caught and fined?
JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:36

Thankfully there are plenty of us who would just get on with it because we understand that getting on a train with known covid is an awful thing to do to other people and would likely have far reaching ramifications for other people

Well naturally that's what you say. What you would actually do in this situation is almost certainly quite different. Virtue signalling is the MN national sport.

snufflebuns · 22/12/2021 13:37

Just get the train with a mask on and don't sit near anyone else.

Plenty of others will be doing and it's more important you get home.