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Help! I've got Covid and I'm stuck in a hotel

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medusawashere · 22/12/2021 11:26

I travelled to Plymouth for Christmas and did all the right stuff. I'm double jabbed, booster booked for early Jan and have been doing lateral flow tests every day to stay safe and protect others.

This morning, I woke up coughing, sneezing and with chest pains and my LF is positive.

I'm stuck in a hotel with no way of getting home! I live in Bournemouth and my fiance (who was going to meet me Christmas Eve) has also tested positive.

Does anyone have any bright ideas or am I stuck in a hotel room for ten days? I'm devastated. I just want to go home :(

OP posts:
BringMeTea · 22/12/2021 13:37

Glad you are not planning on getting on public transport. That is great. I hope you sort something out. I will say your df, if well enough, should be prioritizing coming to get you. Please do think about that before marrying him. Flowers

WildFlowerBees · 22/12/2021 13:37

@Idontgiveaf324

OP, I reckon you will be fine with getting the train. Just sit next to the window. It probably won't even be that busy now anyway. That's what I would do anyway. Just think how shit it would be if you didn't have Christmas at home - I'd be gutted.

When was the last time you went on a train? Plymouth trains are usually rammed and the windows don't open.

icedcoffees · 22/12/2021 13:37

@JuergenSchwarzwald

He’s being selfish not collecting you

yes so selfish refusing to do a six hour round drive when he's ill and could have an accident and kill people that way instead.

Seriously people on this thread! Are you really this stupid or just playing at it?

Some people on here seem to enjoy jumping on threads just to slam people's partners.

Because telling OP while she's unwell and feeling shit that her fiancé is a selfish dick that she shouldn't marry is apparently really helpful, even though by helping her, he'd be knowingly breaking the law and risking a fine himself!

Ormally · 22/12/2021 13:38

@TheOldLadyOfThreadneedleStreet

Well the train my DH got to work this am had about 10 people on it and was 9 carriages long. It was a commuter train into Paddington, usually heaving, 45 minute journey.
In London, where most of those will have been WFH for a week, and still getting covid positives right now. Unless it goes to Plymouth , not really a good benchmark.
Gatekeeper · 22/12/2021 13:38

I would do another couple of flow tests. Its not certain you do have Covid esp with a faint line. I've had several false positives

Vapeyvapevape · 22/12/2021 13:38

@JuergenSchwarzwald they could split the journey , 3 hours there tonight, sleep at the hotel and 3 hours back in the morning. It really is doable.

BringMeTea · 22/12/2021 13:39

So many selfish fuckers around. Sad really. Thankfully OP isnt one of them.

SquirtleSquad · 22/12/2021 13:40

@snufflebuns

Just get the train with a mask on and don't sit near anyone else.

Plenty of others will be doing and it's more important you get home.

More important than what? Risking others?
JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:40

Its certainly long, but I wouldn’t say it’s huge in the circumstances because 6 hours is short enough to fit into a collection setting off after work and still being able to get back at a time that doesn’t massively impact your sleep time before the next day. It’s a ballache, sure - but it’s a very “do-able” time

Maybe at the height of summer. Not in winter when it's dark by 4pm and possibly icy etc. Not that I would do it in summer either - doing that much driving when you are unwell is very unwise.

JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:40

[quote Vapeyvapevape]@JuergenSchwarzwald they could split the journey , 3 hours there tonight, sleep at the hotel and 3 hours back in the morning. It really is doable.[/quote]
That might work if the OP's partner was well. But he's not.

Chasingaftermidnight · 22/12/2021 13:43

I can’t believe anyone would actually get the train. And no, it isn’t virtue signalling to say that. I really can’t believe anyone would do it. Thankfully the OP isn’t one of them.

Toddlerteaplease · 22/12/2021 13:44

When I had covid I would not have felt up to a 6 hour round trip drive. And I wasn't very poorly with it. People are being very unfair on her fiancé.

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 22/12/2021 13:44

@logsonlogsoff

Op, There’s not. Person on here who wouldn’t just go and get the train rather than spend a week in a hotel room alone.
Arent you lovely... Are you always this self serving... and stuff everyone else...

These people would spread covid and indirectly kill people...

Speak for yourself.... I hope i don't come across you irl..
As you could kill me and my close relatives.

Vapeyvapevape · 22/12/2021 13:45

The op’s fiancé said he didn’t want to pick her up because he’s in a new job, not because he’s too unwell.

Abraxan · 22/12/2021 13:45

That's all irrelevant - he still shouldn't going anywhere within his isolation period. Test and Trace are still checking up on people - maybe he doesn't want to risk getting caught and fined?

Well technically the OP can leave isolation to get home, if need be, right now. It is one of the exemptions iirr.
Surely doing it this way is far better than any of the alternatives put forward so far.

She may not be able remain in the hotel for a range of reasons.
That will be down to the hotel's decision.
They may not be even serving food over Christmas, so staying may be an option.

bumblefeline · 22/12/2021 13:46

Hope you manage to find a solution OP.

Please don't advise her to travel on a train. My DH is a train driver and quite often travels on the trains as a passenger. He was severely ill with Covid last year and now he has it again.

There won't be many drivers left to drive the trains soon.

Abraxan · 22/12/2021 13:48

That might work if the OP's partner was well. But he's not.

Has the OP clarified this?
Having covid doesn't necessarily mean he is unwell.
The main reason for not collecting, based on the OP's follow up posts, was work rather than illness. I am sure if he was so ill he was in bed, etc it would have been mentioned in the posts surely?

Cocomarine · 22/12/2021 13:49

@Toddlerteaplease

When I had covid I would not have felt up to a 6 hour round trip drive. And I wasn't very poorly with it. People are being very unfair on her fiancé.
We can only go off what OP says 🤷🏻‍♀️

There’s a distinct lack of, “my fiancé says he’ll come as soon as he feels OK. But I’m worried it could be several days.” Or “my fiancé feels really guilty but I’ve had to reassure him it’s not his fault - he’s racking his brains for solutions.”

diddl · 22/12/2021 13:49

@Vapeyvapevape

The op’s fiancé said he didn’t want to pick her up because he’s in a new job, not because he’s too unwell.
Which is surely a good enough reason anyway?

I wouldn't expect someone to take time from a new job because I travelled to be close by to someone who I wouldn't actually be seeing!

Joystir59 · 22/12/2021 13:49

Just go home asap.

SoupDragon · 22/12/2021 13:50

But he isn't too ill to drive. Op has said he won't because he is in a new job

She also said he is unwell.

Cocomarine · 22/12/2021 13:52

@medusawashere

Fiance is unwell and has to work from home. He is refusing to drive here
This is all we really know about the fiancé. Even the worry about bang new in the job is OP saying she thinks it’s that. So if he’s not even said that, sounds like OP is consciously or subconsciously trying to make excuses for him.

Language very interesting and often very telling.

She said he’s REFUSING.
Not, he can’t, or, he’s not able,
But refusing.

Joystir59 · 22/12/2021 13:52

Trains aren't all packed. Get on a train and go home. Double mask. Dose yourself up with loads of cold meds.

Cocomarine · 22/12/2021 13:53

@Joystir59

Just go home asap.
Thank god you’re here! I think OP is asking how though? Can you maybe chip in on that?
JuergenSchwarzwald · 22/12/2021 13:53

Just because you are well enough to work from home does not mean you are well enough to do a 6 hour round trip (or 3 hours, stay overnight and 3 hours back). I can easily sit behind a computer for my allotted hours and do some work if I feel grotty, but not be grotty enough to stay in bed by a long way. It's a very long way from hiding behind a computer screen with a lemsip to feeling well enough to do a long drive (and I do think 6 hours is a long way, even if most of you on here think it's easy - somehow I doubt that too, most women let their menfolk do most of the driving so you wouldn't know what a six hour drive is like).

If he doesn't want to do it because he's in a new job, I can also understand that, we know some employers are arseholes.